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I think a lot of it is instictive and biological. Humans are programmed on some level, whether it be biological or otherwise, to have children, make copies of themselves, see their liniage continue on, etc. I know for me, aside from biological wants and urges, I would like to see a "little me", someone to raise and love who is a combination of my looks and genetics, and those of my partner.

I think it's assumed couples will have children because, from what I've seen, most do. Most people want children. If you or someone else doesn't want children, there's nothing wrong with that and you should stand up for that belief/want. Some people just don't want or like kids, end of story.

As most people know, I tend to think that people should wait until they're older to have children, ie out of their teen years. But s**t happens and some people actually get pregnant on purpose while in their teens. That I don't understand, but to each their own. I'm one of the people who hopes to have children one day, but when I have a partner (preferably), and when I have enough money. I could do it now with the help from family and government aid, but I know that's not the smart thing to do.

Children are our future.

Some people want kids so they can leave a legacy or just to pass on their knowledge or just take care of them. It's kinda like having a pet except not.

Getting married usually pertains to being a family and most people just automatically assume that family will consist of a wife, husband, and (a) kid(s).

I don't find anyone who doesn't want kids weird or anything. My roomate sure doesn't want kids. That's fine. I might find it to be awfully lonely without a kid just because if my husband dies before me, I'll be left all alone. sad

I think you're just freaking out about something weird like your mother pressuring you to get married and start a family. It's really not that big of a deal and you shouldn't really get so worked up on it. It doesn't necessarily affect you all that much (or at least it shouldn't).

There are some people who are weird and they do believe that the only point in life is to have children (especially the women) but that's just old-fashionedness or it's just their belief systems. You shouldn't judge them (although I must say some of them can be pretty crazy).

I've never really understood mentality of wanting a baby either. I have a few friends who are crazy about babies, and one of them now has two daughters, and I'm very happy for her, but I know her life is a lot harder now because of it. She is always busy. For me, I've never really had any longings for children. I think a big part of that is my huge aversion to pain. I don't want to go through childbirth, it scares me. And nine months of a huge stomach doesn't appeal to me either. The whole thing looks extremely uncomfortable and painful. I'm skinny too, so I don' see how a baby would fit in me, or be able to fit to come out of me either. gonk I know the female body is designed to work that way, but I just can't imagine all my parts being stretched to that size. Ouch. I'm also not real thrilled about taking care of children. I think babies are cute, but I'd rather see other people's cute babies who I don't have to take care of. I don't want to change poopy diapers or clean up throw up. I don't like icky messes of poop, pee, and food. And then there's the fact that some children are just brats, plain and simple. There's nice children out there, but not everyone is blessed with nice children, and I've come across many bratty children, who, if I had to be around everyday of my life, I would probably pull my hair out and bang my head against a wall. Plus, I think having children puts a strain on romantic relationships. I think my big thing is love and being in love, that's a big part of life for me, and I want to always have time to cuddle quietly, kiss, have sex, do whatever, without children around that might see, or might disrupt things. I really think having children can cause someone's sex life to be nonexistant. So no, children are not for me and I have no interest in ever having any of my own.