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 Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 11:08 am
For all of my life, I've always liked guys (I'm a female). However, I've always liked to look at women and look at how pretty they are.
That is, until 6th grade.
I remember staring at this girl who was a year older than me during lunch and in the halls. I dunno why, but, I was just hypnotized by her. Almost like I liked her I guess, I just didn't realize it at the time.
In 7th grade, I was home schooled. I pretty much forgot about her until half a year later, when I saw her at the mall. I started getting butter flies in my stomach everytime I thought about her.
That's just when I began to realize that maybe I'm more into girls than guys. Although I've always thought that I could only have an intimate relationship with a guy and never with a girl, my opinion has begun to shift. I don't think I'd have a sexual relationship with a girl (I think; maybe if I actually ever had a relationship I'd know for sure), but kissing a girl sounds totally fine with me. Does this mean I'm bi? Or just confused?
Then, this year... I noticed that I think more about girls than guys. Sure, there are still guys that I really like, but... I guess I just don't focus on them as much.
Then, this week, I sent my crush a poem through my friend. My crush straight away thought it was a guy. But when my friend refused to tell her who it was, and resorted to dropping hints, she began to think it was a girl.
At first, she said it was me, because all of the hints pointed at me, but then... I guess I didn't make the right response or something... She said it was my friend. So now, the whole school thinks my friend is gay, and it's all my fault.
The funny thing is, my crush has begun to stare at my in the halls a lot with this weird look in her eyes. I know she's straight, and I've resorted to forgetting her once and for all, but I guess I've been getting really confused by the situation.
Any advice? How can I fix the situation and figure out my sexuality?
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 2:08 pm
First off, this is at times, a very slow guild. 3 hours is not enough time to expect a response. Don't bump your own thread - people WILL answer.
But on your topic, for your friend's sake, you need to come clean. It's not fair to her for people to think she's gay because of something you did.
Your "crush" needs to know it was you. How she takes it is beyond your control.
Lots of girls your age have confusion about their sexuality. It's not an easy thing for a bystander to figure out for you. What it takes is time, possible experimentation, and for you to relax.
I personally find women LOADS more attractive than men, but the most I've ever done with a girl is made out. Could I have a relationship with a girl? I don't know, maybe, however, it's not that important to me.
Date who you want, boy or girl. Most importantly remember they're both human, and gender really doesn't make a difference. You like who you like.
Labels really don't help, so trying to apply one is even more confusing. For me, what would you say? Am I bisexual because I like girls bodies and kissing them... even though I've been married to a man for 4 years? Well, it depends on who you ask.
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 2:45 pm
Savina First off, this is at times, a very slow guild. 3 hours is not enough time to expect a response. Don't bump your own thread - people WILL answer. But on your topic, for your friend's sake, you need to come clean. It's not fair to her for people to think she's gay because of something you did. Your "crush" needs to know it was you. How she takes it is beyond your control. Lots of girls your age have confusion about their sexuality. It's not an easy thing for a bystander to figure out for you. What it takes is time, possible experimentation, and for you to relax. I personally find women LOADS more attractive than men, but the most I've ever done with a girl is made out. Could I have a relationship with a girl? I don't know, maybe, however, it's not that important to me. Date who you want, boy or girl. Most importantly remember they're both human, and gender really doesn't make a difference. You like who you like. Labels really don't help, so trying to apply one is even more confusing. For me, what would you say? Am I bisexual because I like girls bodies and kissing them... even though I've been married to a man for 4 years? Well, it depends on who you ask.
She's gay to begin with, so... yeah. And she doesn't want me to do it.
About my crush... I dunno if I posted this in my first post or not xD but, I'm trying to forget her. Plus she is really popular at my school, and she's not exactly the good person in the situation. I mean, if she was even worth it to begin with, she would have come up to me in private and spoken to me about it one on one. And she would have never told the whole school about my friend. If she was worth it... D:
But, about the rest... Thanks! ^^ I don't want to label myself either, but I just wanted to know if I was just confused or that I really was going through an infatuation for the same gender. So, thanks! :]
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Posted: Sun Mar 04, 2007 1:52 pm
It seems that you've already gotten an answer.
But just to let you know, I went through the same thing. It's normal. It will ease up on it's own. Just give it time.
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