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 Posted: Mon Jan 15, 2007 4:03 pm
I am just about at the point where i wanna beat up Brooke and Vickie, for trying to talk my boyfriend into dumping me, telling him how hot he is, and telling him to find someone better looking and smarter, even though I am smarter & better looking then both of them, I wasnt there for it, but Aaron(My BF) told me about it and it sorta up set him that people who we thought we are friends with would say things like that, but he wasnt as upset as I am, but Aaron asked me not to say anything because he wasnt supposed to tell me, I am just glad he is so loyal.
What should I do?
Should I Confront them?
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Posted: Tue Jan 16, 2007 12:48 am
Wow, that's a tough one.
If it were me I would confront my friends. I'm the kind of person who likes to get to the bottom of things and isn't afraid of a little confontation.
I can't say for sure what you should do though. I don't know you that well, nor do I know any of the others involved.
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Posted: Tue Jan 16, 2007 1:13 am
Sometimes it is best not to confront others until you are calmer, have a cooler head, and have ALL the facts straight. Who else was there? Is it possible the boyfriend is jealous of the friendships you have with others and is a little too possesive? Could he be frustrated with them? Are they jealous of you? Do others have any similar stories? How old are they?
Did they think they were doing you a favor by testing his loyalty to you? Have you ever complained to them of his looking at other girls? How long have you been friends? How important is their friendship to you? How well would they take you letting them know you didn't appreciate this and asking them not to do things like this again because you feel this sabotages you - not helps you. I just think you need to look at as many angles as you can and look inside and see what you feel is the thruth and is most important to you. We all make mistakes - is that what they did or are they trying to get in on a good thing and push you out?
Is it worth giving them the benefit of the doubt?
Only you know what you are feeling and how things might develop from here - I am just saying don't act in haste or anger. Be firm, but kind.
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Posted: Tue Jan 16, 2007 7:19 pm
Ms Jo Sometimes it is best not to confront others until you are calmer, have a cooler head, and have ALL the facts straight. Who else was there? Is it possible the boyfriend is jealous of the friendships you have with others and is a little too possesive? Could he be frustrated with them? Are they jealous of you? Do others have any similar stories? How old are they? Did they think they were doing you a favor by testing his loyalty to you? Have you ever complained to them of his looking at other girls? How long have you been friends? How important is their friendship to you? How well would they take you letting them know you didn't appreciate this and asking them not to do things like this again because you feel this sabotages you - not helps you. I just think you need to look at as many angles as you can and look inside and see what you feel is the thruth and is most important to you. We all make mistakes - is that what they did or are they trying to get in on a good thing and push you out? Is it worth giving them the benefit of the doubt? Only you know what you are feeling and how things might develop from here - I am just saying don't act in haste or anger. Be firm, but kind. oh no, no, no... I believe that these girls would do this, I have seen them do this to others, the only other people there was brooke's mom and she was out of the room, and my aaron is not jelious at all, he is better friends with them then I am
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Posted: Tue Jan 16, 2007 9:48 pm
The sad thing is that soon they will get a reputation for this, if they haven't already and most boys are not impressed with that.
I would say act - not re-act. You are the better person and evidently your boyfriend knows that - so you should just be you - and just not trust them.
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Posted: Sun Jan 21, 2007 7:46 pm
Ms Jo The sad thing is that soon they will get a reputation for this, if they haven't already and most boys are not impressed with that. I would say act - not re-act. You are the better person and evidently your boyfriend knows that - so you should just be you - and just not trust them. now that i think of it they are always going after that dont want them, this one dude named bob is really creeped out by them
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Posted: Wed Jan 24, 2007 10:06 pm
Well I told Aaron(my BF) how I felt about it today
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Posted: Wed Jan 24, 2007 11:32 pm
Vampire Fantasy Goddess Well I told Aaron(my BF) how I felt about it today He probably wasn't surprised, was he? Most guys are not oblivious to these things - they just seem to think it is not worth their notice or a reaction from them. There is a reason he is your boyfriend. You probably let him talk more about himself and show him that he is important to you. Those are great gifts to give anyone. To feel that someone cares just because you are you is a great gift and highly underrated!
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Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 1:54 pm
Ms Jo Vampire Fantasy Goddess Well I told Aaron(my BF) how I felt about it today He probably wasn't surprised, was he? Most guys are not oblivious to these things - they just seem to think it is not worth their notice or a reaction from them. There is a reason he is your boyfriend. You probably let him talk more about himself and show him that he is important to you. Those are great gifts to give anyone. To feel that someone cares just because you are you is a great gift and highly underrated! He is really important to me, I love him so much I dont know what I would ever do with out him
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Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 2:14 pm
Love is a two-edged sword. It can bring the highest highs and the lowest lows. Remember to still keep some focus on you and developing your own talents and personality and don't get too submerged in some one else or we risk the chance of losing the best of who and what we are - and then losing them because what they were attracted to is no longer there! It is almost like the high wire act of the circus where you have to balance both needs (yours and theirs) and not slip too much one way or the other, isn't it? I know when I was younger I was so eager to spend every minute I could with the young man I was interested in and my parents would help me to stay focused on my future - because I really didn't know if the young man would be a part of it or not and there was a greater chance he would be if I was becoming everything I could be - I would then be more interesting and less demanding of him because I had a good sense of my self.
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 11:22 pm
Ms Jo Love is a two-edged sword. It can bring the highest highs and the lowest lows. Remember to still keep some focus on you and developing your own talents and personality and don't get too submerged in some one else or we risk the chance of losing the best of who and what we are - and then losing them because what they were attracted to is no longer there! It is almost like the high wire act of the circus where you have to balance both needs (yours and theirs) and not slip too much one way or the other, isn't it? I know when I was younger I was so eager to spend every minute I could with the young man I was interested in and my parents would help me to stay focused on my future - because I really didn't know if the young man would be a part of it or not and there was a greater chance he would be if I was becoming everything I could be - I would then be more interesting and less demanding of him because I had a good sense of my self. I understand what you are saying, but curious how did things work out?
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Posted: Tue Feb 06, 2007 7:08 pm
Well, I now know Aaron knows its not just in my head that vicky and brooke are trying to break us up so vicky can go out with him, but he says I have nothing to worry about, I think its silly that he has just now been sure about it, because he was the one who told me that vicky kept hitting on him and brooke is always questioning our relationship
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Posted: Fri Feb 23, 2007 12:28 am
I ended up marrying another guy and have been happily married to him for almost 29 years now - so I was glad my folks helped me to focus on what was important to my future and not loose track of ME. I was devasted when the other guy and I broke up for all of about a month and then this wonderful guy entered my life at college and the rest, as they say, is history. I have since come to find out this guy I was so crazy about has been divorced twice now and has really put on a LOT of weight. Of course, I should talk - I have gained 30 pounds - almost a pound a year! I was super skinny before though and my husband says I actually look better with the little extra pounds on me! What a sweetheart!
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Posted: Thu Mar 01, 2007 11:05 am
Ms Jo I ended up marrying another guy and have been happily married to him for almost 29 years now - so I was glad my folks helped me to focus on what was important to my future and not loose track of ME. I was devasted when the other guy and I broke up for all of about a month and then this wonderful guy entered my life at college and the rest, as they say, is history. I have since come to find out this guy I was so crazy about has been divorced twice now and has really put on a LOT of weight. Of course, I should talk - I have gained 30 pounds - almost a pound a year! I was super skinny before though and my husband says I actually look better with the little extra pounds on me! What a sweetheart! i really hope things work out with me and aaron
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Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2007 3:48 am
I hope so too if it is a good, healthy relationship for you.
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