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what are your opinions???

I'm 18 and pregnant. It's difficult for me to be pregnant this young so I can only imagine how hard it is for girls of an even younger age. One of my cousins had her first child when she was 14!

If you think it's disgusting, you need to grow up. It's none of your business what someone else does with their life.

I admire these young girls for choosing to keep their children and doing the best they can to raise them.

It is sad, me thinks. I have worked in a middle school where seventh graders are pregnant. They are not done being a child and now they are forced into adulthood. It saddens me because they probably did not have the postivie motivation that they needed. Maybe she slept with a guy to feel good about herself. Maybe she saw him as the only person who truly cared for her. The reasons are endless.

It just saddens me. My sister was pregnant when she was 17. She never went to college and never pursued the job she always wanted. She is still young and can probably do it with the right motivation, but now there are three kids to think about. I guess it's one of those "in the moment" things. I dunno.

Sometimes it's a good thing though. It gives her the idea of loving this one being forever. It's good to feel wanted, to feel needed in someone's life. I guess it has its ups and downs.

Nothing is completely effective. I just wish they would grow up on their own and not be forced to grow up due to pregnancy. Somtimes its good and sometimes not so good. Either way, I second that notion of waiting out of fear of having children. Fear should come in handy...unless they want one.

Erm...my own mother was 16 when she got pregnant. She still finished high school and went to college, which is an achievement. All I can really say, though is: What the hell was she thinking? No disrepect to my mum, but...where was the condom when this occured? Not that I'm not thankful for being alive, just...that's nasty and irresponsible for someone like her to do at the time. You think it's love and then...BAM! You're pregnant, dad runs out (not that it happens everytime). xp Use a condom and no one gets knocked up so soon (Condoms only being a 80-20 chance, of course, but since when do teens stop to look at those odds?). By the way, I love my mum very much and in no way mean to disrespect her and...*cough* her decisions. xd Just adding that as an afterthought.

I'm Pro-Choice. If a woman wants an abortion, she should have it. I'll leave it at that, or I'll get angry and vicious.

I think it's sad when teenage girls get pregnant and miss out on having fun as a teenager with a carefree attitude. Due to problems at home, I didn't have that. And I know there are lots of reasons kids miss out on that. Pregnancy is just one reason. Sure, if they have the support, it doesn't need to be the end of a person's goals and dreams, but it can. They may end up stuck in low-paid jobs for the foreseeable future, until the kid(s) are grown up enough that they can have a life of their own again... Or they may give up the child.

My cousin (in MN), she recently gave birth. At 21. Too young. She was pro-choice, but never would have gotten an abortion herself. Also, she was in denial for the first 6 mths of the pregnancy... And when the baby kicked her inside, only then did she acknowledge it... She gave birth to a healthy baby boy, but she never told anyone she was pregnant. And he was given up for adoption in an open-adoption arrangement - she can still see him from time to time.

Another friend of mind at Uni has two kids. Both kids, she was on the pill for... But the stress of exams messes with the pill. (YOU SHOULD ALL KNOW THIS!!!) And she fell pregnant. Twice. Through family support and free child-care at uni, she's finished her degree and hasn't ruined her own plans/dreams.

Regardless, before sex, people should know the risks about falling pregnant. And should be prepared. With my current medications (ie. Zoloft), I don't think it would be safe for me to keep my baby. I would abort it. The risks of having the baby would be too dangerous - either ON the meds, the risk of birth defects, or going off them, the risk to myself. That is what I plan. Should I have sex. Should I fall pregnant. I don't plan to have kids until I'm in a serious, long-term relationship (preferably married, due to my own personal desires), and can go off my meds knowing I have the support.

That's my view, anyways.