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 Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 9:38 pm
I'm kindof in a bit of a mess here, I would say.
I generally feel no attraction to people in general, even though I'm bisexual. I have a sexuality, but no real...Drive?
But there's this boy, and I love him to death.
I've known him since last year, we met after this presentation we had to individually do, and I told him I thought his was cool.
We became quick friends, and I found out more and more just how anti-social he is. I've finally got him talking to A LOT of people, and every once in a while he'll hug me, which is something he NEVER does to ANYONE.
He never really does anything outside of school, and I'm going to try to bait him to my house with DDR ... Works for everyone else!!
I tell him all the time that I love him, and we joke around about so many little things. I'll say something really perverted, and depending on what it is, he'll either say "Ooh, Shannon, you know what I like" or "You pervert!!!" (He's kinda prude, LoL)
Well, I don't know what to do.
More and more I find myself thinking about him, and each day that goes by that he doesn't reply to my PMs or comments, MySpace and Gaia both, I get the feeling he's suddenly decided to ignore me or something.
Like maybe he knows about how I feel for him, and he's intimidated or something....
I'm not sure what I'm asking any of you to say or do...
But I really just want someone to listen. I don't know how to tell my close friends that all my little "Ramon, you KNOW I love you!" comments are, well..Not JUST comments....
I'm a girl, btw, and he's straight, though he shows no attraction to ... well ... Anyone ... But I do know a few things;
If I call him, he'll talk to me for hours
I love it when I make him laugh ... I can really get him going sometimes...
If we stay after school, he won't mind spending a necissary hour of waiting until my ride gets there
And I've gotten him to tell me a few things he didn't really feel comfortable sharing....
the only thing I worry about at the moment is him reading my posts ... I mean, I doubt he does, but.... Still... If he finds out something like this, I'd like to tell him, ya know?
Thanks to everyone who read this...
Even if you don't have any advice, can you let me know you read it...? It would make me feel loads better....
Everything is said and done.
I'm still great friends with said boy, but now I have a boyfriend
Life is better
Everything is getting worse, of course, but some things are better.
So yeah ^.^
Thanks to everyone who bothered to read my issues
(lol)
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Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 9:50 pm
Well, I read it like you said.
Unfortunately since I don't know either of you irl I have no real way of telling whether he likes you or not. He might; at any rate he definitely doesn't mind spending time with you. And don't take it too personally if he doesn't reply to you on *insert online thing here* every day. In my experience, guys don't usually respond to stuff like that all the time, but it doesn't mean they dislike you or anything. It's just the way they are....heh.
Maybe you should just ask him how he feels? Yeah, yeah, easier said than done, but you never know until you try.
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Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 10:35 pm
AraTeran Well, I read it like you said. Unfortunately since I don't know either of you irl I have no real way of telling whether he likes you or not. He might; at any rate he definitely doesn't mind spending time with you. And don't take it too personally if he doesn't reply to you on *insert online thing here* every day. In my experience, guys don't usually respond to stuff like that all the time, but it doesn't mean they dislike you or anything. It's just the way they are....heh. Maybe you should just ask him how he feels? Yeah, yeah, easier said than done, but you never know until you try.
Thankyou for reading, at least smile
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Posted: Wed Dec 27, 2006 9:59 am
I can say that I was pretty much in the EXACT same position a little while ago. The best thing I can tell you is to talk to him. I know it`s a horribly difficult thing to do but it`s for the best. If he doesn`t like you it`s not your fault and you have to move on. The sooner you talk to him the better because love can sometimes turn to obsession and it`ll ******** over your life. Good luck.
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Posted: Wed Dec 27, 2006 12:31 pm
I really better talk to him soon...I mean I finally got him to come out of his house for once; he's coming over tomorrow!
But yeah... I feel as though I'm on the brink of obsession, and I never really saw that as a threat.... Thanks for pointing that out ....
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Posted: Sun Feb 18, 2007 11:11 pm
I read it. Hmm.. I don't know exactly where to start if I give advice so let me just think aloud.
