Welcome to Gaia! ::

So your family is not willing to help support you? What about your fiance, can he help pay for some of the baby's things? What about medical bills, who will pay those if you don't have insurance? What about welfare?

If you're unable to have money to pay for the baby and the things the baby needs, you need to seriously reconsider whether or not you can afford to keep this baby. You need to think about what's best for the baby, not what you or your fiance what. If you have no money, raising a child is going to be very difficult. Perhaps an abortion or adoption (closed or open) would be a better option for the baby.

If you can't even deal with the stress your father is putting on you, how are you even going to cope with a screaming newborn who is 100% dependent on you to provide for it and care for it? What are you going to do about your schooling after you have the baby? What about a job, to provide for you and your baby? What is your fiance going to do in all of this?

There's tons of other help available to pregnant women besides just foodstamps and welfare. If you haven't already, I suggest you sign up for WIC and Medicaid. Both should be available to you (according to your own words). WIC will augment your current foodtsamps with more baby/pregnancy-specific supplies and Medicaid will pay for all pregnancy-related medical bills and they will provide medical insurance for your child once it's born. I used to be on all these programs at some point, so feel free to ask (PM me) if you need more details or clarification.

Then, you and your baby's fathr need to get jobs. How old are you guys? I'm assuming you're st least hiring age. If so, the take WHATEVER jobs you can get. ANY income is better than NO income. This may mean swallowing your pride and working somewhere that isn't very cool... like janitorial services, general laborers, or even fast food. I've done all 3 (as well as my husband) at some point. No shame in it. And of course, that's only 3 examples. There are PLENTY of other jobs an inexperienced/young person can get. But if you're physically able and have no other obligations (such as schooling) then there's no reason not to work if you're that desparate for money for the baby and its needs.

As for your dad, lots of parents flip out or become emotionally despondent when they first hear of an unplanned pregnancy (especially if that unplanned pregnancy is happenin to their young, unwed daughter). So this is actually kind of normal. Give him time to adjust! Hell, I was already married when I became pregnant the first time, and my family still took it with a grain of salt because we were still a young, inexperienced couple with an unplanned pregnancy on our hands suddenly.

I'm not saying that this means your dad WILL accept it eventually, but he certainly may if given the chance. Just take his reaction with a grain of salt, but keep the communication lines open since he could change his mind. 3nodding

And, out of curiosity, what does "some bs story about whats going on in texas" refer to?

If your Grandmother and friend is helping you out, that's awesome! Just make sure they know you appreciate them for it. But don't let others' kindnesses deter you from trying to support yourself. Always remember that this is *your* pregnancy, not theirs.

And, as Nikolita said, you have to put the baby's best interests first. So if that means that abortion/adoption would be better for it, then keep an open mind.

Buy a bike. Find a way to get a job and make an income. It's possible to get a job without owning a car. Use public transit, walk, ride a bike, get a ride with a friend, etc. Otherwise I wouldn't really say you're "ready and prepared for this baby". Last I heard, be ready and prepared meant having a place to live, having things and necessities for the baby, having MONEY to spend on the baby as well as for yourself, and so on and so on.

It's not fair to the baby to bring it into a shitty situation in life just because you "can't bear to give him/her up." There are such things as open adoption (and abortion) for a reason. At the very least, open adoption would be something to look into, because it allows you to still be involved in your baby's life (to a degree).

If you want to keep the baby, I'd suggest doing things and making things happen in order to ensure you're able to keep the baby and raise it properly. Get a job. If possible, find somewhere else to live if you don't want to/can't bear to live with your father. Make plans for a future education when you have the money again. Do something about your situation if it's so horrible for you. Deal with Adult Protective Services if you need to, get that cleared up or whatever needs to be done.

I am not trying to be a b***h, nor harsh or anything like that, just so you know. If I come off that way, I don't mean to be.


On a side note, your post was really hard to read. If you could seperate long posts into paragraphs, and use proper grammar and sentence structure, it'd be appreciated. 3nodding It's much easier to reply and give advice when one is able to actually read what you're saying.

february 19th is the due date y'all

thanks a lot!!