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 Posted: Wed Dec 27, 2006 10:25 pm
So I was watching an episode of CSI, and Greg(cute!) called one of the dead guys a "Chubby Chaser" meaning he was a FA(Fat Admirer.)
I dont know about you guys, maybe you had to have been there, but it sounded kind of condescending the way he put it.
I personally do not like being called chubby. It makes me feel like a little kid and I feel kind of stupid...
What about you guys? What do you prefer to be called? Chubby? Curvy? Large? Fat? Big? Voluptuous? Full-figured? Busty? Shapely? Chunky? Heavy? Husky? Plump? Stout? Plump? Round? Heavy-set?
Also, do you think it matters whether you say it yourself or someone else does? Are there terms that you personally find offensive or hurtful?
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Posted: Wed Dec 27, 2006 10:28 pm
I saw that episode--it was pretty degrading.
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Posted: Wed Dec 27, 2006 11:06 pm
The Tragic Libertine. I saw that episode--it was pretty degrading. I agree!! I felt so bad for that poor woman. And everyone treated her so badly. It sucked. sad
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Posted: Thu Dec 28, 2006 11:05 am
What about you guys? What do you prefer to be called?
I really don't like to be called anything but thick. Thick feels sensually right for soem reason.
Also, do you think it matters whether you say it yourself or someone else does? Are there terms that you personally find offensive or hurtful?
Well if it's offensive, it shouldn't matter who says it--it just shouldn't be said.
I pretty much don't care what Im called, unless I'm called that someone I don't like.
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Posted: Thu Dec 28, 2006 12:11 pm
I dislike the words that make it sound like you're a child. Chubby, chunky, husky. All those. I prefer fat, big, voluptuous, rubenesque (being a particular favorite of mine). A friend of mine always used to call me his Rubens woman. Excellent compliment. 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Dec 28, 2006 1:45 pm
I agree that the episode was pretty degrading, but what Greg said didn't really bother me at all. =/
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Posted: Thu Dec 28, 2006 5:37 pm
i saw that episode and it was to me very degrading
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Posted: Thu Dec 28, 2006 6:32 pm
I say don't let it get to you. 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Dec 29, 2006 2:26 am
I never minded being called chubby, at least by my friends since it was never used as a negative.
I always hated being called husky though.
I would say that words don't really matter, people call me a chubby chaser as an insult, but my close friends call me it as a sort of way of telling my they are ok with it. E.G: Anth, how is my favorite chubby chaser today?
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Posted: Fri Dec 29, 2006 9:57 am
I personally don't care what somebody calls me, as long as I don't get the line "Hah, it's hard to imagine you as a girl." which I've gotten from two male co-workers in the past year.... I don't even know why, that's just one of those things you should never say to a girl, especially one you consider your friend... Just because she's a buddy doesn't mean she wants her femmininty (alright, I have no clue how to spell that right now) questioned. The reason I say that is I feel part of it had to do with my size, although mostly it's because I'm an a*****e and I'm good at joking with the guys and hitting 'em where it hurts with my remarks.
People calling me something I am, or just some discriptive word doesn't bug me so much...
And I don't care if somebody else calls me a name if I call myself it... as long as they aren't trying to say it in a mean way. Anything can be mean if said the right way, assuming something is automatically bad doesn't do any good for anybody.
Example: I'm a proud southerner, proud of what you say? I believe the south is better culture-wise than the north, though not much more. I'm proud that my people fought for what they believed in (Hell, I don't even know if any of my ancestors really fought in the civil war--or what side they fought for, or when they did get to America)...Sure, the south lost, and I'm glad... I love being an American, too. I just like being able to say I'm southern, it's a good feeling. I'm not racist at all, I have black friends whom I love dearly.
I bought a confederate flag necklace during highschool, I love the confederate flag, I think it's pretty. I wore it around and got a few comments both good and bad, one of my black friends commented about how they didn't like it 'cause of the flag but they didn't mind me wearing it so much, we agreed to disagree. In PE, in the locker room, these three black girls began to gang up on me... and my poor friend who was talking to me at the time (she was terrified they were going to beat the life out of both of us). They were looming over me, questioning me trying to make me say something racist so that they could beat the s**t out of me for wearing a necklace that they saw as offensive even though I didn't mean it as such... If they had gotten an offensive word out of me I know they would have attacked me because they could have told the administration I'd been saying racist things to them. Unfortunately for them, I kept my head and my arguements were strong enough they couldn't find a real reason to attack me.
All that to say--I can respect that people will be offended by things... but people need to get over themselves. We just look for reasons to feel and be offended. We give words and objects the power they have, weather or not they deserve it. Just because somebody says something doesn't mean they're trying to offend you, it's when they're obviously trying to be offensive that I take offense-- or if they just say something needlessly hurtful for no reason. I'm fat, I'm chubby, I'm all those fun little words--so somebody calling me that doesn't bother me, it's when they make it obvious they want to offend me that it might... and I usually don't give those people the pleasure of letting it offend me.
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Posted: Fri Jan 12, 2007 10:17 pm
I tend to call myself plus-size or curvy, since I still have an hourglass figure, just with a bigger frame and a few more rolls. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sat Jan 13, 2007 3:14 am
I can understand your argument, Ghosty, but I personally do take exception to certain words. I've never liked being talked down to and to me words like 'chubby' and 'husky' are often used in a manner that is aimed to place your social position below the other person's. I feel they're designed to give the other person superiority, so to speak. I don't mind people calling me fat or anything like that, because that is what I am. I simply mind the words that (to me and of course it could be my own perception) 'place' you socially, so to speak.
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Posted: Sat Jan 13, 2007 1:07 pm
Northawke_rs I can understand your argument, Ghosty, but I personally do take exception to certain words. I've never liked being talked down to and to me words like 'chubby' and 'husky' are often used in a manner that is aimed to place your social position below the other person's. I feel they're designed to give the other person superiority, so to speak. I don't mind people calling me fat or anything like that, because that is what I am. I simply mind the words that (to me and of course it could be my own perception) 'place' you socially, so to speak.
Maybe I've just been lucky.
I feel when people try to gain superiority, when I refuse to let their words have the effect their trying to have I'm the winner, but that's just my feeling twoards it.
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Posted: Sat Jan 13, 2007 4:32 pm
I guess it depends on the person who you are talking too. People have different preferences. I know people who enjoy being called "fat" which sometimes seems unbelievable, but you gotta know they're comfortable with who they are. Not everyone is that comfy.
And i didnt see the episode personally because i dont like CSI but i was told about it by my BBW friend who was totally pissed off. It kinda made me pretty angry too.
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Posted: Sat Jan 13, 2007 11:22 pm
♠I prefer being called a Chubby Chaser.♠
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