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I have no idea what I'm doing.
With this weight loss thing. I don't know what's good and what's bad, what's the right amount of exersise, it makes me frustrated.
Help?
Queenie cry

Eat nutritionally balanced meals.
Avoid processed foods. Bleached foods. Foods with a huge list of additives you cant pronounce.
Exercise. Often and within your limit.
If you cant move the next day, you've probably overexercised.
You get results from consistant, vigerous workouts.
Not once in a while, super-strenuous workouts.
Research.
Don't go by heresay ie; "Hey, I hear a really good way to lsoe weight IS"
Eat until you feel satisfied, not until you feel full.
Switch all drinks for water. If you are an avid juice or soda drinker, this alone will drop you down at LEAST 5lbs in the first month.
Count calories. At least the first month. Or at least keep a journal of everything you put into yourself, be it juice, a hamburger, or a bite of someone else's cheesecake. It will let you see how much you REALLY eat.

I agree with Groovy Spleen. Also, a lot of it is just learning and unless you go to school for fat loss most of what you need will be self-research, taking and discarding information that doesn't work for you or is outright wrong (like diet pills) and keeping the good. I did use ediets.com back in the day and it did teach me a little. The great part about most help sites is they have free newsletters: ediets, denise austin, global fitness, etc - they all have free emails and articles to help. about.com is pretty great for learning, I know I linked them several time in my post about weight lifting.

Things that I consider "must do":
water water water (this is on everyone's "must do" unless you eat a high veggie/fruit vegetarian diet). 6-8 glasses a day is the minimum you should be drinking. I drink about a gallon in addition to my iced green tea. Don't do something weird like drink a gallon in a short time span.

working out 45 minutes most days of the week, moderately intense cardio. weight lifting every other day.

Eating the bulk of my calories in the morning/afternoon. If you're not hungry when you wake up that means you snacked too much the night before. Everyone I've ever read or talked to says that you should be hungry when you wake up - your stomach should have been empty for hours.

Everything is else going to be my personal eating habits and foods, which you'll have to work out for yourself to see what you can stick with. Probably the two foods I couldn't do without: my protein oatmeal and lowfat cottage cheese.

I have my posts on Walk Away the Pounds, weight lifting, and calorieking.com, if that would help.

Also, the community is pretty slow moving, I don't think you should think people are ignoring you when you don't get a reply within hours.

We all have bad days, thanks for apologizing and don't worry about just this time.