So I was in love with my best friend too. Lets call him Neil. For years actually. He moved and came back and visited and fell off the face of the earth for a while and then came back and fell off the face of the earth again and it was a big mess.
See my friend Fox is also friends with this Neil. In fact, fox has been friends with Neil before I was friends with Neil. Actually when it came down to it all Fox and Neil and I were all best friends.
Anywho, everytime Neil would fall off the face of the earth and never bother calling us, Fox got sad and thought that Neil never really gave a damn about us. Then Neil would come back and Fox just up and accepted him without so much as an apology from Neil.
Now see I have a problem with giving up; I just never know when to quit. That's until Fox convinced me that Neil never really gave a damn.
The last time Neil came back I told him. I told him that I was in love with him for so many years. I was trying not to, but Neil knows me so well. He knew something was on my mind. He knew I was trying to half-a** my way tip-toeing AROUND the subject. He finally said, "Chan [my nickname], just tell me." And that's what finally rbought me to tell him. And I was honest. I told him I didn't want to "go out" with him or anything like that. I just loved him. I didn't want to ruin our friendships with such labels as girlfriend and boyfriend.
Anywho... Neil falls off the face of the earth again - this time for 2 years. This is the longest Neil's ever not talked to us. In this period of time Fox finally convinces me that Neil never really gave a damn. Never.
And whether this is true or not I figured "you know what? He's right. Neil doesn't give a damn. No one gives a damn."
Guess what? This happened just yesterday. Neil's back.
I found out in a mishappen sort of way. two weeks ago I had a dream that Neil was back, but that I wasn't a part of any type of friendship at all. Then everyone EXCEPT FOR Neil and Fox told me that Neil was back. I'm not gonna ask. I just thinking about it.
Either Fox doesn't want me to know that Neil is back, or Neil doesn't want me to know that he's back. I can see where both of them would want to avoid me (that's another story though).
I'm just thinking being in love with your best friend sucks a**. I ended up getting the short stick here.
About advice, I'd have to say be mindful of your thoughts. It's kinda hard to be open with these things. Also think about the friendship factor. Do you really want to ruin such a good friendship?
However if he's just going to forget you now that he's not such a loner, I say that's bogus. If that's the case, there's not point wasting anymore time even thinking about him. Keep these in mind when you talk to him. I feel as if this might not go down well, but do what you have to do, ok?
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Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 1:57 pm
Yeah.. I should probably delete this thread soon, because I do have a boyfriend, now >.>
But I do enjoy hearing everyone's advice and stories
My update, I suppose, is that I met the most amazing boy a couple months ago.
We fit perfectly together and have been dating for two weeks exactly ^^
Things are looking promising for me
[for once]
and like, all my friends have a good feeling about this :]
I fell in love, and now he's my best friend
So...
For everyone that was in the situation I was in...
I hope it gets better for you
3nodding
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Posted: Wed Feb 21, 2007 8:13 pm
Rainbow Holocaust
So...
For everyone that was in the situation I was in...
I hope it gets better for you
3nodding -sigh- me too. What am I saying? I don't have feelings for anybody!... -shifty eyes- >.> <.<
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Posted: Wed Feb 21, 2007 8:33 pm
cabbage3 Rainbow Holocaust
So...
For everyone that was in the situation I was in...
I hope it gets better for you
3nodding -sigh- me too. What am I saying? I don't have feelings for anybody!... -shifty eyes- >.> <.< Don't worry
I believe you
-coughcoughcoughcough-
>.>
<.<
What?
I have developed a cold recently
ninja
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Posted: Sun Feb 25, 2007 7:34 am
You sound well matched. As long as his responses to your "I love you"'s aren't because he feels awkward, and I think it's easy enough for you to access by yourself if this is the case, then I wouldn't worry. He obviously has SOME kind of interest in you at least, from what you've said, and I think you and him should try and get together... but take it as slowly or as fast as feels comfortable.
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