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 Posted: Sun Jan 07, 2007 7:16 pm
Ok, I was having this discussion with my lesbian friend earlier today and she is convinced that bisexual women CAN NOT for their lives be faithful to anyone because they never know what they want.
I'm bi and my moral fibre and conscience just wouldn't let me cheat on ANYONE, female or male. I know what I want now and I don't see women or men as anything other than what they are. A relationship is a relationship, and that's that.
Thoughts?
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Posted: Sun Jan 07, 2007 8:29 pm
God, I hate when people hold fast to that stereotype. But there are situations that aren't taken in account for. Consider myself and my friend. I prefer monogamous relationships, while he has a girlfriend and boyfriend and is polyamorous. Are we both faithful to our significant others? Yes.
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Posted: Sun Jan 07, 2007 11:11 pm
I completely agree. My ex was the same way but she just went to say that all bisexuals are whores. But I told her if she knew any bisexuals and she said like a few so I just argued that she didn't know every bisexual in the world so there is no way she could say that all of them are whores.
It's retarded how people can believe that all of one certain type of people fall into the stereotype they're branded with. It pisses me off.
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Posted: Mon Jan 08, 2007 1:14 pm
All of the Bi people i know, Bi not Bigh*, are in commited relationships and have been for a long time. I severly disprove of this stayriotype though i do have a bigh friend that calimes that they can have one partner of each sex. I consider that tottal bull $h!t
*bigh-normaly the phase that teenage girls go through but sometimes can last longer, sadly into highschool crying
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Posted: Tue Jan 09, 2007 4:20 pm
I'm on vacation from dating women because they keep using my sexuality to abuse and mess with me. Being bi doesn't make you a slut, and it doesn't give people the right to mess with you. ...I wish I realized that last part three years ago.
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Posted: Tue Jan 09, 2007 5:43 pm
Stereotypes suck. Sure, I've seen it happen, but not just with bisexuals. The only thing I can say that seems consistent with me for them, is that the majority I've met, personally (not saying this is the norm), tend to date men more often then women.
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The Committee Staff Gaian
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Posted: Tue Jan 09, 2007 10:58 pm
Saknika Stereotypes suck. Sure, I've seen it happen, but not just with bisexuals. The only thing I can say that seems consistent with me for them, is that the majority I've met, personally (not saying this is the norm), tend to date men more often then women. That's probably partly because it's generally considered 'more acceptable' to be in a straight relationship than a gay relationship. But it's more than just that. It could be that the pickings are slim, which would definitely be a major factor. Edit: And then, of course, there are the bisexual posers.
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Posted: Wed Jan 10, 2007 7:35 am
Yeah those are good points. I think that they want to find comfort somehow so they stick to the more accepted part of they're sexuality.
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Posted: Wed Jan 10, 2007 11:06 am
I agree. You CANNOT equate sexuality and faithfulness.
I am bisexual (I'm female), I am engaged (to a male). My fiance told me that if I wanted to do something with a girl (even without him), he would be OK with it. He said its not cheating. HOW CAN HE BELIEVE THIS!!! This TOTALLY blew my mind! I can't do it at all because I believe that it is still cheating (even though he told me I could). I just think that is the weirdest thing.
I found out, too, that there are quite a few people who believe that its not cheating if it is with the same sex...something about if its heterosexual then its a burn on the ability of your heterosexual partner...like, if I was to go to another man, I am saying that my fiance isn't good enough to satisfy me, but if I go to a woman, I am saying that my fiance can't satisfy me in the way that only a woman can, because, well, he doesn't have woman parts!
I don't know..it is SO weird to me!
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Posted: Wed Jan 10, 2007 7:58 pm
Twack though i do have a bigh friend that calimes that they can have one partner of each sex. I consider that tottal bull $h!t welcometomyhell I prefer monogamous relationships, while he has a girlfriend and boyfriend and is polyamorous. Are we both faithful to our significant others? Yes. Raeden Michelle I agree. You CANNOT equate sexuality and faithfulness. I am bisexual (I'm female), I am engaged (to a male). My fiance told me that if I wanted to do something with a girl (even without him), he would be OK with it. He said its not cheating. HOW CAN HE BELIEVE THIS!!! This TOTALLY blew my mind! I can't do it at all because I believe that it is still cheating (even though he told me I could). I just think that is the weirdest thing. Oookay. I must address all of these with my.. six.. cents (two for each of you). I believe that it is possible to be bisexual and faithful to two people, in my case, one of each gender. This is because I have discussed it with Mori and decided as a couple that it would be good for us for me to pursue a relationship with a girl. I found what I've seen to be the girl of my dreams (though I can't find the words to tell her so) and have been faithful to her (and Mori) as best I can, even though we're not *technically* in a relationship together. I'm hoping that she would see any relationship with me as a... what's the word.. tenative?.. relationship with him, also. Of course, it's not required, but it'd be nice. I hope this clears a possible situation where being bisexual and having one partner of each gender proves itself to be a faithful relationship.
