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Heh, due to wilderness.magic's eagerness to post this stuff ( wink ), I'm making this sticky a bit ahead of schedule.

Don't want to have sex with your boyfriend, but you want to be close?
Want to do something non-sexual?
Then check this sticky for some ideas. Included are wilderness.magic's information, my information, and stuff I found on the internet. If you'd like to add something, just post and I'll add it.

Warning: This thread may contain detailed descriptions of non-sexual acts. If it bothers you, please leave the thread now.

Thanks for taking the time to read this. heart
And thanks wilderness.magic for your information! 4laugh

Update: It's been decided that wilderness.magic will post her information, and I will copy and paste it to the main post (this one) for easier reference. Just wanted to let everyone know. 3nodding
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Alternatives To Having Sex

Touching and Kissing

wilderness.magic says:
"Firstly, you'd be amazed what you can do just with a few kisses. If you enjoy kissing, it can be a great thing to just lip lock. Try moving your mouth when you kiss...it is a way to stimulate the other person. Frenching can be fun...don't just thrust your tongue, but take it slowly. Run your tongue over his lips and teeth and around his gums. You can flick it in and out of his mouth if you want to do that.
To go a little farther with kissing, try kissing his neck. Don't suck on it hard enough to give him a hickie, since he might not like that, but the base of the neck, adam's apple (on a guy) and up to the ears are fun to kiss. Add some tongue if you want, and you can kiss him wetly, then blow on him to send shivers up his spine. Go slowly and sensually and with time move faster. Take it at your pace, but build, since that will really get his boat rocking normally.

The ears. A hidden sensual secret. One of the few good things my ex taught me. Did your mother ever tell you to wash behind your ears? This is why. Try nibbling (lightly, you want to more suck on, than nibble) his earlobe. If your daring and want to, you can run your tongue along the rim of his ear. My bf blows in my ear...wow. Its amazing. You can suck on the earlobe lightly, run your tongue behind the ear...all very sensual. Don't forget he has two ears also!

Backrubs also are a great sensual way to really relax someone. It won't give him a "release" normally, but it can be relaxing or highly arousing, depending on how you do it. Kiss the back of his neck and blow on it if you want to send shivers down his spine. You can just give a general back rub, which is relaxing. Try bracing your chest against his back when he's sitting and pull his shoulders back towards you. It straightens his spine and will relieve neck and back aches. You can run your hands along his biceps and arms, and also along his chest, depending on what you want.
Back rubs are a lot of fun and are a good thing you can do for eachother that isn't as sexual...but it can be very sensual depending on how you do it."


Dry Humping

Taken from: http://www.teenwire.com/index.asp?taStrona=http://www.teenwire.com/ask/articles/as_20010810p261.asp

"Dry humping" is slang for when two people rub their bodies together for sexual stimulation ? with their clothes on. Dry humping is a form of sex play known as outercourse ? which is almost the same as foreplay, except that outercourse does not lead to intercourse, and foreplay usually does lead to intercourse.

Dry humping is considered a safer sex activity because no body fluids are exchanged between partners.

Besides body rubbing, outercourse can also include masturbation, deep kissing, erotic massage, role playing, and sharing fantasies with a partner.

Both partners can feel some pretty intense and extreme pleasure from this and be stimulated to orgasm. A little creativity and imagination are all it takes.

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wilderness.magic says:
"Dry humping can be a great way to give your partner a form of release. Dry humping can be done in a varying degree of clothing, from fully clothed to just boxers and panties. Basically, it is simulated sex. I don't know how much detail I can actually go into here, but you can find all kinds of ways to do it so it feels good for you and your partner.
Something fun to do is manual stimulation to get you and your partner aroused and then finish with the humping...or vice versa. Depends on how you "get off" better, I suppose. If you want some more advice on this issue, feel free to ask or PM me.
As with manual stimulation, you can do it with clothing on. I don't recommend doing it with a guy who is wearing something that zippers, since that can get painful fairly quickly. If you don't get it, PM me. Sweatpants are an easy solution, or if you are comfortable, you can do it on top of his boxers and not worry about feeling anything too much. Tell him if you are uncomfortable with feeling him "come" and he can let you know and can find a way to prevent that from happening with you there."

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More Information on Dry-Humping

Taken from: http://www.teenwire.com/ask/2001/as-20010810p261.php

"Dry humping" is slang for when two people rub their bodies together for sexual stimulation ? with their clothes on. Dry humping is a form of sex play known as outercourse ? which is almost the same as foreplay, except that outercourse does not lead to intercourse, and foreplay usually does lead to intercourse.

Dry humping is considered a safer sex activity because no body fluids are exchanged between partners.

Besides body rubbing, outercourse can also include masturbation, deep kissing, erotic massage, role playing, and sharing fantasies with a partner.

Both partners can feel some pretty intense and extreme pleasure from this and be stimulated to orgasm.

