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 Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2007 5:35 pm
Ok so here's the story. My friend had an issue and she wanted my "honest" opinion on it. (keep in mind she came to me for help, I didn't offer to help) She asked if she should go to this leadership program her elective at school offers. Basicly it's a week away from home during the summer that's a little like watered down boot camp that flexes the muscles and the mind. She asked if she should go or not. I told her yes because it would help her open up and be more sociable. Thats all I said. She blows up on me about the sociable part. Say's she is and that I don't know what the explitive I'm talking about, that she's plenty sociable I just don't know because I'm not around her in school any more.
Discuss:
Truth vs. what people want to hear
Was I wrong?
Going to people expecting them to tell you what you want to hear.
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Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2007 6:09 pm
If she's so touchy about it, I doubt she is, sociable, that is, and I think a good ole boot camp would set her straight. 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2007 7:15 pm
Well I dunno. Like I said, it's watered down. There isn't any yelling or nearly as much physical work. The only realy stressfull thing is the 3 mile march.
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Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:40 pm
just forget about it, she was probably on her period
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Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2007 12:45 pm
I try to make a habit of telling the truth, unless it would get me into serious trouble or something.
Most people don't take too kindly to having their downfalls pointed out to them, especially when it has to do with social faults. She'll get over it, though.
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Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2007 7:02 pm
We read a story about this in my english class. This guy decided to tell the truth, and only the truth for an entire day. He managed to make his boss and wife extremely angry.
Anyway, it's too late to change what you did. But in all honesty, I can't think of anything that is wrong with what you did. She asked for your opinion and you gave it to her. The best thing to do would have been for her to build on what you told her.
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Posted: Tue Apr 03, 2007 3:19 pm
"I'll see your heart ... Honestly? I don't think she can handle the truth (not just a cheesy line from a movie).
I mean, none of us really can. I'd like to hear something I wanted to hear, rather than the cold hard fact. But sometimes we need to hear it. I think you did what you believed to be right and it's her own fault that she took your constructive criticism the wrong way, not being insensitive or anything.
I think it'd be a good idea she went anyway, something like that would be a good idea for anyone, whether you're outgoing or not. It'd ... broaden her horizons. Yeah, tell her that, and then remind her that she asked you, not the other way 'round. … and I’ll raise you mine"
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Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 8:37 pm
yeah soem people won't even listen tot he truth even if it's a good truth...
like my friend kept asking me and her boyfriend at the time if she was fat, which she isn't, and every time we tell her that she won't believe us.. It's like she wants us to tell her she's fat...
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Posted: Sun May 06, 2007 1:43 pm
Tell her she's not fat...or too skinny, that she is a good size. And say that you wont let her get fat, that when she does actually get fat (if she does would probabally be better wording) then you'll tell her that she needs to go on a diet.
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Posted: Sun May 06, 2007 3:03 pm
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