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I don't really think being made fun of causes someone to change their sexual orientation. You're either predestined to be straight, gay, or bi from the time you're born; or you're made to turn out one of those ways by the people you grow up with (whether they're straight, gay, or bi). This is why I think gay people should not be allowed to get married and adopt. It will just result in more of our children turning out gay.

I think that this kind of harassment can make people want to experiment with members of the same sex and try things out, but that they truthfully cannot change them. In other words, you might think the same gender is more understanding, but if you're straight, you'll still only get sexually aroused by the opposite one.

I also think that those who do experiment will readily discover that people of the same sex can be just as big perverts and assholes as the other gender.

i dont think thats true honestly. i doubt science has found a "gay gene". people develop homosexual tendancies early in life, thats true. but most dont become gay until something life altering happens. much like how people change (sometimes) after a near fatal incident. people find it, they discover that about themselves.
ive been teased so much by both sexes when i was younger that i truely doubted where i stood (hence the multiple suicide attempts in junior high.) i had gay friends and truely wondered about myself (they also LEARNED that they were gay, none of them were gay to begin with, they figured it out.....think of it like finding a secret in a video game lol. but i found out during 9th grade that i was straight after a the first couple of dances (bump and grind is my savior lol). people had been so condisending on me before and their own name calling almost made me what they yelled at me about. im not a homophobe but thankfully i figured out that i love the female sex better than the male. never found them arounsing (thank god) and quite honestly, sometimes i honestly hate guys because the steriotypes they gave the rest of us.
i personally like gay people, people paint them with such a negative image and its sadening. they are just like the rest of us....only they like each other sweatdrop
i find it funny that most guys are afraid of them, like a good gay friend of mine said: "Just because im gay doesnt mean you have to be scared of. Im not automatically interested in you....you U-G-L-E-H!"

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i think that just that people ridicule gays so much just makes people more curious about the whole thing.. im straight but thats how it is for me whee if a homosexual person hits on me ill still take it as a compliment, cause hey, at least someone is bound to think im attractive gonk whee

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Exactly. Until you get to an age where you look at people in "a certain way," you really don't know about your sexuality. It's always there, you just...have to figure it out.

I don't think being teased/picked on/put down/insulted/etc. has a direct effect on sexual orientation. It might just be one step distant, but I'm fairly sure it isn't the immediate cause. Insults tend instead to lead to feelings of social isolation, and from there we adapt as we need to. It seems to me that you sought solace in the gender that insulted you less, which you gradually began to grow an attraction for.

Direct? No. Part of the reason? Possible, if not likely.

And Sketch, I gotta disagree. I wouldn't think that most homosexuals and bisexuals become that way due to life-altering experiences. I have no doubt that there are those who do, but I don't think it's a majority. I'd suspect either a gradual change, realized in the turbulent years of puberty, or a genuine disinterest in the opposite gender from the get-go.

Back to the questions, other issues caused by the insulting, etc. are low self-esteem and depression, and a host of others that are hard to name or really complicated.

And no worries, Judyfay. Someone had to do it. wink

truer words were never sencored. 3nodding