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 Posted: Fri Sep 01, 2006 7:44 pm
Alright, before anyone says anything... I just wanted to say that I'm very head strong in my beliefs, and I really don't think I'm gonna let that down for some guy. I also believe I can possibly turn him into a Christian. He's my boyfriend, but we havn't really don't anything serious. Actually, we havn't really done much of anything. We havn't kissed, held hands, or even sit that close to each other. He's pretty shy, and really funny. Weird how opposites attract... He's also very protective of me. Like if his friend's are all up in my face, he tells them to back off, it's really sweet.
So... any thoughts on that? I'm willing to stretch the story out a little bit more if you'd like anymore info. but that's what I think everyone can know for now!
Peace, and God bless.
Thanks for reading! xd
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Posted: Fri Sep 01, 2006 8:54 pm
...Sashie... ( Sorry if this offends anyone, and most if these statements are directed to female high-schoolers/people still in school... particularly middle schoolers/high schoolers. You can apply them to your own life, though.)
Hmm... if you are confident that you can attain salvation through the Lord, by all means, go ahead. I would just say to do nothing indecent or against God.
A pastor once said to me: Date with the intention of Marriage.
I believe in that statement, which is why made a promise to God not to date until Senior year of high school (three more years... ). I mean, what are you going to do if you don't have a car, and are distracted with studies? He's going to seriously distract you, and what are you going to do? What is your intention of going out with him at such an age? See yourself a couple of years later, say two or three. Are you still going out with him? I'd probably think not.
I'm attracted to really headstrong believers in Christ... >.>
( BTW, sorry if it doesn't make any sense. I just put a jumble of words out, hoping it'll make sense.. ) -KrnChiChiRi DO NOT RANDOMLY PM ME. FAILURE TO DO SO WILL RESULT IN REPORTING.
(( Unless you are awesome and I know you or you have a good reason to PM me. )) ...Sashie...
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Posted: Fri Sep 01, 2006 8:58 pm
Wisdom Power Love Alright, before anyone says anything... I just wanted to say that I'm very head strong in my beliefs, and I really don't think I'm gonna let that down for some guy. I also believe I can possibly turn him into a Christian. He's my boyfriend, but we havn't really don't anything serious. Actually, we havn't really done much of anything. We havn't kissed, held hands, or even sit that close to each other. He's pretty shy, and really funny. Weird how opposites attract... He's also very protective of me. Like if his friend's are all up in my face, he tells them to back off, it's really sweet. So... any thoughts on that? I'm willing to stretch the story out a little bit more if you'd like anymore info. but that's what I think everyone can know for now! Peace, and God bless. Thanks for reading! xd You said you believe you can turn your boyfriend into a christian. If you haven't done this already, place Him in God's hands through prayer. Prayer will make a major difference and I know. My husband was a christian before I was and all he did was pray for me. Others were praying for my conversion as well. If you know other christians who will pray for your boyfriend, the more the merrier. biggrin Hmmm... I can pray for your boyfriend too. 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Sep 01, 2006 9:31 pm
krnchichiri ...Sashie... ( Sorry if this offends anyone, and most if these statements are directed to female high-schoolers/people still in school... particularly middle schoolers/high schoolers. You can apply them to your own life, though.)
Hmm... if you are confident that you can attain salvation through the Lord, by all means, go ahead. I would just say to do nothing indecent or against God.
A pastor once said to me: Date with the intention of Marriage.
I believe in that statement, which is why made a promise to God not to date until Senior year of high school (three more years... ). I mean, what are you going to do if you don't have a car, and are distracted with studies? He's going to seriously distract you, and what are you going to do? What is your intention of going out with him at such an age? See yourself a couple of years later, say two or three. Are you still going out with him? I'd probably think not.
I'm attracted to really headstrong believers in Christ... >.>
( BTW, sorry if it doesn't make any sense. I just put a jumble of words out, hoping it'll make sense.. ) -KrnChiChiRi DO NOT RANDOMLY PM ME. FAILURE TO DO SO WILL RESULT IN REPORTING.
(( Unless you are awesome and I know you or you have a good reason to PM me. )) ...Sashie... No no, that made sense, and I value your opinion. And like your pastor, I believe that aswell. And well, I'm not going to make a promise like that, if God intends for me to date someone right now, and learn from it. I would like to have some experience with that, while still valuing God in all I do. And, to add to this... We've called each other I think a total of 4 or 5 times, and well, havn't even seen each other once. It's almost at the point of being nothing... Kind of saddening... Probably because I've already found the love of my life (God) and well, it's more of a companion thing that I'm looking for I guess... as for love, we'll see.
