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 Posted: Wed Jan 17, 2007 2:08 pm
ok well how do i put this. me and my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up about 4 months ago. i was so use to always having her around in some way. rather by phone or in person that i just can't masturbate by myself. It does nothing for me. I am wondering if maybe it would be best for me to hook up with the random girls that always want to hook up with me or if i should get a friend with benefits or something. do u have ideas on what i should do about this.
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Posted: Fri Jan 19, 2007 12:38 pm
Well, I would think if you got used to having an orgasm with her around, you will get used to having them again without her around. It might take a little time, but I think you can do it. I would never suggest that anyone get a friend with benefits or do things with random people just because they don't think they can orgasm alone. That's just like giving in to an addiction.
Doing things with random people is a good way to put yourself in dangerous situations, which may include but are not limited to STDs (Yes, you can get them from things other than just straight vaginal sex).
The friends with benefits situation is tough. A lot of people can't pull it off and keep it last while remaining friends and without someone getting hurt. Some people are able to, but not too many. So if you really want a friend with benefits, I would say that it should probably not be a spur of the moment decision or a selfish one. Now I do not mean to sound like the friends with benefits situation is bad or won't work. I've done it myself. My point is that it's a relationship that has the potential to hurt people, so the people involved have to be careful and aware.
In short, the random people thing and the friends with benefits thing does work for some people. I'm not sure if it's right in this situation, however. It might make things even more complicated. People are surprisingly adaptable. We get used to things, but we can adapt to a change before too long as well. You could always try some things on your own, maybe things that you haven't tried before. Maybe a**l stimulation, toys, or a certain type of porn, something to spice it up a little.
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Posted: Fri Jan 19, 2007 4:47 pm
hey thanks for giving me some advice on this i wish i could have gotten more advice but it is perfectly fine. i am very grateful for your advice and will take it to heart.
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