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 Posted: Tue Jul 12, 2005 7:40 am
I hope no one minds me posting this, but I just want to know something real fast.
I am a bisexual teen in a family full of christians. None the less, Roman Catholics. sad And my dilema is that on top of being bi, wich is my well kept secret, I dress in full boy ensemble despite being a girl. But I find it hard to keep that part under wraps. And I don't know wether I should come out to my family about both. Or push the limits and see what happens. I am just worried about the whole reaction. Can anyone give me some advice?
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Posted: Tue Jul 12, 2005 12:29 pm
Ouch, Catholics . . . Are they the devout kind? If they are, I'd keep it wraped up as long as I could . . .
If they aren't, just come out. They are your family.
And as I posted in another thread, bisexuals are the perfect balance of chemicals. If you lean towards one sex, you have an inbalance towards that chromosome. When it's both, it's perfectly balanced.
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Posted: Tue Jul 12, 2005 6:46 pm
Actually, aren't Catholics more likely to be okay with it than most Christians?
The important thing, though, is your particular family. I don't know what to tell you, except good luck with whatever you decide.
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Posted: Tue Jul 12, 2005 7:48 pm
This is a really hard one... Person I'd go ask BakaTulip... I think she would have the best adivce on this one.
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Posted: Tue Jul 12, 2005 8:54 pm
My familly is the same way, Roman Catholics, but I am bi and I am Pagan!! Ouch. I'm keeping mine a secret until I move out, only 2 more years...
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Posted: Tue Jul 12, 2005 9:26 pm
Well, to begin with, I know quite a bit about Catholisism and homosexuality. They believe that it is "intrinsicly disordered," or basically unnatural to be gay. However, they are so generous as to decide that the person is not bad, but the acts of being gay are. People who are gay are expected to be celibate just like everbody else, though they have an additional "cross to carry" as they must deal with the temptations. So basically a "Sucks for you, and you're not gettin any!" xD
Anyway. So if they're true to the Church's perspective they should theoretically support you and try to make you "normal," but in a nice way. It differs with every one though. My family converted to Catholisism (god knows why...) and we went through classes and all that jazz, but my parents call themselves caffeteria Catholics, where they pick and choose what they want to believe in. My mother has a gay friend from high school and they're still close, so generally my parents took it extremely well. Yours may not, but you should have some kind of idea as to how they'd react. It also depends on how egar you are to tell them. Is it really, really important that they know? Can it wait until you're sure if their reaction, or your out of the house? It all kind of depends; there's no real sure fire answer.
As for the dressing like a boy part, eh. It doesn't really seem like a big deal to tell your parents. I mean obviously they'll see how you dress occasionally, right? o.O I personally wear boy-shorts all the time and me parents don't care. What you wear is an expression of who you are, and who you are may upset your parents. I'd say wear what you want and if/when they object, calmly explain your rationing and even if fights occur, life moves on. ^_^
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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2005 6:58 am
Ah, thank you very much. The only person that knows is my dad, and I was stuck on it because he and his new wife are on the whole "we can fix you!" train. But I think I know what I am going to do now. Thank you very much ^_^
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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2005 8:42 pm
Glad to help ^_^
Good luck with your dad >>
But hey, you're the same age as me, and in a year, much less parental...interfearance biggrin
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Posted: Thu Jul 14, 2005 5:26 pm
BerylAlexandros Actually, aren't Catholics more likely to be okay with it than most Christians? The important thing, though, is your particular family. I don't know what to tell you, except good luck with whatever you decide. But the Catholics were the ones who denounced gay marriage weren't they? Even though I'm a straight-y and thus have no experience, I trust in family to accept children for who they are and what they are. I say go at your own pace with things...drop hints if you will and test the water...
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Posted: Thu Jul 14, 2005 10:15 pm
State_Street_Chic Ah, thank you very much. The only person that knows is my dad, and I was stuck on it because he and his new wife are on the whole "we can fix you!" train. But I think I know what I am going to do now. Thank you very much ^_^ Yay. I'm glad that you have some kind of idea of what your going to do. Hope it all turns out good.
