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Fizzlesticks' Fantastic Safer Sex Kit
2nd Edition!


- Gynecologist appointment
Before you have sex, both you and your partner/s should have general check-ups, and be tested for all STIs. Even if you've never been sexually active before, you could have a disease than you can pass on (you may not even know it!). Continue to have check-ups once or even twice a year, particularly if you have multiple partners.
Make sure you have transport to the doctors/Planned Parenthood Centre (offer cheap or free services & supplies), and someone you trust to take with you if you're feeling nervous.

- Latex gloves
Manual sex involves using the hands to stimulate the genitals.[ If you've got rough skin, wounds (cuts, scratches, warts), long nails, you could easily hurt your partner. Wear latex (or an alternative if you're allergic) gloves to be safe, unless you know your hands are wound-free, your nails are trimmed and your skin is soft!

- Condoms
oral sex on a man/blow job - USE A CONDOM to prevent STIs
sharing dildos - USE CONDOMS to prevent STIs
vaginal intercourse - USE A CONDOM to prevent STIs and pregnancy
a**l sex - USE A CONDOM to prevent STIs, and to make entry easier
Spermicidal condoms are NOT recommended. They can irritate the vulva/v****a, and increase the chance of urinary tract infections in women.

- Dental dams
Dams are essential for cunnilingus (oral sex on a woman, 'going down').
They are a thin sheath of latex. A cut open condom or latex glove will also suffice, or glad wrap if you're REALLY desperate. The risk of STIs, particularly herpes, is great. Don't risk it. Use protection.

- LUBE!
Water-based lube helps make entry easier during penetrative sex, helps prevent latex barriers tearing, is relaxing, keeps everything lubricated. It is essential!

- The Pill
If you are sexually active in a heterosexual relationship, it's wise to consider going on the pill to help prevent pregnancy.

- Emotional Stability
Are you sure you want to have sex? Can you deal with emotional/physical consequences. Yes? Good. Have you got an open, honest relationship with your partner? Supportive friends and family?

- Plan B
Have you got access to pregnancy tests? The morning-after pill, if the condom breaks? Have you made decisions together about what you will do in the case of pregnancy or Sexually Transmitted Infection?

- Money
You're going to need cash to buy all this safe sex gear (most of which you can find at the doctor's or chemist), and to cover you in case it fails (there's always a chance!).

Got everything? Go have fun.

~Reserved~

Sex sometimes hurts for me, never used to but does now, went to the doctor and they couldn't explain it sad

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I'd just like to add that there really isn't such a thing as "safe" sex, when dealing with STDs. I'd call it "safer" sex.

Not that I have anything against sex xp

Dear GuildMods - could you Sticky this thead please? I'd like to be able to always find it easily to paste bits into the LI.

Cheers,
Fizzlesticks xox

Yup, quite right - which is why I have 'If sex still hurts, see a doctor' at the end of the fact sheet.