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 Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 12:18 pm
It feels like everything is getting worse between Charlie and I. I always seem to offend him. He complains about things like the Honor Code, how I interact with my friends as compared to him, and that we don't get to see each other as much as he wants to. I wanted to come here to get an education. He chose to come here. He could have stayed home. It just doesn't feel like my best is good enough for him, even though he says it is. I just feel like I'm playing a role in a bad teen soap opera.
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 4:10 pm
first off, let me inform you that you are a beautiful daughter of God that rivals the Gods (sacralige? nah...).
now that that is out of the way, let us asses the issue at hand.
1.) you think things are getting worse
2.) he is your boyfriend (obvious, i know. but let's focus here...)
3.) you came for education, he came for......you?
4.) honor code? wha?
5.) he complains about the way you treat him vs your friends, yet says your best is enough? huh? sombody is lying about SOMETHING....
6.) teen opera, ect...
alrighty, i never get on gaia and post anymore, but i got bored today and i saw your topic, so i'm going to try to help you (brace yourself.)
DUMP THE GUY.
sorry, but i must insist. he's probably a nice guy and all, but he's got issues to work out (or you do, i haven't heard his side).
you are supposed to date people that make you feel good about yourself and make you happy. this guy isn't doing either.
now you can try talking to him (actually, do this first... sweatdrop ). tell him how you feel. you shouldn't have to feel like you are being scrutinized whenever you hang out with this guy.
there, my two cents. emo
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 4:59 pm
What dersephy said is wise.
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 5:01 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 5:05 pm
*pats dersephy's halo* ninja
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 7:41 pm
BYU Website Church Educational System Honor Code Brigham Young University, Brigham Young University-Hawaii, Brigham Young University-Idaho, and LDS Business College exist to provide an education in an atmosphere consistent with the ideals and principles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. That atmosphere is created and preserved through commitment to conduct that reflects those ideals and principles. Members of the faculty, administration, staff, and student body at BYU, BYU-H, BYU-I, and LDSBC are selected and retained from among individuals who voluntarily live the principles of the gospel of Jesus Christ. Observance of such is a specific condition of employment and admission. Those individuals who are not members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints are also expected to maintain the same standards of conduct, except church attendance. All who represent BYU, BYU-H, BYU-I, and LDSBC are to maintain the highest standards of honor, integrity, morality, and consideration of others in personal behavior. By accepting appointment on the faculty, continuing in employment, or continuing class enrollment, individuals evidence their commitment to observe the Honor Code standards approved by the Board of Trustees "at all times and . . . in all places" (Mosiah 18:9). Honor Code Statement We believe in being honest, true, chaste, benevolent, virtuous, and in doing good to all men... If there is anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy, we seek after these things (Thirteenth Article of Faith). As a matter of personal commitment, students, faculty, and staff of Brigham Young University, Brigham Young University-Hawaii, Brigham Young University-Idaho, and LDS Business College are expected to demonstrate in daily living on and off campus those moral virtues encompassed in the gospel of Jesus Christ, and will * Be honest * Live a chaste and virtuous life * Obey the law and all campus policies * Use clean language * Respect others * Abstain from alcoholic beverages, tobacco, tea, coffee, and substance abuse * Observe Dress and Grooming Standards * Participate regularly in church services * Encourage others in their commitment to comply with the BYU Honor Code Specific policies embodied in the Honor Code include: * Academic Honesty Academic Honesty * Dress and Grooming Standards * Residential Living Standards * Continuing Student Ecclesiastical Endorsement
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 9:02 pm
Maki Minakoaino What dersephy said is wise. Seph said something wise?
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Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 2:01 am
Dragonwarrior_Keltyr Maki Minakoaino What dersephy said is wise. Seph said something wise? shocking, isn't it?
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Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 7:20 am
I agree. I got myself in the same situation and I had to dig my way out, seriously. You'd better talk to him or dump him. It's the only way to true happiness. :3
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Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 9:41 am
Maki Minakoaino Dragonwarrior_Keltyr Maki Minakoaino What dersephy said is wise. Seph said something wise? shocking, isn't it? Very. Wisdom beyond what we see he has. *yoda impression* Just dump the guy. If he's being controling now, it's best to get out of the relationship. Otherwise, if you two ever did get married, you'd be on prozac for life. xp ANd that's not a real marrage at all.(course this is coming from a girl with absolutely no experiance with men)
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Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 4:30 pm
dating is like trying on clothes. If a piece of clothing doesn't fit right, take it off and try another.
remember, you shouldn't marry sombody thinking you can change their ways later. you get what you marry. burning_eyes
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Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 5:52 pm
dersephy dating is like trying on clothes. If a piece of clothing doesn't fit right, take it off and try another. remember, you shouldn't marry sombody thinking you can change their ways later. you get what you marry. burning_eyes That's good advice (once again)
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Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 7:05 pm
Random advice that may also be appropriate:
You marry who you date and you date who you hang out with. Choose your friends wisely.
And definitely always pray about marriage if the relationship seems to be heading in that direction.
(Not assuming you haven't done these things, just adding a general reminder.)
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Posted: Fri Sep 29, 2006 7:32 am
I can't really elaborate much, but I WILL re-emphasize. This is the EXACT way Robert has been treating me for the past 4 YEARS. Yeah, that's right, since I was in 8th grade. I always told him not to get too serious, and now he's obsessive . . . I just stopped talking to him (see thread "I can't believe I just . . ." for more details).
Anyway, thing is is that if he's complaining about the Honor Code, then he's not living it, which means he's more than likely lying to you about most of everything. I'd give that about a 99.9% chance. You can't let him control your life. Tell him that he can't. If he has that much of a problem with it, you're going to have to do what I did to Robert. Yeah, it's hard, and strange not talking to him now, but I know I'm already better for it.
Education is more important than guys, in my opinion, as you can always find someone new, whether in this life, or the next, but you can't always get the same educational experience. What's sad is that most girls don't see it this way. They'd rather get married as soon as possible, sacrificing their education, and other things like it. (Actually, one of the girls that was in my group at EFY is getting married in a month or so and she's only 18.) Think about it this way: if you stay with him, you'll be miserable, for one, and what if something happens to him, and you've sacrificed your education for him? What would happen to you? I agree with dersephy: just get rid of him.
If you need any moral support, or what have you, feel EXTREMELY free to message me, talk to me on messenger, or which ever way you wish to contact me.
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Posted: Sat Sep 30, 2006 8:21 am
He wants me to go to college to get an education, but he doesn't want to get an education himself. He'll get his GED, but he only wants to do that because I want him to get it. He doesn't care about himself enough to want to do all he can to ensure a secure future for our family. He has a job that if someone in management leaves, he'll make a good amount of money, but that is an if situation, and the place might lay him off if there is an economic recession (he works at a car lot). He doesn't understand that life, no matter how planned out it will be, has random events that could ruin everything in moments. I try to tell him this, but he just shrugs it off because I seem to be emotional. He gets jealous about Jordan, which he shouldn't. He also wants to do more things physically than is allowed in the Honor Code. I care about him, but a future with him is seeming less appealing as the days roll on.
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