Courting Vs. Dating

[Battousai Akuma]

I also don't see what the problem is with casual dating...as long that is the only thing that is casual. To answer the question I would say both. Dating is good to find what your likes and dislikes in someone are (of course you will no find a perfect person). And courting I see is when you find that special one. I kinda have a quesrtion is courting just dating in order to be married at the end or is it more to it? For instance like no kissing or something like that.  

[PoppyDadswell]

Hittokiri04

I also don't see what the problem is with casual dating...as long that is the only thing that is casual. To answer the question I would say both. Dating is good to find what your likes and dislikes in someone are (of course you will no find a perfect person). And courting I see is when you find that special one. I kinda have a quesrtion is courting just dating in order to be married at the end or is it more to it? For instance like no kissing or something like that.

yes  

[sunshinehearttrob]

at my age (high schooler) i support dating. maybe later in life, courting. but i just want to explore my opinions and get to know people now, not look for a future husband.  

[Aidan Drake]

Guacamole-kun

Cometh The Inquisitor

I believe that, in this situation, the polic y 'whatever floats your boat' is the correct policy to take.

All people are different and that means that they are all not compatible with any one means of finding a partner. As long as common sense and biblical morality are used, then court, date, or what-have-you.

Couldn'ta said it better! ^^
Both are great ways of finding a mate, but both can have unfortunate outcomes if you don't use common sense and good judgment, or if you're simply inexperienced. Like with a lot of things, really. :3

Yes, I couldn't agree more! However one finds the perfect mate for them is what matters, as long as it is a Godly relationship.  

[pnai_pride777]

hmm i say courting first especially when looking for a kind companion 3nodding

courting you can do for many years. when you think about it if that person is actaully waiting that long to hear your yes then that person is willing to wait for you. thats how strong they're feeling for you is. its that they wont give up. and if or once you say yes then a date it shall be 3nodding  

[nat.wwjd.09]

Dating comes before courting. When you are courting, it is the step right before becoming engaged.  

[PoppyDadswell]

nat.wwjd.09

Dating comes before courting. When you are courting, it is the step right before becoming engaged.

actually courting was 1st.dating is a new concept.  

[xxxdeletemexxx]

I find the idea courting silly. It's completely outdated and doesn't fit today's society.

Sure, romanticize it all you want with Bible verses and stuff, but it doesn't fit. Communities today are far more different than they were a hundred years ago and before that -- you meet strangers all the time, everyone does NOT know everyone, and it seems people are associating the word 'dating' with 'bad relationships' and 'pre-marital sex'.

Courting was back when women didn't have very many rights, if any. Courting was back when there were arranged marriages more often than not. Dating is more of a personal freedom to chose. Courting is too much commitment for one budding relationship -- just because you share the same religious beliefs with someone does not mean that you can TRUST them.  

[PoppyDadswell]

Mizer Manakins

I find the idea courting silly. It's completely outdated and doesn't fit today's society.

Sure, romanticize it all you want with Bible verses and stuff, but it doesn't fit. Communities today are far more different than they were a hundred years ago and before that -- you meet strangers all the time, everyone does NOT know everyone, and it seems people are associating the word 'dating' with 'bad relationships' and 'pre-marital sex'.

Courting was back when women didn't have very many rights, if any. Courting was back when there were arranged marriages more often than not. Dating is more of a personal freedom to chose. Courting is too much commitment for one budding relationship -- just because you share the same religious beliefs with someone does not mean that you can TRUST them.

when courting you can learn to trust & heart that person and while courting you know that your partner will not two-time you or expect casual sex.i know that those who date are under pressure to have sex.  

[SinfulGuillotine]

PoppyDadswell

Mizer Manakins

I find the idea courting silly. It's completely outdated and doesn't fit today's society.

Sure, romanticize it all you want with Bible verses and stuff, but it doesn't fit. Communities today are far more different than they were a hundred years ago and before that -- you meet strangers all the time, everyone does NOT know everyone, and it seems people are associating the word 'dating' with 'bad relationships' and 'pre-marital sex'.

Courting was back when women didn't have very many rights, if any. Courting was back when there were arranged marriages more often than not. Dating is more of a personal freedom to chose. Courting is too much commitment for one budding relationship -- just because you share the same religious beliefs with someone does not mean that you can TRUST them.

when courting you can learn to trust & heart that person and while courting you know that your partner will not two-time you or expect casual sex.i know that those who date are under pressure to have sex.

You can learn to trust and love someone throught dating them, too.

And whether or not they expect sex or two-time you depends way more on the person that it does on whether or not you're courting or dating.  

[PoppyDadswell]

SinfulGuillotine

PoppyDadswell

Mizer Manakins

I find the idea courting silly. It's completely outdated and doesn't fit today's society.

Sure, romanticize it all you want with Bible verses and stuff, but it doesn't fit. Communities today are far more different than they were a hundred years ago and before that -- you meet strangers all the time, everyone does NOT know everyone, and it seems people are associating the word 'dating' with 'bad relationships' and 'pre-marital sex'.

Courting was back when women didn't have very many rights, if any. Courting was back when there were arranged marriages more often than not. Dating is more of a personal freedom to chose. Courting is too much commitment for one budding relationship -- just because you share the same religious beliefs with someone does not mean that you can TRUST them.

when courting you can learn to trust & heart that person and while courting you know that your partner will not two-time you or expect casual sex.i know that those who date are under pressure to have sex.

You can learn to trust and love someone throught dating them, too.

And whether or not they expect sex or two-time you depends way more on the person that it does on whether or not you're courting or dating.

true,but with dating there is sometimes to pressure to have casual sex.  

[Black.Irish.Kero.]

I currently have a boyfriend and we have been dating for nearly two years. Both of us are STRONG Christians and have been following and listening to God for our relationship. He is very first in our relationship, always.

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[Killroy Two Point Oh]

I like both ideas about the same. The problem for me with courting is just how to ask a girl to court with you. I mean, you want to take someone out for coffee, you say "Hey, mind if I take you for a Starbucks after class?". As for courting, I don't think "I would like to enter a serious relationship with you, and have the option to eventually marry you."  

[freelance lover]

I support both, though courting really isn't for me. I'm the kind of person and I (usually) take an extremely long time to get attached to a guy in a romantic way. So if a guy was interested in courting me, there's a good chance he would come on too strong and I would lose interest since I hate it when guys bend every whim to please me in a relationship.

That being said- I do pretty much want to marry my best friend, so getting close in a friendship type way could prehaps be considered courting though without the label.

I do feel like God needs to be the center of a relationship, but I'm not opposed to dating around. It gives you a feel for who you are and aren't compatible with and as long as both parties understand its just casual dating I don't see the harm in it.

I think, in essance, it pretty much comes down to you style.

And just putting this out there- just because you're dating it doens't mean you're under pressure to have sex. It really depends on who your dating. I have never been pressured to having sex, ever. Heck, I think sometimes in courting you can rationalize pre-marital sex by saying "Well, we're going to get married eventually."