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 Posted: Sun Feb 18, 2007 3:48 pm
The reason I brought this up is because I met a guy, really nice, fun, and we have alot in common and we like each other alot...but the one downfall is that he's Pagan. I've been to his apartment a few times and I haven't seen anything that's...Pagen-y....no jewelry, haven't seen any books, pictures, etc...he's just a normal geek (Like me! lol) But he does have cards...but I am hoping maybe he's not into as much as other people...maybe there's a slight little door open to his heart that he would sit down and listen to me about God's glory...but I don't want to hammer it into him right away...how do I talk to him about this?
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Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 1:22 pm
I learned one thing from being in high school! it doesnt matter who you love as long as you love!!!! i am gay and people tell me the same thing!!! i am here if you need me! just pm me or something!!!
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Posted: Sun Feb 25, 2007 6:11 pm
I would take it slow with him. Dating someone thats out of your faith can do damage if your not grounded in your own beliefs. I would just casually bring up the topic... God works in many ways
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 12:25 pm
Okay, remember this: a house divided will fall but a house united will stay tall, [this works in relationships too]. The best thing to do is be yourself and stay friends. I mean, who knows what will happen in the future! God works in mysterious ways.
Now... time for my testimony, I think it'll help you out a bit:
Over the summer of 2006 I got my first paying job at a little Japanese take-out restaurant. There was this really nice guy who worked in the mornings that I'd see leaving as I came in to work. I always say "have a nice day" to people, even if I don't know them, and it didn't change with this person. I wanted to get to know him better but didn't know how. Well, the other guy that worked in the morning quit and so the boss had to have some of the afternoon people switch off everyday to work in the morning. I was so excited because I'd be able to work with him once in a while. Well, I got to know him a little better and really should have just stayed friends with him but one day he told me he liked me, [and I liked him too]. My spirit was warning me to stay away but my flesh didn't pay any attention and we started dating. Now, the Lord is truly amazing. He kept on giving me signs that a friendship is all that we should be but, again, I kept ignoring Him. For instance, in the beginning I had invited him to go to a Christian concert with me and he totally blew me off and said he wasn't into any of that stuff. Now, my whole life I was taught that the most important thing in a guy when you start to date, for a Christian girl, is for that man to be on fire for God because then your own spirit won't get drained. But because of my "wants" I chose to ignore this. We dated for about six months and the during that time he started coming to church with me, I was so excited, but, he still wasn't on fire for the Lord. [I know this is a lot of words, sorry...] So what I'm getting at is that waiting for someone to come to the Lord and staying with that person because of something that might happen, even though it's tearing you apart inside, isn't the right thing to do. About a month ago I broke up with him, I wrote him a long letter explaining everything and when I went to church on the Wednesday after I gave him the letter he was there. He told me it hurt him that I'd broken up with him but that he appreciated the letter. I told him that we should be friends only, what we should have been from the beginning. I mean, friends pretty much last forever. If you're meant to be with this guy then God will allow it in the future, when he's the man he's supposed to be. But for now he's not and the Lord doesn't want you to go through any pain. So... I believe you should stay friends with him but don't get into any relationship more than friends. Don't be afraid to talk about the Lord with him and invite him to church or to some concerts. If you have some cool Godly CDs then let him borrow them, a lot of Christian rock is really cool <3 . So to wrap it all up:
1. Put God before everything you do and let Him guide you, [not your fleshly wants].
2. Continue being yourself.
3. Share the Lord with him, I mean, if he doesn't want to recieve Him now then at least he'll have heard of Him. [That Godly seed will have been planted.]
4. Don't stress over anything. Keep your relationship light and fluffy! Friends are great and really the most intimate kind of relationships besides marraige. [Remember: intimate in the Lord's word doesn't mean fleshly and physical, that's superficial stuff, He means trust, and love, and care. : D]
....... Uhm........ I have more to say but... well if you want to ask anything else then just give me a PM okay? God bless you and have a wonderful day~!
["Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?" - Amos 3:3]
["Now we exhort you, brethren, warn those who are unruly, comfort the fainthearted, uphold the weak, be batient with all. See that no one renders evil for evil to anyone, but always pursue what is good both for yourselves and for all." - 1 Thessalonians 5:14, 15]
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Posted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 4:28 pm
Rei003 The reason I brought this up is because I met a guy, really nice, fun, and we have alot in common and we like each other alot...but the one downfall is that he's Pagan. I've been to his apartment a few times and I haven't seen anything that's...Pagen-y....no jewelry, haven't seen any books, pictures, etc...he's just a normal geek (Like me! lol) But he does have cards...but I am hoping maybe he's not into as much as other people...maybe there's a slight little door open to his heart that he would sit down and listen to me about God's glory...but I don't want to hammer it into him right away...how do I talk to him about this? the last thing you want to do is try to convert him all it will do is make him feel like a punching bag and for the record changing to a state of like-mindedness is assimilation not unity
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Posted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 6:17 pm
lordstar the last thing you want to do is try to convert him Well, I'm about 98% sure that's the first thing you want to do. Honestly.
