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 Posted: Sat Jan 20, 2007 2:37 pm
A little background info: I was engaged to my first girlfriend for a year and a half. We were both virgins. She was from a very religious family, and sex was absolutely unheard of before marriage.
Now, we did have sex once, and while I assume it wasn't spectactular, we got our respective jobs done.
But, seconds after the fact, we got caught.
After that, she wouldn't touch me. Eventually we broke up over it. Horrible reason, I know, but I'm a guy and once every two years isn't going to cut it for me.
I had just turned 18 then. I'm 19 now, and have been with a couple girls since then, but I have never been able to have an orgasm. Oral, a**l, hand jobs, nothing works. Feels great, doesn't do much for me though. Usually after 20-30 minutes the girl is tired and wants to stop and I'm left to my own devices.
I'm trying to figure out what the problem is, things went like they were supposed to the first time and ever since nobody has been able to get anything out of me but myself.
Thoughts?
EDIT: I was using Trojan Twisted Pleasure's at the time, since then I've picked up some Ultra Thins but the opportunity to try them out hasn't occured yet. This at the suggestion that I might be using too thick a condom, but it doesn't explain the problems with oral bits.
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Posted: Sat Jan 20, 2007 3:02 pm
Okay. Try this.
Stop masturbating. Not permanently. It sounds like you're relating your experiences with sex to your traumatic issue with your ex. It may not seem like it, but your brain links things without you realising.
So, stop masurbating, for like, two weeks in advance. Then, get into a situation with some one you're comfortable with (really comfortable) and where you KNOW you won't be caught or interupted and you can feel completely at ease. Make a weekend of it. Make sure you are completely at ease. No rush, no anxiety.
Then, take it nice and slow.
You can enjoy sex again. If it does not work, go to your doctor and get a refferal to a sex therapist.
Good luck. ;D
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