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Problem 1: I would have to say end it. I had an ex who treated me the exact same way and I found that I had changed a lot while we were together. My entire life was centered around what she thought about me. I neglected my friends, family, and everyone else i loved so that her opinion of me would be the same. I understand that you don't want to hurt her, but to not break up with her would only hurt her more in the long run.

Problem 2: Someone once said "Be who you are and say what you feel. Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter dont mind." I remember what it was like when I told my friends that I was bi, and they took it a lot better that I thought they would, even laughing when they said they didnt care. What made it so frightening was not knowing how they would take it. You should be honest with your friends, but feel free take your time and wait till you are ready to tell him.

Problem 3: Which option, when you look into the future, do you see yourself being happier as? A married man spending your life with the one you love, or a single parent giving kids a better life. Personally, I would go with adopting the kids, showing them that there are still good people in the world that care about them. But, that said, society may change before then. Gay people might actually have the same rights and respect as straight people in the world...i know im being optimistic, but its something to hope for.

I hope I helped you out.

I apologize for not being able to help on the third one.

#1--Girls are fickle, it's a genetic mishap we have V_V. I say give it a bit of time. If you're worried about the cold shoulder and all that comes with it, be careful of how you break up (if that's what you choose). Whatever you do, don't just throw caution to the wind, and WHATEVER YOU DO--DO NOT! I REPEAT, DO NOT BREAK UP WITH HER OVER THE PHONE!!!

#2--This one is up to you to decide...you could try to introduce the idea slowly...? Don't throw it at him all at one time...? But then again, people always use the Band-aide anaolgy and it seems to work well for them. Sorry, this one is tricky....(aside: I've only had one bf(?) in my entire existance on this planet, 3 IS ALOT! eek )

#3--it would only be awkward for the children if you made it awkward for them!

1--Because it's the cowards way out! WE HATE THAT! gonk

2--Whatever you feel is the best route, I may not be the best person to give advice in this particular area... sweatdrop

3--I mean if you choose to live your life with a man and adopt children, don't live out your life wondering if they will judge you! Kids can sense when something's wrong, but they also have that little thing called unconditional love. And if you're worried about what a son would think if he had a gay father--teach him as he grows up to be accepting of others and he will accept and love you too!

Problem 1: I say talk to your girlfriend and tell her to stop being on your back all the time you not an item anymore and don't love each other like you were a normal straight/gay couple.

Problem: I say start easing it off to or bring in things that relate to gay people into the conversaition and see how he reacts to it. That way you'll know if you should tell him, wait longer or never tell him.

Problem 3: There are many same sex parents throught out the world who have raised their childs to be accepting and succesful people. It doesn't matter if your gay or straight, their gay or straight, or any one else is gay or staight love is the only thing that matters and if you teach your children to accept people for who they are then you'll have no problem.

Children raised by same sex couples can actually be more emotionally stable for many reasons. They get a less confined view of the world, they get to see that men don't specifically hav one set of rolesm and women don't have one set of roles. Because both parents are men they really get to see men in a full care giving mode which does not happen all the time, as well as men in the provider role.

Could the children get teased for having two dads? Yes. I got teased too for being a generic weirdo. I know kids who were teased because of their hair, their clothes, their glasses, Kids get teased. It happens. And if you properly equip your children to handle it emotionally it shouldn't be a problem. It's not so much the fact that they have two dads, it's that at young ages many kids (especially only children) only know about their home life and what is normal and if they're parents don't tell them other lives are different, they think it's weird and will latch onto it. They'd do the same if maybe a kid had a different hair color or glasses. There's always the "I know my dads love me, and that's what matters" reply.

I know I'm gonna fact that problem when I grow up, cause I want to have one child that's biologically mine (or my partner's and there are like...2 developed and 1 undeveloped technology which I won't get in to) and adopt one child from China.

Done with that Rant! Onto problem one- here's the big question: Are you more emotionally strained than emotionally rewarded by the relationship? If so, end it. It's not healthy to drag it out. Try talking to her but if that does not help, no good.

Problem two: I agree with Shadow, try to find maybe a news article about gay issues and ask about his opinion. Use that as a gauge but also go with that "Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter" bit. Love that line. Always have.

I would join the GSA and don't care much about what people think but you can always lie (why do we always have to lie?) and say your straight after all it is the gay straight aliance.