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whoa my future adoptive mother in law (whoa that's long) is really nice well maybe cause Ive known her since i was a little girl but my real mother in law is in a coma in a hospital in London

Thank god it aint her you married!
Advice I will give you is to not let her upset you or try to get between you and your hubby.
I've got a slight problem with my future father-in-law. Now as much as he himself, my fiance and my fiance's sister say he likes me, I don't get that vibe. I have always been pretty good knowing when someone really does like me. He pretty much said he doesn't like the idea of me being with his son (this was when we announced we were engaged) and sure as hell did NOT like the idea when we told him I was pregnant (though after what he said when we told him we were engaged, I was beaming with happiness inside). Most recently though, I had to take Kyra into hospital as she had suffered from a febrile convulsion (fever fit) and had to stay overnight. Rich (my fiance) gave his dad a ring and his carer answered the phone (don't ask, long story). Well half hour later his dad called him back and said one of his carers is with his mother (understandable, his mothers ill) and the other one (who was the one who answered the phone) was 'too ill.' Now I don't give a damn that he had a sick note saying he was too ill to drive. My nan had a stroke a few months before Kyra was born and SHE was able to make the journey with my grandad driving all the way from London to Colchester general hospital to come and pick me up! That put an end to me even trying to be pleasant to my fiance's dad.

Basically what I'm saying is, she can say what she wants, do what she wants, but YOU are the one who married her son, had a child with her son, NOT with her. If you and your hubby are happy, then ignore the old wench. She's only trying to upset you and yes, I can understand it might and has, but it sounds like she can't let her son go to any girl and wants him as a mama's boy. Stay strong. And if you haven't already, talk to your hubby. Though I don't suggest giving him an altimatum of 'it's either me or your mum'. Really doesn't solve anything.

Lux911; I'm really sorry to hear that about your real mum in law, I hope she gets better, if there's a chance she can.

Luckily, I don't have to contend too much with my mother in law. She and I get along fine, even though I get annoyed sometimes by the fact that she has no idea how to manage money. I just feel sorry for Ted having to deal with my mom. She used to hit on him and we're worried she's going to try to take over the baby's life. She's already pissed because we've decided not to take the baby to religious services of any kind until she's old enough to understand that kind of thing for herself. And she's mad because we aren't going to let the baby spend the night with her alone. (Well, what does she expect? She was neglectful and abusive to my siblings and me. )

So Angelique's mother and father are very very religious, homophobic and racist. Basically narrow-minded dumbasses. Thanks to them Angelique's moving and I'm not sure if I'll see her or Marissa (our not yet born kid) ever. sweatdrop

When I say something, they basically quote a bit from the bible (or they make it up and pretend it comes from the bible, I don't know) and shut me up with it because I have no idea what they're trying to say. One day I was so sick of them I called them Nazis and not long after that they put their house up for sale. sweatdrop
Angelique can think for herself. Sbe believes there's a God, but she doesn't believe in the bible because it's man-made (you go girl! whee ).

But yeah, that's not going to get me to see her again. Ideas? sweatdrop

She does not have internet and she respects her parents enough to do what they say as long as they're within reason.

I saw her in the shopping centre not too long ago, but she was with her mum so I couldn't go and talk to her. She did see me, we had eye-contact. ninja

I am saving money, but I don't know if she is. sweatdrop My boyfriend has a house fully payed for so in an extreme case we could probably stay with him for a while.

So UPDATE on the MIL situation. It is MUCH MUCH better now. SHe's a little more tolerale now since the wedding. I guess she's fiinally come to the conclusion that I'm not going ANYWHERE. MUAHAHAHAHAHA. *ahem* Also the fact that we just moved to our new place and it's 15-20 minutes away and she is too lazy to drive out here and vice versa along with MASSIVE gas prices, we rarely see each other =3.


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