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It's just what it sounds like. Being fat and sex.

In the movies you see skinny girls having fun, same as men. BUT, for example.. (I'm going to talk about my ex because I'm single right now) I remember him beging me to go on top, and I hated it, because my stomach was right there for him to see, for it to jiggle. I hated it so very much! Besides, I always thought he was getting crushed by my weight.

Being fat always made me enjoy sex less, I was always worried about something.. I couldn't even make his fantasies come true. He wanted so much to have sex in the shower and I could never do it! I was horrified by the thought of having the lights turned on and my big thighs taking all of the space under the water.


Also, now..when I meet someone, and things start to get hot, sometimes I just want to say YEAH, let's do it heart I mean, I'm 22, if I want to meet someone and after a bit have sex, it should be my desition to go for it if I feel ok. But I don't, because.. I think "he needs to know me enough to like me more.. and when he likes me more, then he might not be bothered by my stretch marks or celulite!" Because lets face it, I'm one woman dressed, and I'm something less pretty without them.. Most times I just need a one night stand! I'm human, I have needs..and it doesn't seam like I'll be meeting my soulmate anytime soon.


Being thin would make my sexual life so much better.

Can anyone relate?

Of course I understand what you are saying. And yeah, it's a long way to Argentina, where I live xp


I have found some guy, willing to...but.. I just know, it's one thing when I'm dressed, when the clothes come off .. I don't want to get laughed at.




However, in general, I know I'm not someone's first choice, and that when I really like someone...the chances for him to like me back, physically, are slim. It's hard to find a guy that likes big girls. I'm not saying they are not out there, but I know I wont go out and find 10 of them, perhaps I'll find one every couple of nights of going out.



Do you really think that big guys have it that hard? I don't now really, because I've been attracted to a lot fo you..

I can understand feeling bad about yourself, but don't think any of us here will consider you less because of things we share. Like the stretch marks, or being hairy... that I'm not, but I'm sure guys here are hairy too razz

you are a wolf heart I dont think that is an impediment when it comes to sex domokun

I'm scared to death of sex. sweatdrop

haha..The truth comes out.

I don't know what to respond to and what not! gonk

Honestly, I told my boyfriend I would never be on top, the thought of it made me want to cry, now when we're together it's my favorite position because it's the one position garunteed to work for me... I actually like it more than he does, not to say he doesn't enjoy it, but while I like that it actually works for me, he prefers being in control... which I prefer too heart *purrgrowl* xp

I was soooooo self-conscious that he'd just see my fat jiggling around and be disgusted, or notice all my imperfections, or get crushed. I'll try to read him by saying "I'm crushing yooooooou! You're going to diiiiiie!" and he'll say how he can't really feel my extra weight 'cause of the position we're in... so if you sit in the right places I think most guys don't notice it. In fact, once or twice he's had me bounce on him so he could watch my boobs bounce... it's so cute whee

But I would have never enjoyed it if I didn't live by the reasoning that you have to try new things, you have to have an open mind, and you need communication in sex to fully enjoy it. Like you saying your ex begged you... well, why would he beg you if he didn't find you attractive? If that wasn't something he wanted? I realize it's partially a mental thing, but maybe with a bit more communication and effort on both your parts to work through it you could have enjoyed it. My boyfriend and i went in steps, I'd pretend like everything he said was a challange and I was trying to prove him wrong... he could tell what I was doing so he went along with it. It worked for us, but it doesn't work for everyone. But maybe next time a guy begs you to be on top, realize they're probably asking because they want you to, so you should feel good about it and let yourself try it and enjoy it.

I don't do one night stands, I've considered it because my boyfriend lives far away and I've been given permission... but I'm one of those who at least wants to share myself only with somebody who thinks I'm special and really cares about me... I have plenty of guys chompin' at the bit who think that... but I have to feel that way back and only select guys get that priviledge. Sometimes masturbation is the best option sweatdrop I like to think the fact that my sex is meaningful is one of the reasons I enjoy it so much.

I've been oogling my boobs topless lately just 'cause they look so damn good out of a bra... not perky, but perky enough and so soft and squishy and good whee I'm not the sexiest thing naked, but I'm not as bad as I like to think sometimes... and you're the same way, I'm sure. Nobody is perfect, even skinny girls have their issues.

And honestly, I'd rather be plus sized than stick thin... especially the size of the girl's in hollywood because they're too skinny to really enjoy their sex, I bet. It's the average to plus sized girls that can enjoy it... because we can take more than little girls can xp

And yeh, there's totally somebody out there for you that will find you attractive for what you are and things you have. I love chubby guys and skinny guys and average guys are alright... but I love my average sized boyfriend. I hate man butts but I like his especially. I love beautfiul hair on guys, facial hair but hate excessive body hair on guys... I've actually told a guy to his face that I think hairy guys are gross (I wasn't the nicest to this guy 'cause he irritated the crap out of me and bragged about his fur), and while I've gotten over thinking it to that extent, they still aren't really my thing... do love that little strip of hair from the belly button down, though heart and then I have friends who loooooove hairy guys and all that. I actually know of guys that love body hair on girls, and most people are very open to bigger girls, more than a lot of us think 'cause we're too busy being self-conscious sweatdrop It's easier to blame everybody else for why we can't find anybody, than realizing we are amazing and whoever we're choosing to be with is a fool to not take the opportunity.

I ran into a few things tonight, so if that didn't make sense, it's almost 1 am... I'm tired, goodnight.

I think a little of both. Like I can't even find a guy around me that likes me with my clothes on, so the thought of taking my clothes off for a guy scares me to death.

Also the act scares me and I don't know how to explain it.