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Posted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 4:25 pm
Sieg Reyu.2 lordstar the last thing you want to do is try to convert him Well, I'm about 98% sure that's the first thing you want to do. Honestly. what make the poor boy feel like a punching bag theres a bit of a violation of respect with that maybe thats just me you should ask Mr. Owl
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Posted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 5:05 pm
I know for a fact if it comes done to Going out with him and not converting him, or converting him and not going out with him, the right thing to do is convert him. Getting him to become a Christian should be first on your list, and if you are able to creat a relationship after that, so be it, but if not, it just means He has someone else to be your soul mate.
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Posted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 9:51 pm
Sieg Reyu.2 I know for a fact if it comes done to Going out with him and not converting him, or converting him and not going out with him, the right thing to do is convert him. Getting him to become a Christian should be first on your list, and if you are able to creat a relationship after that, so be it, but if not, it just means He has someone else to be your soul mate. i feel like i just joined a cult Convert the non-believers! Heretics blah blah blah satanic blah blah blah burn them all blah blah blah foolish wrech why do you not bow down to the way of peace they shal be punished by the heavens heathens blah blah smite them blah blah blah this might not be what people are saying nowdays but this is what runs through my mind as ya'll talk and yes...I have been set on fire and no...it doesn't feel very good...ya know being on fire and all no good
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Posted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 10:10 pm
I'm just saying you have to put God first and what he wants. Then comes what you want.
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Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 3:17 pm
Rei003 The reason I brought this up is because I met a guy, really nice, fun, and we have alot in common and we like each other alot...but the one downfall is that he's Pagan. I've been to his apartment a few times and I haven't seen anything that's...Pagen-y....no jewelry, haven't seen any books, pictures, etc...he's just a normal geek (Like me! lol) But he does have cards...but I am hoping maybe he's not into as much as other people...maybe there's a slight little door open to his heart that he would sit down and listen to me about God's glory...but I don't want to hammer it into him right away...how do I talk to him about this? I can tell you that most Pagans I know would consider it extremely offensive if you should come along and try to tell them that there religion is wrong. After all how would you feel if the shoe were on the other foot? If you like the guy go out with him, you won't get Pagan cooties on you, Pagans don't prosletyze. Or if his religion offends you so much that you cannot go out with him because he is Pagan, then find someone of your own faith the date. You don't have the right to demand that someone change just to suit you. It's just plain rude. -Lark-
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Posted: Sun Aug 19, 2007 11:14 am
Sieg Reyu.2 I'm just saying you have to put God first and what he wants. Then comes what you want. perhaps god only wants what we want...to be happy nicely put Lark
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Posted: Sat Aug 25, 2007 6:18 pm
2 Corinthians 6:14
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"
The Bible tells you so!
Trust me, I've been there, dating an unbeliever (actually, he was a man who lost his faith). It's hard and it's going to get harder. You might even fall from your faith. It's for the sake of your relationship and fellowship of God, do not date him. And like Reirani-san said, stay friends and who knows, God may enter his life!
Man cannot convert fellow man, only God can work in people. I've tried it before, doesn't work. Let God do the work, it's just up to you to spread the good news, Jesus loves everyone and died for their sins! He rose again and conquered sin.
God Bless!
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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 3:59 pm
I'm a Christian girl and it happens to be that my boyfriend of almost three years is a pagan. He has such a kind and righteous heart, and is often more forgiving than most other Christians that I know. I know this doesn't make it completely justifiable, but I just feel in my heart that if he were ever to convert, he would be able to accomplish such wonderful things for God's Kingdom. I've taken him to church a few times (which he has enjoyed) and he seems to be losing faith in his current religion. He's also spending more and more time with my family (who are also Christian), so I hope he will eventually be able to see the light.
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Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 5:40 pm
"f any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she is willing to go on living with him, he should not divorce her; and if any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to go on living with her, she should not divorce her husband. For the unbelieving husband is made holy through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy through the brother. Otherwise your children would be unclean, whereas in fact they are holy."
1 Cor 7:12-14
Why would Paul speak of such things if they were prohibited?
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