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Posted: Fri Sep 01, 2006 9:33 pm
Allythea Wisdom Power Love Alright, before anyone says anything... I just wanted to say that I'm very head strong in my beliefs, and I really don't think I'm gonna let that down for some guy. I also believe I can possibly turn him into a Christian. He's my boyfriend, but we havn't really don't anything serious. Actually, we havn't really done much of anything. We havn't kissed, held hands, or even sit that close to each other. He's pretty shy, and really funny. Weird how opposites attract... He's also very protective of me. Like if his friend's are all up in my face, he tells them to back off, it's really sweet. So... any thoughts on that? I'm willing to stretch the story out a little bit more if you'd like anymore info. but that's what I think everyone can know for now! Peace, and God bless. Thanks for reading! xd You said you believe you can turn your boyfriend into a christian. If you haven't done this already, place Him in God's hands through prayer. Prayer will make a major difference and I know. My husband was a christian before I was and all he did was pray for me. Others were praying for my conversion as well. If you know other christians who will pray for your boyfriend, the more the merrier. biggrin Hmmm... I can pray for your boyfriend too. 3nodding lol, know wouldn't that be amazing if that happened to him aswell? But seriously, I appreciate that you would do that, thank you. And ya, maybe I should start praying about that aswell.
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Posted: Sat Sep 02, 2006 8:20 am
i think it is fine to have relationships with non-christians as long as they don't start tearing your beliefs down, at that point, its time to say good-bye, it wouldn't be worth it. but god loves to see us witnessing and the best way to do that, become friends with the person you want to witness to! although if you ONLY have non-christian relationships, then find some good christian friends...
ps, notice im not only talking about dating relationships, but friends as welll... biggrin
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Posted: Sun Sep 24, 2006 2:16 pm
Hate to be the one who tells you this, but God says no. I love your optimism for him becoming a Christian, but it rarely happens. "The only time you can change a man is when he's in diapers." Pray for him.
As for dating in general, I personally won't date a guy that I know that I wouldn't marry eventually. The reason for this is that eventually we would have to break up anyways, and then what good is it? Another thought: don't date until you get into college, because in high school you're eventually going to graduate and move hundreds of miles away from each other. It doesn't usually work out too well. sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 3:38 pm
Jesusfreak1988 Hate to be the one who tells you this, but God says no. I love your optimism for him becoming a Christian, but it rarely happens. "The only time you can change a man is when he's in diapers." Pray for him. As for dating in general, I personally won't date a guy that I know that I wouldn't marry eventually. The reason for this is that eventually we would have to break up anyways, and then what good is it? Another thought: don't date until you get into college, because in high school you're eventually going to graduate and move hundreds of miles away from each other. It doesn't usually work out too well. sweatdrop I agree, although god means that we can't change man. god is the only one who can do that. although, we can show them the way, encourage them, and the sort. how are you to witness, if you aren't friends with them? showing others gods love for them begins with us showing that love through us. we could walk up to them and say, "hey jesus loves u", or be thier best friend and say "hey jesus loves you" they are more likely to trust you and listen to to you more if you are thier friend. it is a good idea to have more christian friends, and less non-christian friends. but i think it is fine i also wouldn't date anyone that i don't plan on possibly marrying, but that is my opinion.....
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 6:57 pm
Ok dating a non-christian and befriending a non-christian are two different thigns together. Jesus himself sat and ate dinner with sinners and the lost. The physican is here to heal the sick not the healthy. That's a verse, just not sure where and my wording is a tad off, as in I paraphrased from memory. But in the bible it also mentions to not be unequally yolked with a nonbeliever. Almost 99.9% of the time it's the Christian who ends up getting influenced in the relationship than the non-Christian. I wouldn't presue a relationship with a guy period, it's the guys job to presue the girl. But I definitely wouldn't presue a non-Christian. I can't be carrying his dead weight along with me on my journey with God. It's going to take me twice as long to get to where I need to be, taht's saying if I just don't flat out stop after awhile. It gets tiresome to fight the bible and you see them having fun not worrying about God and anything and you are getting tired and weary trying to presue God for you and holding out faith for your partner, so you eventually turn back to the world. It's not worth. My God is the only guy I will presue and pull for. He's the only one worthy of it. Not to say just ditch the guy and never talk to him. Invite him to church, hang out with him just as friends. And then if you see him getting saved and into Christ starting hanging out with him more but like I said even if he is Christian it's the guys job to persue the girl.
