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 Posted: Sun Jan 07, 2007 9:35 am
I know, I think I have the wrong subforum sweatdrop But here it goes anyways. :/
I have this problem with my parents, I get EASILY annoyed by what they do, or at least my dad! I have just gotten a little brother recently about 2 months ago. And he gives him love and stuff, but he gives him NASTY a** wet kisses and it looks all passionate and it's nasty! Seriously, I know, you're probably thinking "oh it's not that bad" but it's soo disgusting when I see him do that! But also why I think I experience this is because he USED to do the same thing to me (for 15 years, then the baby came) and I have had his kisses, it's soo nasty and slimey and wet, everytime I see or even HEAR that, I start to think of that! I have told him MANY times to stop, and maybe we wouldn't of have HAD This problem! But he still does it anyways. And now I have to live with it! He has also given me kisses in the mouth "on accident" and it's ******** disgusting.... sad I still feel it in my lips (even though this was like 6 years ago) and now I just hit my dad with anger becuase now I HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE!!!!
The problem just grew and grew and he still doesn't pay attention or even listen to me becuase he's too......"stupid". stare I have tried talking to him, he still doesn't listen. The only thing that he could say is "Get used to it". I have tried that for over 5 years and it still doesn't work!!! I need help. cry it gets on my nerves and I feel very disgusted. I almost throw up everytime I hear him or even see him kiss the baby!! I don't know how to make him stop or just get over it.
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Posted: Sun Jan 07, 2007 12:57 pm
Others might disagree, but here's my thoughts.
Are you kidding me? You're telling HIM how to parent? It's kisses. I agree with your father, it's stupid for you to be picking fights with him over it. Maybe you should focus on the positives instead of the negatives just because you don't like them. While it's quite out of the loop for my husband's personality, he kisses and loves my 4 month old immensely. I love the fact he's so affectionate and loving. Sometimes it can be hard to shut off the "baby affection" and move to a more older affection with our 4 year old. So, sometimes it's an accident, but my 4 year old still understands even with all the cooties, lol.
It sounds like to me, you're jealous because the baby is getting all the attention. I'm not saying you want kisses, but maybe instead of attacking your father for, well, being a father, ask to spend some time to chat or do some activities just you two. Or maybe talk toa counselor about your anger issues.
According to many infant experts, kissing is an intimate activity and a sign of affection that can help promote attachment. Thus, it's extremely important in developing infant attatchments.
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Posted: Sun Jan 07, 2007 5:02 pm
lunashock Others might disagree, but here's my thoughts. Are you kidding me? You're telling HIM how to parent? It's kisses. I agree with your father, it's stupid for you to be picking fights with him over it. Maybe you should focus on the positives instead of the negatives just because you don't like them. While it's quite out of the loop for my husband's personality, he kisses and loves my 4 month old immensely. I love the fact he's so affectionate and loving. Sometimes it can be hard to shut off the "baby affection" and move to a more older affection with our 4 year old. So, sometimes it's an accident, but my 4 year old still understands even with all the cooties, lol. It sounds like to me, you're jealous because the baby is getting all the attention. I'm not saying you want kisses, but maybe instead of attacking your father for, well, being a father, ask to spend some time to chat or do some activities just you two. Or maybe talk toa counselor about your anger issues. According to many infant experts, kissing is an intimate activity and a sign of affection that can help promote attachment. Thus, it's extremely important in developing infant attatchments. Heh, that sort of calmed me down a bit sweatdrop But I have been having this problem for a while, even BEFORE the baby. It's just annoying, I get a tickly feeling that's kinda annoying. But I know it's his "job", but also, he should try and stop making his kisses kinda icky. :/ I can't wait till he's 4 so he would know about cooties blaugh I know i'm not jealous, I also don't want to hang around with my dad either, I like being by myself, but with the new baby, everything has changed.
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Posted: Sun Jan 07, 2007 5:42 pm
OMG! You are so completely right! I can't believe that a*****e is exhibiting love for his children! Quick! Call social services before he does something really bad like buy you a Christmas gift or tell you he's proud of you!
And honestly, gripping for SIX YEARS because he accidently kissed you on the mouth is just ridiculous.
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Posted: Mon Jan 08, 2007 3:28 pm
I just need help getting over it, it's nasty....i'm not gay sad
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Posted: Mon Jan 08, 2007 3:34 pm
stare
I guess i'm not used to him doing that, I mean I have been attached to my dad for 15 years, and now, it's weird HEARING him do that, he does it unpurpose to annoy me, which makes me angry.
Maybe i'll get over it, I'm not that angry that much anymore.
gonk
I made a fool out of myself AGAIN! cry
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Posted: Tue Jan 09, 2007 7:54 pm
1) What does being gay or straight have to do with not being a tantruming child about your father showing you affection?
2) Just get over it. Most people get over the "ew cooties!" phase by 8-9 years of age.
3) What makes you think that he is doing it on purpose?
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Posted: Wed Jan 10, 2007 12:57 pm
stare I DON'T believe in cooties sad I never have, i'm not saying that I believe in it becuase I don't.
And, even before the baby, I didn't wanna be treated like one so I told him MATURELY to stop, and he always does it anyways and it got annoying.....but it wasn't annoying at first, it just grew and got more annoying by the day....
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Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 3:44 pm
Okay, how about this?
Just ask him if when he kisses you, he can try to make it less slobbery. You can even say it in kind of a joking way, like, "Ew, with so much slobber, it's like being kissed by a Saint Bernard!"
Maybe he's just not aware of how... wet... his kisses are.
As far as with your baby sibling... babies get kissed. Get used to it.
If it REALLY bugs you, maybe talk to your mom about it and ask her to nicely talk to your dad about the ferocity of his kissing.
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Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 5:50 pm
I already tried that. :/
Even with he kisses my nephews, they yell in pain rofl
(Not real pain but act like EWW!! *barfs* )
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