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Very awesome Sig. Hank. smile Promoting Mega Man earns you +123,578 points in my book.

As for being the "other" without knowing...

When I was a teenager I had a boyfriend who turned out to have circa 30 girlfriends. Unbeknownest to me, I was "the other woman" a position I Never wanted to be in. When I was a little girl my dad cheated on my mom, numerous times, one of them was her best friend. I made a vow then and there never to cheat or to aid in the process of cheating.

However, if you honestly didn't know, as I didn't know, then you can't be blamed. Luckily in my case, girlfriend #1 and I became friends and sympathized with one another. If you didn't realize it, then don't beat yourself up. Granted you might look back and go "well all the signs were there, I should have known better!" The thing is, unless you -KNEW- point blank she/he had a boyfriend/husband, you aren't really responsible.

It's a crappy situation, but don't be too hard. I mean any one of us could be fooled and pulled into something without knowing. The only way to prevent such as a situation is to... well... never date, fall in love, get "busy", etc. Now where's the fun in that? sweatdrop

Best luck to you ^_^