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I've noticed that most not all high school relationships are not long lasting. Then as if completly unphased they move on to the next relationship. Is this normal? I am looking for a long term relationship at the age of 16, does that make me unfit for high-school romance. This is what I have came up with for an answer.

Teenagers are still discovering who they are in personality and sexuality and dont take this word too seirously experement until they finally feel comfortable. However I dont want to experement I just want a companion.

Post your thoughts because I'm only making myself more confused. stressed

i really respect you for wanting something more long term. i personally don't feel i'm ready for anything that big. so yeah, i guess you're right; teens aren't imediately ready for long term relationships.

i don't think you're abnormal though because you want that. maybe you're just one of the rare few that knows what you want or maybe you're, on average, more emotionally mature than other teens.

I understand how you're feeling..I'm also looking for something that would actually last and I'm 15. I'm sick of feeling used, I'm sick of "booty calls", I'm sick of feeling like s**t. Experimenting will always lead you to the point where it's more about sex than your own relationship, depending on the person you're with. I wish you luck though, take care.

I understand that you wan tcompanionship, however, you're 16 with the rest of your life still aheasd of you. Don't concentrate on finding the right person. Enjoy life and take it in a laid beck manner. Don't rush through life. I know you probably don't want to hear "You're too young to fall in love", don't think I am telling you that, because you can always fall in love. Just slow down and live one step at a time. Your sweet heart will turn up eventually.

im not sure how i feel about high school romances. there is this couple in my year at school they are both 16 and are engaged. i think its ridiculous, getting married at that age would throw thier lives away. another couple are going to hyave a baby. i feel having a baby at 16 is irresponsible and cruel for the baby, they can't afford to have a baby, the baby will grow up tainted.

How I feel your pain. No girl in my school can respect my view of a relationship. The kind of girls at my school are the kind that respond to guys who say " what it is hoe" by saying "whats up". I can't respect a girl that can't respect herself! The sad thing is I'm looking for more than meaningles sex in a relationship and so I'm considered gay and I am 100% totaly strait. The bottom line is that someday girls will respect our views of a relationship and hec, obviously there are some that already do, but unless you find one that does than you won't be able to enjoy the whole teenage dating thing like everyone else. Sorry.

To all the guys out there looking for a long-term relationship that are sick of casual sex, I salute you. Don't worry, you will find girls. Especially if you keep these morals up. biggrin

Highschool love is a bit unpredictable, but if both parties in the couple are mature enough, they can make it work. I starting going out with my current boyfriend in Grade 10. We're still together, and I'm starting second year of college. It can work, if you're both willing to work at it, and you have similiar ideals. It never would've worked for us if we both weren't monogamous, or if we both didn't value relationships so highly. I figure that if you can get through high school when there's so much change and growth, you're doing pretty good. cool

ok, i hear so much bullshit about how high school relationships never last, and it pisses me off. i wouldn't be typing this right now if they were right; my parents started going out when my mom was a sophomore (my age) and my dad was a senior, and they got married when my mother was 19, and are married today (she's 40 now). so, don't s**t on them, you've got hope.