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 Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 2:46 pm
Single Mom? Single Dad? Share your stories, concerns, or whatever you want about being a single parent.
I'll start. I do get help from my son's father when he can; but we live in different states until I go back to school and it's hard being the only full-time parent. Sometimes I get a little pissed that he's not able to be here and when he talks about taking our son to visit his family I get a little over protective and dont really like the idea.
ok now its your turn.
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 2:56 pm
I have been close to becoming a single parent quite a few times. However, I look at my son and I just can't do it to him. So I continue to try to work it out with her.
I can understnd what you are going through.
3nodding
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 3:31 pm
I'm a single mom. I live with my parents though. So, it helps some. My son loves my dad and has never met his real dad. He seems to think that my dad is his dad though. It's cute.
It gets frustrating, but I think have my son was well worth it.
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Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 8:10 am
Anyone would want a "perfect family" and it gets hard sometimes knowing that you can't provide that for your child. Although Im also living with my parents for now it's still hard raising a child by yourself most of the time. Even though I get upset and feel its not fair that Im making a greater sacrafice, I wouldn't want my son raised in an environment where his parents are always unhappy.
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Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 8:14 am
Yeah especially if you get sick. You just want to lie down and rest and he wants to play. Yeah, it can get stressful.
I'm not really focusing on trying to meet some one right now. I don't have the greatest taste in men. So, I'm focusing on being a mom right now. I'll figure out the love life bit later.
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Posted: Wed Jun 22, 2005 12:07 pm
I am a single teenage mom. I've been a single parent for almost a year and now that my daughter's father got out of juvie he wants to see her. I dont want him too and I try to avoid his calls if possible. I plan to get full custody of Lainee for what he did. For the last month or so I have been seeing and guy who is two years older then me, he is 17 and I am 15. He bonded really well with Lainee and Lainee enjoys his presence when we go places. Being a single parent has it's hard parts, but it has it's better parts.
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Posted: Wed Jun 22, 2005 1:04 pm
A friend of mine from middle school, whom I don't see often because she lives one jurasdiction over and isn't on MSN much anymore. Anyways, she turned 19 in May, but she had her baby in Jan. of this year when she was still 18.
To my knowledge she's not married or dating anyone, but a friend of hers told me she lives with a "male roommate". Her baby is... almost 6 or 7 months old now I think.
I'm pretty sure her mom is supportive of her, because I think she lived with her mom after her baby was born, but she doesn't live with her mom anymore. I talked to her a bit on MSN, and she said it was really tough sometimes raising her baby on her own, but she loves her son so she doesn't mind.
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2005 4:51 am
Hey, i'm not yet a mother because i'm still awaiting for my baby girl to be born. But, i know i'm going to be a single parent, i know it's going to be hard. But i look up to my mother because she made it through with me & she made it through with all of us & she's brave for doing that. She never needed a man to support her. Anyhow, I got pregnant at 15, but i just currently turned 16 on June 5th. I am currently with a guy who i was friends with for about a year, we met from school & we started dating back in April & things with us have been super tight & he really wants to be there for my baby girl Samantha because he loves her just as much as he loves me, but he loves her like his own because he had a daughter, but recently lost because she recently passed away *cries* But, it also angers him that the biological father won't even admit that it is his child, and he says that he's going to refuse to pay child support, but it's okay. We'll work things out. Me & my current bf of almost 3months are going to go on strong, and we plan on getting married, if i can get my parent's consent. *sighs* He's going into the Navy in August of this year though, so we'll see how things go ^_^ Well, i'm off to bed.
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2005 9:24 am
I've only been a single parent now for 9 months or so...my ex-husband and I couldn't get along at all and he decided to move 500 miles away...I have our son full time and work a 40hr job on top of that...In the past 9 months my ex has only attempted to see our son twice...he may call once a month or so and hasn't sent anything at all to help out with expenses...I can understand that apprehension about sending your child hundreds of miles away...the two times I have, I spend the entire time wondering what's happening up there...but anyways, that's my story lol
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2005 10:33 am
You also have to be careful when it comes to going back into the dating world. I mean when I was single it was different, but now that I'm a mom I'm going to have to try and make sure that I don't rush the guy into being a replacement daddy. That can be kind of hard.
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2005 10:40 am
chesire_cat Hey, i'm not yet a mother because i'm still awaiting for my baby girl to be born. But, i know i'm going to be a single parent, i know it's going to be hard. But i look up to my mother because she made it through with me & she made it through with all of us & she's brave for doing that. She never needed a man to support her. . Your mother sounds like a wonderful person. I think you should take a few examples from her in that regards. I suppose that's good you've found yet another guy you're in love with, but if you say he's lost a child, he does NOT need to be looking for you and your child to fill that void. You need to get some legal (and mental) help for yourself. It doesn't matter if bio father says he's not going to pay. Go through the systems, get his name on the birht certificate, get DNA testing, get the child support. Your child will need it, but make sure it GOES to your child and not other habits. It's very important that you do this, put aside whatever you and the bio father had and think of your child first. EDIT: I'm sorry I made the mistake of reading your journal. I think it's sad that you're looking forward to getting high instead of having a baby. You can't use drugs like that and be a good mother. Andrew should be ashamed of himself for encouraging your reckless and negligent behavior.
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Posted: Fri Jun 24, 2005 5:04 pm
Subbie I have been close to becoming a single parent quite a few times. However, I look at my son and I just can't do it to him. So I continue to try to work it out with her. I can understnd what you are going through. 3nodding wow i've definitely been going through the same sort of situation. we both agree that if it weren't for joey our relationship wouldn't stand a chance right now... but we both feel that it is very important for joey to have both of us.. since neither of us had both of our parents. we are trying to work things out as best as we can... and finding out whether we are better parents appart or together has been tough..
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Posted: Fri Jun 24, 2005 9:36 pm
Don't stay together just because you have a child together. If you're miserable your children will be miserable too. Especially if they find out. Then they'll feel guilty because they were the reason you were so miserable for so long.
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Posted: Sat Jun 25, 2005 1:33 am
Burnt Glitter Don't stay together just because you have a child together. If you're miserable your children will be miserable too. Especially if they find out. Then they'll feel guilty because they were the reason you were so miserable for so long. Well that's the whole problem. Both the other person (who is in the smae boat as me) and myself are staying in the relationship, because of the kids. I can't speak for her, but for myself. I was 6 or 7 when my parents split, and I was devistated. My Dad basically left my life. I would see him here and there and whenever he could find time for me in his so busy schedule rolleyes . I don't want to be like that. I couldn't stand to be apart from my son for more then 2 minutes. What if I leave her, I fight for custody and lose. Then what? Most judges award full custody to the mother reguardless of anything else. It sucks, and I so don't know if I want to take that chance. If it was guaranteed that I would win the case, well we wouldn't be having this talk. However, I don't think I would win, and she would take him down to her parents. They ive in Southern New York, and I would be too far away to see my child anymore. So I don't know what I would do then. Life wouldn't be worth living if I couldn't wake up and see my son. So that's why everyday I will get up and put on a show, so that I can wake up and not worry about my son not being there when I wake up. Life just sucks. So at least I can wake up everyday, and have one joy in my life. Even if I am not happy, at least my son will be.
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Posted: Sat Jun 25, 2005 7:10 am
Then if you're so miserable see a counselor at least. Just because you had a bad experience when your parents divorced doesn't mean your children will. After all you're not your dad and you have to think of them first. Sometimes seperating is the best thing to do. I mean how old are your children and how long do you think it will take them to realize that their parents don't really love each other?
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