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 Posted: Wed Aug 02, 2006 6:49 pm
Eh heh, well, okay, here goes I guess....
I'm Bi. No one knows it yet, and no, I have no crushes on girls, I just know I am...
I don't know how to tell anyone, I mean, my friends always say "Love is Love, no matter who you are or who your with" But one of my best friends also said, when one of her sisters friends came out with it, that it was really weird and she kinda wanted to keep her distance now.
I'm not sure what to do, I don't know who to tell, I have family that is severly homophobic and the rest of my famil and most of my friends are as well on some level or another...
I really don't have anyone I can tell, in fact this is the first time I've even ever typed about it(And I chose the guild because I only have one friend in here and I don't think he'll be too worried about it).
Suggestions would be much appreciated...I really want to get this off my chest, but I don't even know where to start!
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Posted: Wed Aug 02, 2006 7:00 pm
Well, do you feel as though you absolutely have to tell someone? I mean, if you don't have a girlfriend at the moment, it may not be necessary for everyone to know. You could always wait until you are older, and you have a means of supporting yourself if you parents dislike the situation. Also, I don't know how old you are, but if you wait you will probably have fewer people telling you it is just a phase.
But anyway, if you really feel the need to tell, maybe you should just start with a close friend (preferably one who won't go blabbing it to a million people). Then go from there. You may have to wait for the right moment. If your parents have a negative reaction, try telling them that it doesn't change who you are as a person, and if they loved you before why should that change? Good luck if you choose to tell.
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Posted: Wed Aug 02, 2006 7:03 pm
Thanks...I'm 17 by the way, nearly 18, and I've known this for a few years...my friends are pretty good for not blabbing, but I don't know how they'll take it...
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Posted: Wed Aug 02, 2006 7:08 pm
Seliphra Thanks...I'm 17 by the way, nearly 18, and I've known this for a few years...my friends are pretty good for not blabbing, but I don't know how they'll take it... If you check out the internet, you can either find forums with advice on how to come out to friends, or hotlines you can call for advice (usually free). Also, does your school have a gay-straight alliance (or something similar)? It might be a good thing to consider. I don't personally have experience coming out, because I am straight...
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Posted: Wed Aug 02, 2006 7:17 pm
I can't use the phonelines, their always busy since my grandparents are moving in to a nursing home after my grandfathers stroke, and I don't know anything like that at my school, I suck at finding stuff online, but I guess I can try...
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Posted: Fri Aug 18, 2006 6:21 am
y'know, you dont have to tell them, but gradually introduce the idea of being bi in other ways, such as, when folk are talking about hating gays or relationship problems, or just those kinda things, you could argue the side of being bi or whatever, but do it subtly so that you cant get accused and jumped on.
To be honest, your friends shouldnt care, but in this day and age we're kinda conditioned to mistrusting folk who differ from the 'norm.' so its something to expect. Basically introduce it gradually so when the time comes when you do tell them, they wont have such a hard time accepting it, im not saying their bi-phobic or anything its just that you make it sound like they are slightly.
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Posted: Fri Aug 18, 2006 12:02 pm
People in high school are often immature about things like this. Once they hear the rumor that someone they know is bi or gay, then things that you wouldn't normally expect to happen do. I knew quite a few people in school who I always suspected (as did everyone else) of being gay/bi, but it wasn't until after we graduated that they came out. Smart move if you ask me. That way it didn't spread around campus, but everyone was kinda like "well yeah, I always had a feeling..."
So, long story aside, I recommend holding off on making an announcement until you're graduated. It's only a year (at most), and you'll enjoy having the best senior year that you could imagine. But when you do decide it's time (and you might make that decision earlier than June), just tell one person first. Then a couple more. Then more as you feel more comfortable with it. Trust your friends, but expect them to spread it. The last thing you need is to tell people and then regret your decision.
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