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 Posted: Mon Sep 25, 2006 6:19 am
I can't believe I just told my ex off!
sweatdrop
On the other hand, I know there's nothing left for me with him. He's STILL trying to control me, even after all these years . . . Gyahhh . . . I'm going to go . . . do something else now. Bye ><"
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 9:50 am
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 10:52 am
Haha . . . well . . . they're mostly on the computer at home, but let me see what I can dig up from what I e-mailed to Dave.
Background info: Robert is my ex. He now lives in Florida. I've been saving my money to travel up to Canada to see my friend Dave (this is why I e-mailed this to him, because it somewhat concerns him) . . . Anyway . . . here's the first part of it:
Phoenix Echo: hey
Roberto: hey
Phoenix Echo: back from the ER, or have you gone yet?
Roberto: im goin to the ER here in about an hour or 2
Phoenix Echo: oh ok.
Phoenix Echo: i calculated last night how much money i would need to get to canada and back, and i have enough, plus some to spare . . . but i have to get my tires changed >>"
Phoenix Echo: so, in theory i have the extra money to go down there, if i wanted, but then technically, i don't, because i need new tires before i go anywhere . . .
Roberto: to go down where?
Roberto: here, or canada?
Phoenix Echo: there. but i'd still have to get tires first . . . so i can't.
Roberto: so come here instead of canada.
Phoenix Echo: no. i'm going to canada.
Roberto: i'm going up there rather than texas.
Phoenix Echo: . . . i'm going to canada.
Roberto: but why?
Roberto: what the _____ is there in canada?
Phoenix Echo: my friend dave, who i'd like to actually see for once. i'm not going up there until the end of june . ..
Roberto: well that figures.
Roberto: i know how my life works
Roberto: you know everytime i wanna be with someone there's always somebody else standing in the way.
Roberto: and of course she always goes with him.
Phoenix Echo: don't think for a second that i don't like you, robert. i just . . . you hurt me, and frankly, i don't want to live through that again, so i'd rather just avoid that crap, thanks.
Phoenix Echo: besides, how could i, with you getting mad at me all the time? it seems like for the past week or so, you've been getting mad at me about every couple of seconds. like now. or, at least it's seemed that way.
Roberto: no phoenix, you've hurt me so many times and gotten mad at me all the time so many times for little or no reason at all. i'm not perfect, i can't see what it is that you need all the time constantly. and it seems that whenever that happens you get upset with me.
Phoenix Echo: fine, so it goes both ways. just screw it. i dont' want to live through that crap anymore, robert, i'm sorry.
Roberto: why are you so afraid?
Roberto: if you want something you go out and fight for it, you don't sit around and shy away from it.
Roberto: what would you learn from not going after it?
Phoenix Echo: i'm not afraid. i'm just sick and tired of you and me.
Roberto: well i'm sick and tired of you and other guys.
Phoenix Echo: well sorry, but i was sick and tired of you and other girls. thought i might like to have a life of my own.
Roberto: and i gave you that for 3 years.
Roberto: i sat through you talking about that guy that you dated after me.
Roberto: and about barret.
Roberto: and josh.
Roberto: and dave.
Roberto: and all these other guys
Phoenix Echo: dave is a friend. nothing more. just because i want to go visit him shouldn't be anything to you. i mean, what about you, talking about cassondra? what about you flying out to vegas to meet her? don't i have the same right to do that as you do?
Phoenix Echo: i'm not your property. i don't belong to you. i never did. and visa versa.
Roberto: i went out to las vegas because cassondra and i had real potential.
Roberto: why would you drive 1700 miles ONE WAY to visit "just a friend."
Phoenix Echo: 1411.25
Roberto: if he wanted to see you just as badly, he would come down and see you. or at least meet you in chicago rather than making you drive all the way to winnipeg.
Phoenix Echo: he's not making me. i want to go to canada. i've never been outside of the country.
Roberto: you do realize that you have to have someone 18 or older with you to go out of the country right?
Roberto: if you're under 18
Phoenix Echo: i'm going this summer
Phoenix Echo: did you forget my birthday again?
Roberto: no i didn't.
Roberto: ok then.
Roberto: you do what you want to do.
Phoenix Echo: all right.
Roberto: but i don't want you coming to me and saying "well i do still like you robert"
Roberto: "te extrano"*
Roberto: "te quiero"**
Roberto: cuz it's all ________ apparently.
Phoenix Echo: good luck on your ER visit.
*I miss you
**I like you
THEN he goes on to say that he doesn't want me to go to Utah, tries to talk me out of getting married in the temple, etc. It was a big mess. I ended up e-mailing him, saying this:
Robert,
Listen, this isn't going to work out. Obviously you don't believe that it's over between us. It is. Also, you think that I'm yours. I'm not. I'm my own person, and I deserve to have my own life: one that's NOT controlled by you. I'm sorry, but nothing's really going to work out. I obviously can't still tell you that I like you, because then you read too much into it. I can't try to be your friend, because you still try to control me. I can't handle it. I can't stand it. I won't. This is goodbye, Robert, whether you like it or not. I'm sorry you're hurt, but you've hurt me too much as it is, and I'm not going to put up with it anymore. Hope you get well soon.
Sincerely,
Samantha
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 11:40 am
wow....
all i have to say is....
YOU GO, GIRL!!!!!!! good for you. no one needs to be in a controlling relationship like that. I admire you for trying to remain friends with him. but it obviously wasn't the best thing for you.
(granted, i don't have both sides of the story, but i'm trying to be encouraging.)
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 12:45 pm
Maki Minakoaino wow.... all i have to say is.... YOU GO, GIRL!!!!!!! good for you. no one needs to be in a controlling relationship like that. I admire you for trying to remain friends with him. but it obviously wasn't the best thing for you. (granted, i don't have both sides of the story, but i'm trying to be encouraging.) Well, see, I thought he was a nice guy -- at first he was -- but now, 3 years after the "separation" (neither of us can agree on who dumped who), and after 6 months of not even talking to me, he starts this crap. It's not right, it's freaking annoying, and I don't need it, especially now, since it's my senior year of school.
stressed
He was trying to disuade me from going to BYU, to go somewhere closer to him -- if not the same college as him -- and then tried to talk me out of a temple marriage. I'm just sick and tired of it, and thought I'd share it with you all, since I need a place to rant about it, anyway, and share my testimony of never settling for junk like this! NEVER do it! It'll ruin your life!
gonk
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 5:04 pm
again I say: You go girl! I admire you! Stand up for your beliefs and do what YOU know is right. NEVER SETTLE, and NEVER give up your dream of a temple marriage.
I think you have handled this trial well.....
.......forgive him, eventually, for your own sake. wink (just a little advice)
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 5:13 pm
Wow, he's a jerk. Good for you!
And this is a little off topic, but is Gaia running a little slow for anybody else?
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Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 8:11 am
Well done. I hate how he talks about how it was okay for him to visit that other girl because she had real potential or whatever. Like it's okay for him to consider others, but not okay for you? Forget that crap! You deserve someone who has more respect for you, and respect for what you believe in!
It was really nice of you to try to be friends with him anyway, but it's pretty obvious now that he's not mature enough to handle that. If you keep talking to him, he's only going to let himself think you need it and he'll get worse.
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Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 9:10 am
sweatdrop
Thank you guys for your support.
@Maki: Thanks for the advice. I plan to. Actually, I keep trying, but then he keeps pulling these stunts. Maybe in a year, or so. *shrug* I don't know, but again, thanks.
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