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Posted: Wed Jan 10, 2007 11:50 pm
Raeden Michelle I agree. You CANNOT equate sexuality and faithfulness. I am bisexual (I'm female), I am engaged (to a male). My fiance told me that if I wanted to do something with a girl (even without him), he would be OK with it. He said its not cheating. HOW CAN HE BELIEVE THIS!!! This TOTALLY blew my mind! I can't do it at all because I believe that it is still cheating (even though he told me I could). I just think that is the weirdest thing. I found out, too, that there are quite a few people who believe that its not cheating if it is with the same sex...something about if its heterosexual then its a burn on the ability of your heterosexual partner...like, if I was to go to another man, I am saying that my fiance isn't good enough to satisfy me, but if I go to a woman, I am saying that my fiance can't satisfy me in the way that only a woman can, because, well, he doesn't have woman parts! I don't know..it is SO weird to me! Ugh, I see this a lot too because many people believe that if you're doing things with the same sex, you're just "playing around." My own straight friends even tend to think this way; many people just don't understand that just because it's homosexual doesn't mean it isn't significant or isn't REAL. neutral
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Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 12:00 pm
Saivanima: I still hold that Sexuality and Faithfulness cannot be equated. I didn't, however, say that you couldn't be polyamorous. That is still sexuality. Whether you are faithful to one or to two people makes no difference, you are still faithful in both ways.
Rubbermuleaccount: Its not that we would be 'playing around', he actually told me that if I dated a girl, that he would be OK with it, and if it turned out that I wanted to be with said girl instead, that he would be OK with it. Basically he said that he just wants to see me happy, and if that means that he is not in my life, then he would be OK with it...extremely upset, but OK with it. Of course, I still cannot imagine myself without him, so he should still be OK there! I guess what he is really saying that if I want to be polyamorous he would be OK with it...of course, as long as he knew about it! But I still cannot do that. For myself, I am monogamous and love only him.
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Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 2:47 pm
Kohki Saknika Stereotypes suck. Sure, I've seen it happen, but not just with bisexuals. The only thing I can say that seems consistent with me for them, is that the majority I've met, personally (not saying this is the norm), tend to date men more often then women. That's probably partly because it's generally considered 'more acceptable' to be in a straight relationship than a gay relationship. But it's more than just that. It could be that the pickings are slim, which would definitely be a major factor. Edit: And then, of course, there are the bisexual posers. I hate posers. stare
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Posted: Fri Jan 12, 2007 6:40 pm
Saknika Kohki Saknika Stereotypes suck. Sure, I've seen it happen, but not just with bisexuals. The only thing I can say that seems consistent with me for them, is that the majority I've met, personally (not saying this is the norm), tend to date men more often then women. That's probably partly because it's generally considered 'more acceptable' to be in a straight relationship than a gay relationship. But it's more than just that. It could be that the pickings are slim, which would definitely be a major factor. Edit: And then, of course, there are the bisexual posers. I hate posers. stare Oh, GOD, the posers. :XP: Down with them, I say! But anyways, I say that it varies between couples for what counts as "cheating" and what doesn't. Some couples are exclusive, no exceptions. Sometimes they're okay with polyamorous relationships. As for my relationship, I've discussed that whole issue with my boyfriend. He doesn't want to do anything with any other people (he's bicurious), but, according to him, he wouldn't have a problem if I did something with someone else. neutral Not because I'm bisexual, but because we barely get to see each other; ten days out of the year, minimum (aka. three anime cons plus the Cherry Blossom Festival). I appreciate that he trusts me not to get involved with someone else, but I'd feel so guilty if I did. sad So I'm definitely not planning to. But yes, STEREOTYPES SUCK. stressed
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Posted: Sat Jan 13, 2007 8:49 am
Raeden Michelle Saivanima: I still hold that Sexuality and Faithfulness cannot be equated. I didn't, however, say that you couldn't be polyamorous. That is still sexuality. Whether you are faithful to one or to two people makes no difference, you are still faithful in both ways. That's just what I trying to prove. No harm, no foul.
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