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Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 6:54 pm
SaraRenee Ok dating a non-christian and befriending a non-christian are two different thigns together. Jesus himself sat and ate dinner with sinners and the lost. The physican is here to heal the sick not the healthy. That's a verse, just not sure where and my wording is a tad off, as in I paraphrased from memory. But in the bible it also mentions to not be unequally yolked with a nonbeliever. Almost 99.9% of the time it's the Christian who ends up getting influenced in the relationship than the non-Christian. I wouldn't presue a relationship with a guy period, it's the guys job to presue the girl. But I definitely wouldn't presue a non-Christian. I can't be carrying his dead weight along with me on my journey with God. It's going to take me twice as long to get to where I need to be, taht's saying if I just don't flat out stop after awhile. It gets tiresome to fight the bible and you see them having fun not worrying about God and anything and you are getting tired and weary trying to presue God for you and holding out faith for your partner, so you eventually turn back to the world. It's not worth. My God is the only guy I will presue and pull for. He's the only one worthy of it. Not to say just ditch the guy and never talk to him. Invite him to church, hang out with him just as friends. And then if you see him getting saved and into Christ starting hanging out with him more but like I said even if he is Christian it's the guys job to persue the girl. Why is it the boys job to persue? I think you should date him because you like him. If you like him and he respects you and your beliefs then continue to date. Respect his choice of not believing also.
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Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 7:20 pm
Genesis 2: 23-24 She is part of my own flesh and bone! She will be called `woman,' because she was taken out of a man." 24This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one , Mark 10:7, and Ephesians 5:31All those mention MAN leaving his father and mother to join his wife, not the wife leaving father and mother to join her husband. Guys should be the ones to persue the girl and he needs treat her with respect. Like opening doors and taking her to nice places instead of McDonalds for a date. Not saying he needs to spend like tons of cash on her and treat her like she's high maintance(sp) but to a degree there should be some [chivalry] if you want to put it as that. Where there is courtship and the guy respects his wife (girlfriend) and treats her nicely and the woman respects and honors her husband (boyfriend).
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Posted: Mon Jan 01, 2007 11:14 pm
Okay, well... I think it's probably not wise to date non-Christians only because they can bring you down in your own faith. Now, if he's started going to church, you've got something to work with; but if not, I'd recommend (without knowing your exact situation) simply remaining friends for now.
As for the guy leaving his family and Walking's post... I agree. I'm a bit old fashioned when it comes to dating. (before this goes further, I am a guy) I open car doors, seat her at the restaurant, and all the fancy stuff they teach you in etiquette school. I make sure that I am the one to ask someone out. I don't have a lot of money to spend, but I do make an effort to do nice things. I write stuff occasionally (which is a huge undertaking for me, because I have few writing skills.), and I make sure she's taken care of. It's not necessarily because of those verses, but because that's just the right ting to do.
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Posted: Tue Jan 23, 2007 4:45 pm
I have an example:
My friend was dating a non-christian until about a week ago. He was very nice, a gentleman, respected her, loved her for who she was, like any decent guy should. But it all resulted in tears and broken hearts. Something happened to him and he suddenly decided that there were more important things than her, and that he wanted to be unhappy, for it made you stronger.
Yes, he was a wonderful guy, the type of persom that any girl would dream of dating. But it still ended up so bad, and she still hasn't gotten over it.
I don't believe that it is right to date a non-believer because when it comes down to it, no matter how nice or respectable he is, there will always be the difference in your beliefs, always somewhere where you will disagree because of faith.
I was reading a great book called The Truth About Guys, and the author said, "A serious relationship should always be based on friendship. If you have too much love and romance, it will all dissolve into nothing at the end. Also, if you do not form a friendship first, than how is a guy to know you or your standards or your faith."
I say, if you want to be friends, great! But I personally believe that God did not mean for us to date nonbelievers, mainly because of that verse about being unequally yoked with a nonbeliever.
We all have our different beliefs, though, and I will pray for you two. May you be a blessing to him, and a great representation of your Savior!
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Posted: Wed Jan 31, 2007 1:45 pm
Yeah, I wouldn't suggest dating a non-christian, because the differences in beliefs, especially if (I'm not sure how far you guys are to this stage yet) you guys get married and have kids. Should you bring your kids to church or not? What kind of teachings will you base what you teach your kids off of? etc etc.
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Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 3:16 am
I'm currently dating a non Christian. He loves me very much, and has even asked if I would consider marrying him in the future! O_O (I'm only 15, how can I not get freaked out by this? ...he's 18, by the way). I've loved him for the past year, but he was different back then. A player...yeah. It was depressing. He used me but I loved him and didn't take my faith into consideration at all. Anyways, this is our 4th time dating; he's broken up with me twice (during his player months) and I broke up with him once after attending a very inspirational Bible camp for the weekend. I just very recently (I'm talking like, yesterday) got back together with him, but it's not the same. I'm leaning towards breaking up (and breaking his heart... *sigh*) with him again soon, because the impact that camp had on me will not let me date him without feeling guilty. So from experiance, I would advise not to date non Christians. Hypocritical of me, yes, but I'm trying to get out asap. Rather, befriend them, and witness to them while being a friend. Then see if a relationship can evolve out of your friendship. smile
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