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Just don't date. That's my cement-solid decision. Date one person only, the person you want to marry, idealistic, yes. True, of course. You don't want to build intimacy with someone who's gonna leave.

i'd have to agree with that too. when you finally accept the fact that you may be alone for the rest of your life, thas when God will say your ready, and he'll provide you with the right person for you. Plus, people call their bf/gf theirs, when in reality, they may be someone elses. so if you do date, dont spend your time making out, cuz thas the time you could be using to determine if they're the right person for you. Dont go on dates to the movies where something can happen, go to a cafe where theres lots of people. But the biggest thing of all, is to pursue God in the thick of it all. Love is like a triangle, you and the other person on the bottom, God at the top. The more you pursue God, the closer you will get to each other. Lastly, dont pray with someone (opposite gender) unless you are married, or engaged, because you will be binding your souls together that way. So dont bind your soul with someone its not suposed to. There, thas all.. tha i know. But dating shouldnt be taken lightly. its a big thing, because it'll effect the biggest decision of your life.

But how will you decide whether your children go to church, or if they will be christians or not?

I cannot completely agree with you there, but you do have a very good point in most cases.
I have been Catholic for many years of my childhood and the other 6-7 I have been a Christian. I have always believed in God, but only when I became a Christian have I truly developed a special bond.
If I had stuck with Catholicism, then I may have veered later in life, but only this year have I truly and whole-heartedly accepted him. I am driving your point right now and I know that, but I have a few friends that I cannot say the same for. They have broken away after converting because they saught after the wordly life rather than a Relationship with their creator.

I am going to be 17 in roughly 2 months and I can honeslty say that even after being a fully converted Christian for 5-6 years I have just recently accepted him... I mean that I have just truly accepted him about 2 days ago. neutral eek

This all ties into my girl problems too, believe it or not! xd

I was talking to the girl that I like late the night/early that morning when she called ma round 3:30 in the morning. She had been having serious problems with a boy that she liked and never told me about. I talked to her for about 3 hours and never slept that night... She had broken my heart three times over that night, but she had mended it so quickly after that. She told me that she had sex the previous winter and that she had been trying to find out why she had done it. She drinks on occassion and she had been dating some real jerks.

I was always scared to ask those questions before, but she poured out her hear to me that night. She has told almost no one other than me.
I have only known her for 4 weeks and she told me what kind of burdens she had been carrying all this time.

The way that she had mended my heart was simply by revealing to me that, even though she may not go to church, she is definatly looking for God to help her. She hates her past, but is slowly becoming a great person.
She used to be a non-Christian at heart, but claimed to be one on the outside.
I love her for just saying that and I don't mean that I love her as if I wanted to be with her forever. She is a beautiful person inside (cute on the outside too! wink ).

GAH!!!!!! I'M RANTING!!!! crying crying crying

Anyways, for the record. I have no problem with dating a non-Christian. It definatly strengthens your own relationship with God. also, how can you learn what not to do if you have never done it or was never informed about it? confused
I have learned how to accept these things and grow with them.

Also, from dating non-Christians, I have learned who I really am and that I truly do want to follow Him.

I will also agree that dating a Christian is all the more fruitful, though. I dated one, as awkward as it was, being that I as her first bf, it was still fun. I am great friends with her still and I can't say that for most of my non-Christian girlfriends. 3nodding

Dating both sides has its benefits and its consiquences.

((Edit: I am truly sorry if some of that made no sense and/or was not even relative to the topic. I am kind of dead because of dealing with the girl I spoke of. I am still suffering from a lack of sleep. sweatdrop ))

i say that u can date someone that is not a christian but at least try to get them to church

personally, I'd naver date a non-christian. It just makes it easier and given that dating is hard enough already anything that makes it easier is a plus. As well, I'd hate to brong a non-christian boyfriend to church and have him convert, how do I know if he just did it because he wanted to get closer to me? And Christians put physical limits on their relationships, you'd have to find a really good non-christian guy to trust that they'll always respect that.