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Taken from: http://www.teenwire.com/ask/2003/as-20030808p623-dry.php

Pregnancy can occur any time ejaculate or pre-ejaculate is spilled in the v****a, or on or near the vulva. "Dry sex" usually refers to body rubbing between two partners who keep their clothes on. It's considered a safer sex activity because no body fluids are exchanged between partners.

However, if partners engage in body rubbing without their clothes on, there is a chance that ejaculate or pre-ejaculate may come into contact with the vulva or v****a ? which can cause pregnancy, even if partners don't actually have vaginal intercourse. Using female or latex condoms helps reduce the risk of pregnancy and infection.

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Taken from: http://www.teenwire.com/ask/2005/as-20050222p970-condoms.php

Good for you for using condoms ? they're up to 98 percent effective against pregnancy when used consistently and correctly.

It is important to put on a condom before the p***s is inserted into the v****a ? even if it's only inserted once, quickly. Penises can leak fluid called pre-ejaculate (or "pre-c**"), which can contain sperm from a previous ejaculation. Pregnancy can happen when ejaculate or pre-ejaculate gets in the v****a or on the vulva.

Latex and female condoms also reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Many infections, like herpes, genital warts, and syphilis, can be passed just from skin-to-skin contact. And pre-ejaculate can carry infections, such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, and HIV. That's why it's best to always have a condom in place before the p***s touches the vulva or v****a.

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Taken from: No. It isn't possible to get pregnant from grinding ? dancing with bodies pressed against each other. Pregnancy is only possible if ejaculate or pre-ejaculate gets in the v****a or on the vulva. No matter how close or how intense the "grinding," is, dancing with clothes on cannot cause pregnancy.

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How to Deal With "Urges"
Someone asked me to post some information on this, so I'll give it a shot.
If you feel the urge to have sex, be sexual, but you're nervous and not sure how to deal with them, try:

1) Doing something to take your mind off the urges. Read, watch a movie, get out of the house. Go for a walk. Swim, Bike-ride. Try a sport or hobby. Keep yourself away from things that might remind you of sex, or of your urges.

2) Masturbate. This might relieve some sexual tension, and will probably just help make the person feel better overall. It also helps one know their own body better, since they're exploring it firsthand to find out what they like best.

3) Talk to someone about it. If someone else is experiencing the same things or the same urges you are, it might make you feel better to talk to someone who is going through what you are.

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More will be added later. heart

Mew...outercourse.....thats very funny to think about X3 ((rubbing clothes together))

I agree!!! X3 it sounds like to ppl trying to rub their clothes together without having their skin to touch! XD ((at least thats what it sounds like to me!))

I FIND THAT A GREAT WAY TO PLEASURE MY PARTNER WITH OUT HAVING SEX IS TOO........

1) BOTH GET ALONE AND MAKE SURE THE DOOR IS LOCKED

2) GET NAKIE (BOTH OF YOU BUT THE GUY BEING NAKIE IS NOT A MUST)

3) KISS HER MOUTH AND USE YOUR TOUNG

4) KISS JUST UNDER JAW BONE AND MAKE YOUR WAY DOWN HER NECK WITH LITTLE KISSES

5)KEEP ON KISSING RIGHT DOWN PAST HER COLLAR BONE AND ONTO HER BREST

6)KISS ALL THE WAY DOWN HER BREAST AND ONTO HER n****e

7) MAKE THE END OF YOUR TOUNG REALLY HARD (LIKE IT HAS JUST HAD A SHOT OF VIAGRA) AND LICK HER n****e MAKING SURE TO PRESS PRETTY HARD

IF SHE FEELS GOOD ENOUGH (SHE ALMOST CERTAINLY WILL) SHE WILL DO THE REST
BUT IF YOU ARE A TRUE GENTELMAN GIVE HER SOME VAGINAL STIMULATION WITH ONE HAND HAS YOU HOLD THE BACK OF YOUR HEAD WITH THE OTHER

TRUST ME THIS WORKS WONDERS!!!!!
AND THERE IS A 0% CHANCE OF GETTING PREGNANT
A GRANTEE OF MAKING HER ORGASUM
AFTERWADS YOU CAN JERK OFF OR DO SOME THING ELSE (BJ)

AND I MADE ALL THAT UP ON THE SPOT (WHEN IT WAS NEEDED)
OH YEAH
HOW COOL AM I cool

I can't get off from finger stimulation of any sort. I masturbate in prone position, so most sex positions don't work. Oh, and did I mention that oral sex doesn't work on ********, I am such a horny person with next to nothing to do about it.

I can attest to this kind of "sex". I was with my girlfriend while we were visiting her parents. They asked her to "not sully their house with our heathen ways". Basically, they said no sex. So we didn't. We did not have "sex". Oh but we had muuuuuuch more. *floats back to that place* cool

MAYBE VIBRATION WILL HELP YOU OUT HERE
DO YOU HAVE AN ELECTRIC TOOTHBRUSH?

(IF YOU TRY THAT PLEASE WASH IT BEFORE AND AFTER USE)

mrgreen