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 Posted: Mon Dec 18, 2006 3:22 pm
I'm a Wiccan now, but I don't know what to do about my parents. I know my mom thinks it's a bunch of sh... crap, and my dad probably won't like it much, either. Should I tell them? If not, how can I hide it? If I should tell them, how? Please help me!
Edit: Okay, I guess I'm not Wiccan, but Neo-Wiccan. Untill I'm 18 and find a coven, that is.
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Posted: Mon Dec 18, 2006 3:46 pm
you don't have to i guess...?
i mean ofcourse its your own choice to decide whatever culture you want to go with,
parents can not or should not interfere in decisions of kids for their adoption of cultures or religion.
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Posted: Mon Dec 18, 2006 4:46 pm
yeah, but i don't think they want me doing "evil magic stuffs", as they would probably put it. xp plus, i need to go to this store to get some supplies, and, of course, i'm too young to drive gonk
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Posted: Mon Dec 18, 2006 5:43 pm
Personally, I'd use their ignorance against them and go with threats of dark magic, but I'm not clear on the moral system behind wicca so that's possibly not favorable...
You could always just tell them that this is what you believe now and you can't change it just because they think you're evil. If they're still being intolerant towards you, at least you tried. They'll probably come around eventually when you don't change for them.(in other words, no faking it to shut them up)
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Posted: Mon Dec 18, 2006 6:02 pm
Well, if your Wiccan then you can firstly point out the main part of the Wiccan Rede that people spout off fairly often, showing that it can't be evil/harmful, because it basically says "As long as you harm none, do as you will." (though Rede means advice, not law, meaning you don't have to follow it, but don't tell them that)
Then you could kinda half lie by saying its basically a more elaborate way to become more connected to the earth and yourself, and become more respectful towards both, and/or achieve inner peace...
Don't really fight them if they think the magic is bs, just kinda say you're alright with it because your Wiccan for (what I said above), not because of magic power.
If they are extremely unfair about you being Wiccan and don't want you to/let you be Wiccan, then I'd suggest saying what blakat1313 said, with a minor insinuation of them being like nazis and you being like the jews (that usually hits close to home in these cases).
Lastly, you don't have to tell them, but don't try hard to hide it if you're getting caught for it, since that would make it seem like something bad if you keep trying to hide it.
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Posted: Mon Dec 18, 2006 6:08 pm
I just have one question... if you're 18 and thus, old enough to become a Wiccan Initiate, why are you living with your parents? ^_^ If you're under 18, and thus, not old enough to be initiated, or even to become a dedicant, why are you claiming to be Wiccan?
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Posted: Mon Dec 18, 2006 8:20 pm
Darin Rosewood I just have one question... if you're 18 and thus, old enough to become a Wiccan Initiate, why are you living with your parents? ^_^ If you're under 18, and thus, not old enough to be initiated, or even to become a dedicant, why are you claiming to be Wiccan? Darin, although you are right about your argument, it doesn't need to be brought up in the circumstance. Atleast not yet. So, she is of one of the self proclaimed Wiccan paths, leave that for now, as she hasn't done anything to require you (or others) to cause some problems. I'm sure the facts would be good for her to know, but you know what I mean buddy. P.S. I have moddly duties to try to stop other people from starting crap because they don't get how in a court situation, you would pwn them with being correct about it. So, this is me saying, not here, not now.
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Posted: Mon Dec 18, 2006 11:38 pm
Dorian Requiem Darin Rosewood I just have one question... if you're 18 and thus, old enough to become a Wiccan Initiate, why are you living with your parents? ^_^ If you're under 18, and thus, not old enough to be initiated, or even to become a dedicant, why are you claiming to be Wiccan? Darin, although you are right about your argument, it doesn't need to be brought up in the circumstance. Atleast not yet. So, she is of one of the self proclaimed Wiccan paths, leave that for now, as she hasn't done anything to require you (or others) to cause some problems. I'm sure the facts would be good for her to know, but you know what I mean buddy. P.S. I have moddly duties to try to stop other people from starting crap because they don't get how in a court situation, you would pwn them with being correct about it. So, this is me saying, not here, not now. I agree with Dorian Requiem on this one. There's no need to cause trouble for her with these sort of questions yet. She's only just begining, so yes, she had a lot to learn I'm sure, but there is time to learn it, and I doubt that now is right. I don't mean to be rude to you, or to cause you any sort of trouble, only to point out that well, she's young. So give her a break this time around...