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Posted: Fri Jul 15, 2005 11:04 pm
State_Street_Chic Ah, thank you very much. The only person that knows is my dad, and I was stuck on it because he and his new wife are on the whole "we can fix you!" train. But I think I know what I am going to do now. Thank you very much ^_^ Good for you ^_^ ((I also hate the "We can fix you" train <_< >_> ))
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Posted: Sat Jul 16, 2005 10:51 pm
Fadia Stalyr BerylAlexandros Actually, aren't Catholics more likely to be okay with it than most Christians? The important thing, though, is your particular family. I don't know what to tell you, except good luck with whatever you decide. But the Catholics were the ones who denounced gay marriage weren't they? Even though I'm a straight-y and thus have no experience, I trust in family to accept children for who they are and what they are. I say go at your own pace with things...drop hints if you will and test the water... Oh yeah, Catholics totally denounce gay marriage. But...ehh. There are definitly some Protestant groups more accepting, though there are many less accepting as well.
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2005 1:46 am
rurica Fadia Stalyr BerylAlexandros Actually, aren't Catholics more likely to be okay with it than most Christians? The important thing, though, is your particular family. I don't know what to tell you, except good luck with whatever you decide. But the Catholics were the ones who denounced gay marriage weren't they? Even though I'm a straight-y and thus have no experience, I trust in family to accept children for who they are and what they are. I say go at your own pace with things...drop hints if you will and test the water... Oh yeah, Catholics totally denounce gay marriage. But...ehh. There are definitly some Protestant groups more accepting, though there are many less accepting as well. The whole Christian concept gives me a headache! While I admit I am a prideful Lutheran, why can't everybody from the Christian faith just say "We believe in God and Jesus" and just unite! Have a council! The Amish will bring the doughnuts and the Baptists can bring the potato salad! sweatdrop Maybe if we got all the leaders together they could talk about some important topics like...oh let's see...GAY MARRIAGE AND RIGHTS! wink
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2005 10:12 am
Fadia Stalyr rurica Fadia Stalyr BerylAlexandros Actually, aren't Catholics more likely to be okay with it than most Christians? The important thing, though, is your particular family. I don't know what to tell you, except good luck with whatever you decide. But the Catholics were the ones who denounced gay marriage weren't they? Even though I'm a straight-y and thus have no experience, I trust in family to accept children for who they are and what they are. I say go at your own pace with things...drop hints if you will and test the water... Oh yeah, Catholics totally denounce gay marriage. But...ehh. There are definitly some Protestant groups more accepting, though there are many less accepting as well. The whole Christian concept gives me a headache! While I admit I am a prideful Lutheran, why can't everybody from the Christian faith just say "We believe in God and Jesus" and just unite! Have a council! The Amish will bring the doughnuts and the Baptists can bring the potato salad! sweatdrop Maybe if we got all the leaders together they could talk about some important topics like...oh let's see...GAY MARRIAGE AND RIGHTS! wink lmao because it's the specifics that make life "worth living"? xP Nah, but it's kind of the same concept with the world and all of its seperate countries. Why can't we all agree to live in peace or at least so that nobody's starving each other and band together as one big world-country? Because people enjoy ruling over other people's lives far too much. Mm, power trip.
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2005 3:39 pm
rurica Fadia Stalyr rurica Fadia Stalyr BerylAlexandros Actually, aren't Catholics more likely to be okay with it than most Christians? The important thing, though, is your particular family. I don't know what to tell you, except good luck with whatever you decide. But the Catholics were the ones who denounced gay marriage weren't they? Even though I'm a straight-y and thus have no experience, I trust in family to accept children for who they are and what they are. I say go at your own pace with things...drop hints if you will and test the water... Oh yeah, Catholics totally denounce gay marriage. But...ehh. There are definitly some Protestant groups more accepting, though there are many less accepting as well. The whole Christian concept gives me a headache! While I admit I am a prideful Lutheran, why can't everybody from the Christian faith just say "We believe in God and Jesus" and just unite! Have a council! The Amish will bring the doughnuts and the Baptists can bring the potato salad! sweatdrop Maybe if we got all the leaders together they could talk about some important topics like...oh let's see...GAY MARRIAGE AND RIGHTS! wink lmao because it's the specifics that make life "worth living"? xP Nah, but it's kind of the same concept with the world and all of its seperate countries. Why can't we all agree to live in peace or at least so that nobody's starving each other and band together as one big world-country? Because people enjoy ruling over other people's lives far too much. Mm, power trip. And that is the exact same reason why Communism will never rule our society sweatdrop Dare to dream I say! Dare to dream! 3nodding
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