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 Posted: Tue Jan 09, 2007 9:02 pm
Okay, I have something I'd like some advice on. I don't normally ask for help, but this is somewhat out of my territory.
I'm a guy, and am dating a girl who is bisexual (which I'm completely okay with...it's kind of funny that I'm the one catching her checking girls out, instead of the other way around). The fact that she's bisexual isn't the problem, though.
She's tried experimenting with girls in the past, but it's been a while for her (like 5 years). And although she has said she's perfectly happy with me, and I believe her, I can also tell she wants to experiment with girls again. This actually isn't a problem with me (I don't see it as cheating unless it's with a member of the opposite sex...that's not how I see cheating in general, mind you, just in our case). I've sinced talked to her about it, and I know that is the case. The problem is that she is REALLY shy, and while she wants to try stuff with other girls again, she is too afraid to really talk to someone. She's in highschool, and I believe the problem is that she doesn't want to end up asking a girl who isn't bisexual or lesbian, and that girl spreading it around the school that she's bisexual and that she'll get made fun of or something.
So my question is, is there a way someone her age (she's 17, going on 1 cool could meet with and talk to (and possibly do more with) girls who are also bisexual, bicurious, or even lesbian, without fear of persecution?
Thanks in advance for any help. smile
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Posted: Tue Jan 09, 2007 11:03 pm
I suppose she could try an internet dating site or personals site or something like that if she wants.
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Posted: Sun Jan 14, 2007 5:36 pm
If she's too shy to talk to someone, should she really be exprimenting?
She could always meet people who don't go to her highschool, or just wait until she leaves highschool.
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Posted: Sun Jan 14, 2007 6:29 pm
MipsyKitten If she's too shy to talk to someone, should she really be exprimenting? Very good point. I mean, we all have to take a risk when we ask someone out, or ask someone if they want to be our sexual partner, or whatever. It's always a risk.
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Posted: Mon Jan 22, 2007 8:59 pm
Yes, but when you're not only risking hearing a 'no' , but rather facing possible ridicule by your peers, that's a whole different thing. And that's where the issue really is.
Thank you for the personals idea, though.
But, is there even any way to go about looking for a sexual partner of the same sex without asking random people? Because there is no way to really know who is and isn't bisexual/lesbian, without asking...which makes it really difficult to meet people you don't know a lot about. I know a few girls who are bisexual, but it's not something they announce to the world.
So, aside from personals, is there any other way for her to meet other girls who share the same 'preferences' as her, without just randomly asking girls?
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Posted: Mon Jan 22, 2007 9:54 pm
cm763 Yes, but when you're not only risking hearing a 'no' , but rather facing possible ridicule by your peers, that's a whole different thing. And that's where the issue really is. Thank you for the personals idea, though. But, is there even any way to go about looking for a sexual partner of the same sex without asking random people? Because there is no way to really know who is and isn't bisexual/lesbian, without asking...which makes it really difficult to meet people you don't know a lot about. I know a few girls who are bisexual, but it's not something they announce to the world. So, aside from personals, is there any other way for her to meet other girls who share the same 'preferences' as her, without just randomly asking girls?Not really, not if you two don't have any friends in mind and don't want to just wait around until someone finds her. I think that is partially Mipsy's and my point. We never know what someone's preference is unless we ask them or unless they just happen to start talking about it. We all run that risk in life. I chased after a guy who was gay for a little while in college. You just never know. If she wants to do it, she will have to run that risk like the rest of us. It's not like, "Hey, you want to have sex?" needs to be the first thing out of her mouth though. She could always take it a little slow, become kind of friendly, then hint at it, and ask about sexual preferences and dating.
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2007 6:35 pm
Hun, in my experiance with meeting people/ having friends, Theres only one way to connect with them,....tell them. If you feel comfortable letting her have that free will to experiment, then by all means, let her. Tell her that yes, she dose run the risk of getting put down, but, thats one person down, many to explore. Tell her just to be honest and open, that shows shes a good person. mrgreen heart
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Posted: Thu Dec 27, 2007 10:03 am
she could set up a club at high school or maybe put up a forum
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