And to illusen729, My advice is this: We don't know your parents my dear, you do. And as much as we would all like to help you in anyway we can, the truth is that your the only one who really knows what to do. If you tell them, it will be hard for you. If you do not tell them it will aslo be hard for you. There is no easy way about this situation, but it's the religion you chose, and if you are commited to it you will be able to sick it through. Meditate, think hard, and deside what is best not just for you, but also for your parents, and then fallow through and accept the consiquences. And know that you will be fine because in the end, even though your family may not understand you, or may regect your beliefs, they will never regect you. They love you and eventually, they will stand by you... I'm sorry I couldn't be more helpful than that.
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Posted: Tue Dec 19, 2006 7:14 am
If you are under 18, you've little choice but to live with your parents so consider that. Sometimes it can be wise to keep things under until you're more on your own in order to avoid needless and difficult conflicts. Most people would be very accepting of some aspects of the Craft but not of others. Plus, spirituality is a journey; you might find that you're drawn in some other direction as time passes.
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Posted: Tue Dec 19, 2006 8:18 am
if one is18 can't she/he claim to be a Wiccan? why? that's a question and i'd love to hear though i'm 18 but i'm interested these things for 4 years but i i just started calling myself Wiccan since i just started to believe i have enough knowledge.
Well, i told my parents that i'm interested in herbs, elements and energies. Since my father is a doctor and he knows that herbs have energies and heling effects he accepted that. mom was so straight minded about magic at first but i told her that i'm not doing anything to harm, i'm just gaining knowledge she just shut up. though i still can't ask money to buy an athame (they'd think i'm mad if i start talking bout the veil and other things. they dont think it's true so i hide my mirror book) or other tools. so i just save money and hide my things until i leave for my own house and not do rituals which are too complex.
well, your parents might not be this understanding but anyways, if you tell in right way they'll understand. i'm sure of it. Since you know eastern energy techniques and altenative medicines are fashioned these days and i do believe those are related to wiccan (correct me if i'm wrong) it must be easier to them to understand.
hope everything goes well for you.
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Posted: Tue Dec 19, 2006 6:01 pm
Dorian Requiem Darin Rosewood I just have one question... if you're 18 and thus, old enough to become a Wiccan Initiate, why are you living with your parents? ^_^ If you're under 18, and thus, not old enough to be initiated, or even to become a dedicant, why are you claiming to be Wiccan? Darin, although you are right about your argument, it doesn't need to be brought up in the circumstance. Atleast not yet. So, she is of one of the self proclaimed Wiccan paths, leave that for now, as she hasn't done anything to require you (or others) to cause some problems. I'm sure the facts would be good for her to know, but you know what I mean buddy. P.S. I have moddly duties to try to stop other people from starting crap because they don't get how in a court situation, you would pwn them with being correct about it. So, this is me saying, not here, not now.
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Posted: Tue Dec 19, 2006 6:35 pm
My advice is that you should be careful if you decide to hide it from them. Having candles and incense and various other things lying around your room can come off as signs of drug use.
So if they start to ask questions about that stuff, then try to explain it to them in as BS-free way possible. Don't have to tell them about magic or try to make them believe, just let them know that you're not on drugs or sacrificing kittens.
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Posted: Tue Dec 19, 2006 8:49 pm
illusen729 I'm a Wiccan now, but I don't know what to do about my parents. I know my mom thinks it's a bunch of sh... crap, and my dad probably won't like it much, either. Should I tell them? If not, how can I hide it? If I should tell them, how? Please help me! If you're pretty sure they're going to react badly DON'T TELL THEM! My parents are both Christian, I thought we could co-exist but Dad lost it at me. I've been Wiccan since Febuary and thanks to my dear father I havn't so much as seen a circle cast. I probably would have had the same problem if I had kept it a secret but at least Dad wouldn't be so suspicious towards me, we wouldn't argue all the time and I wouldn't get forced into "rational disscussions". (aka religious propaganda sessions) If you thikn you can make it work go for it, but don't make the same mistake I did. It's more trouble than it's worth.
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Posted: Tue Dec 19, 2006 9:36 pm
But do they know truly what a wiccan is or do they think it's something else and such? sweatdrop heart
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Posted: Wed Dec 20, 2006 9:01 pm
I love how you put that "I'm wiccan now" as if you up and decided to be Wiccan one day lol Funny yet irritating.
Telling parents your wiccan is about the same as telling them your gay. They most likely won't take it well and it will put awkwardness in your parent-child relationship for a while. If your parents really care about you, they will find a way to adapt to your descision.
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