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 Posted: Sun Aug 13, 2006 7:54 am
Okay, yeah, I'm not exactly good at doing this whole asking for help, or talking about my problems. This one, though, is pretty big.
Recently, as in yesterday, I came out of the closet to a female friend of mine. She took it better than I thought, she hugged me and said she was proud. I mean, I guess she saw it coming. Being in theatre and video, playing most the lead rolls for musicals. But still, you know? Stereotyping is lame. This, ofcourse, gave me enough courage to come out to another friend.
So, we went to the park, like we usually do. I had my female friend with me for moral support. It took a little bit, but I finally told him. He, well he didn't take it so well.
Infact he took it pretty negitively. So, he punched me in the face.
Really, I just need to know what to do. I mean, I have a black eye, big deal, but...he was my best guy friend. It's not like I wanted in his pants or anything, he was just a great friend.
Now I feel ashamed of myself and all sorts of mess.
Sorry, this was really long and pointless...but I need help
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Posted: Sun Aug 13, 2006 8:26 pm
Dont be ashamed.. it's not your fault. You cant help it that you are who you are. If he cant deal then he wasn't a very good friend to at least try to understand you or to talk about it. I know it hurts (more ways than one seeing as he punched you) but sometimes these things happen. Maybe you could try to talk to him over email or a messenger or something.
I wish you much luck with this (hugs)
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Posted: Mon Aug 14, 2006 7:36 pm
Thanks, I've tried talking to him and he's just...GRrrrroooaaarrrrr.
I don't know, he's told everyone now and it's a little scary. I got a threatening phone call already. On the other hand, I've had a few people that have been extreamly nice. It's...weird I guess.
Thanks again for the help.
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Posted: Tue Aug 15, 2006 11:24 am
If you think it's worth it to try to keep getting through to this guy, I give you all the hope in the world for your sucess. But by the sound of it he's either feeling confused, he was hurt that you didn't tell him sooner, or he's holding on to homophobe tendencies. Still, find strengh in those who support your "outing" and try not to worry. We'll always be here if you need to talk! 4laugh
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Posted: Fri Aug 18, 2006 4:25 pm
~Angels never came down~
There always seems to be unnecessary risk with coming out of the closet. Guys seem to have a harder time because the stereotypes of gay guys defy most impressions of macho men. He may feel threatened by thought of someone so close to him being gay. There are always times when it's easier and safer to stay in the closet. It's your call, and we're here if you need us.
~There's no one here they wanna hang around~
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Posted: Fri Sep 01, 2006 1:03 pm
I'd try sending him an e-mail explaining how hurt you are like "Dear Friend, Why do did you feel compelled to punch me in the face just cuz I'm gay?? That was QUITE uncalled for." If that doesn't work, I'd ask your female friend who was being nice (or someone else whose being tolerant) to have a word with him. You're the same friend he's always had, so he's got no reason to treat you like that stressed xp .
However if he keeps acting like a jack, forget about him. I know this sounds harsh, but real friends accept you for who you are. He'll come around, and if he doesn't- you've done all you can. -shrug-
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Posted: Tue Feb 20, 2007 12:23 am
Don't ever feel ashamed of who you are. Be proud. If your friend is too ignorant to understand that, let him be. It's hard to lose a friend, i know, i've gone through loss of friends, but i'll admit never over my sexuality.
I think he's just ignorant and afraid because you came out, that you want him. Which is a typical thing for a guy to think. Wait a little, try and talk to him. Write a letter if that makes it easier. He has to come around sometime, and if he doesn't, he's not worth your friendship, right? A true friend should be understanding.
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