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 Posted: Thu Aug 03, 2006 8:18 pm
Lemme just lay down the whole thing for y'all.
I'm sixteen. I'm starting college on the fourteenth. I'll be staying on campus, but coming home on the weekends. Also, I'm a downright perverted horndog.
My girlfriend is fifteen. She goes back to high school Monday. She grew up in a place where getting caught just kissing someone is a big deal.
We've been together for the past four months, and she still annoys the crap out of me. I don't like her friends and I don't like her family. We spend most of our time together at her house because she's not comfortable at mine. Also, her brother has a PS2.
I hate the way she misuses words. I hate that I always feel like I'm talking down to her. I hate how everything is always black and white to her. I hate the way she trys to analyze and interpret every single thing I do.
She's clingy. She insists on holding on to me while we walk, and since she's much shorter, it's kinda awkward. She's always going, "Where are you going?" or "What are you doing?" or, even worse "What are you thinking?"
I pretend nothing bothers me because I was so lonely before, and I really enjoy the physical parts of our relationship, and I get to play her brother's PS2 sometimes. I think I'm in it for all the wrong reasons.
Here's the main question: Since school is about to start up, and I'll hardly see her anyways, should I stick with her for the time being, or should I cut her loose?
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Posted: Thu Aug 03, 2006 9:08 pm
In my opinion, stringing her along is a bad idea. If I were her, even if I were that clingy, I would never want someone to stay with me just cause they had nothing better to do, and cause my brother would let them play his ps2. That's wrong.
Be honest to her about the way you feel, and WHY you feel that way. She or you may not like it, but it is the most mature thing to do. And no way do I see you two coming out of this as friends, so don't try that route.
Anyhow, I have a pretty extensive knowledge of breakups. Here's how I'd do it if I were you:
You spend a lot of time at her house? Take her for a walk around the block or something, so none of her family gets involved. Tell her everything, and by the time you're back at her house, its over and done with, and you don't even have to go back inside to deal with the family. She still has them right there to go and be comforted, so its a plus for her too. Straight, and to the point.
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Posted: Thu Aug 03, 2006 9:12 pm
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Posted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 2:56 pm
You'll break up with her anyway. I would probably say that even if you weren't sitting here, telling us everything you hate about the relationship, fishing for the answer you obviously want.
Your relationship is based on convenience, not compatability. That convenience is gone. The best you can do for her now is not string her along. Break her heart as quickly and cleanly as possible.
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Posted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 7:25 pm
Her family WILL get involved. SHe'll run home crying, they'll inquire, she'll tell them everyhting, you'll be known as a scumbag. Sad but true.
I suggest you have a talk with her, and try to work it out. A lot of this is simply maturity, and will come with time.
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Posted: Sat Aug 19, 2006 9:10 pm
I did it. I went to her house, sat her on the porch steps, and I ended it.
I don't feel a damned thing. I don't feel bad for her. I don't feel good for me. There is no relief. There is no guilt. I do not feel a thing.
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Posted: Mon Aug 21, 2006 10:26 pm
At least you didn't leave her hanging and you don't feel bad. Of course, you don't feel good, but hey, at least that inconvenience is gone.
Hopefully she didn't cry. Though she seems the type to cry at someone breaking up with her after dating for only a few months rolleyes
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Posted: Wed Aug 23, 2006 7:03 am
Spiffy Negligee Though she seems the type to cry at someone breaking up with her after dating for only a few months rolleyes She did.
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Posted: Wed Aug 23, 2006 9:36 am
Good thing you broke up with her, then. She seems to me to be a daft little bugger.
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Posted: Wed Aug 23, 2006 1:06 pm
I'm with Spiffy here - if the relationship just isn't working out, it's time to end it. At least you took the time to end it in person (not like some of the people involved in the breakups I know...)
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Posted: Wed Aug 23, 2006 1:41 pm
Yeah, my former friend broke up with her IRL boyfriend via email eek
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Posted: Wed Aug 23, 2006 8:34 pm
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Posted: Wed Aug 23, 2006 8:58 pm
NekoIncChan I'm with Spiffy here - if the relationship just isn't working out, it's time to end it. At least you took the time to end it in person (not like some of the people involved in the breakups I know...) I've broken up with someone over the phone once. But then, I was really, truly afraid of him... He was violent, and I really wasnt looking foreward to getting physically injured over the matter.
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Posted: Thu Aug 24, 2006 11:46 am
Yeah, and in some cases, I think it's pretty scummy to break up with someone in real life.
For instance, one of my friends met this guy at the same music camp I met her, and they were sorta going out. They then kept talking over the course of the next year, via internet and telephone because they lived on opposite sides of the country, basically sorta-going-out the whole time. Then, this year, they once again went to the same music camp (they organized it this way), and, the moment he saw her, he broke up with her. Now, that's pretty low, in my opinion,
So, then, if you can easily see a person in real life, and they aren't a threat to you, then, yes, you should break up with them in real life. But there are times when things that should be done immediately shouldn't be put off.
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Posted: Fri Sep 01, 2006 11:48 am
I was haveing the same problem with my boy friend. First alittle history.
I am 20, and I was enganged to my ex fiance when he went into the Air Froce. We broke up because of distance and because he has changed so much!
It has almost been a year together with my new boyfriend, and we have living together. Having a few money problems, we decided to move back home (that and roommate problems.) I lived with him and his mom for a long time untill now. I moved back home with my parents because I just need some time.
He is very touchy person. He likes to make it known that we are together when we are in public. (I am not into PDA at all, I just dun like it. It makes me uncomfrotable. I can talk about sex to strangers but kissing in public to me even a peck just..not comfortable.) Anyway so he is touchy and I am not, he is weak, and I am the stronger one the organized one. I see him way to much and I have no more friends all of his friends are my friends so I finally got tired of it and moved back home.
I am having troubles with my thoughts and emotions towards him right now and my future is a big deal to me. Considering the relationship I was in before I don't want to talk about marriage but he is ready to marry me. I think I just need to talk things over with a third party that is not involved in the situation at all. Thanks..I feel a little better now. 4laugh
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