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 Posted: Wed May 04, 2005 3:24 am
I dunno but lately I've been feeling pretty low over relationships.
Now I was in love with one guy, I always felt he loved me back but after what happened I came to realise I was wrong.
We were pretty much like best friends, we had a few comman interests, yet we were in a way opposite... but that's what was great really and if there was anything on our minds about the relationship... we'd be honast with each other. For example if he felt incomfortable with me being around a certain friend... he'd tell me. If he got really annoyed with something I always did.. he'd simpley tell me.
A few months into the relationship he met this girl, they were friends and I put up with that. Most of my friends are male so I wasn't going to get jealous.
She had a perfect figure, perfect smile, perfect hair. So a little part of me was cautious but I wasn't ranting and raving "OMEG SHE'S GONNA TAKE YOU AWAY FROM ME!!"
They got to know each other better and to be perfectly honast he didn't like her personality all too much. He always talked about how she pissed him off over arguements. A few more weeks had passed he was still friends but still in a way hated her, he used to always rant about how hot she was though in which I joked along with because I'll admit she was a very attractive girl.
She told him she had a crush on him, and vola! he left me for her.
He obviously got with her because he was pysically attracted to her, unless he really enjoys getting screamed at every second.
In a way this ended up happening to me three times with certain guys.
Now I'm just curious, is it because I'm a bad person?
Is it just because they were simple close minded idiots?
or because they were thinner then me?
Have you ever had anything like this happen? =
To be honast at times I just don't feel up for attempting to get with anyone anymore.
I've always noticed no matter how much a guy likes me, in both looks and persoanlity.... he'll always go for a thinner girl if she comes along.
rolleyes happens with my sister all the time.
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Posted: Wed May 04, 2005 3:30 am
omfg!what a moron!! Ok, I personally have never done this to anyone. But then again I've only been in one relationship sweatdrop but honestly i think a guy that would throw away a person with a nice personality and some looks ((sorry i I sound rude and a lil judgmental lol, I personally like "bigger girls" So I'm going by societies standards)) is a F****** moron. It honestly makes no sense to me at all.
I would personally much rather have a gf with a wonderful personality and who doesn't look that great ((yet again, society's standards not mine)) than someone with a great figure who's a total b**** to me all the time.
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Posted: Wed May 04, 2005 4:16 am
some people can just be such whores xp
Shiva, you can do so much better than him..
it sounds like he was spineless and looking for an excuse to leave..
maybe one day he'll grow some cojones and realize that what looks good isn't always better..
example..
a friend of my family made a beautiful apple pie.. lookes scrumdidilyumptious...
he forgot to put sugar in it.. gonk
maybe once he bites in to his proverbial pie, he'll raelize what a ******** he is..
then he should kiss your butt 3nodding
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Posted: Wed May 04, 2005 8:43 am
You don't need to worry. You will find someone that likes you by what you are, and not by what you look (and even then, you can find someone that likes how you look, this guild are also for people that likes chubby people 3nodding )
I don't know your bf, but he don't seen the kind to be in a stable relationship. Thinner? Said she has a crush on him? I give 2... 3 months untill he gets tired of her, and dumps her for someone else. Or she'll just annoy the heck out of him, and when he cames back, just give him the cold shoulder wink
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Posted: Wed May 04, 2005 9:41 am
Sweetie, I went through a string of relationships like that... meet this guy, he's really great, seems to like me for ME (all of me biggrin )... things are going really well, couldn't be better... oh, he has a new friend, how nice... she's tall, slim, society's standards of perfect... also a perfect b****, but who cares right? Cuz she's "hot".... oh, what's this? You hate her but you're leaving me for her? Gee, thanks!.... Self esteem (what little I have anyway) plummets to somewhere in the subterranean depths... Cry cry cry... Pick up pieces of shattered heart, whip out the Superglue and stick them back together... Oh, hey, I made a new friend.... repeat cycle ad nauseam.
I know how it is and I know how much it sucks! But trust me, there ARE guys out there who are not only mature enough to see a person for who they really are and go by that... but also who are smart enough to like us voluptuous, zaftig women. biggrin You'll find one who deserves you... this one obviously did not. *hugs*
Just be ready... he'll probably come crawling back once he realizes the huge mistake he made by giving up a great woman to run off with Lil Miss Thang.
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Posted: Wed May 04, 2005 1:48 pm
gonk I feel you, girl!
The last seven years have been filled with boys calling me fat, or jokingly asking me out and then turning me down because I wasn't pretty enough.
A bunch of guys in my old french class even nicknamed me "la vache". Most guys today are... terrible like that. (I know girls can be just as bad.)
You'll see. He'll get sick of her personality and come crawling back to you. Like DwarfPriest said. Just give him the cold shoulder.
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Posted: Wed May 04, 2005 2:49 pm
Good personality may not always attract, but bad personality will certainly repel. No matter how horny or shallow, he will eventually get tired of hearing her blathering on about what Ginger said to Stacy at the mall while purchasing this cute little new outfit and do you think my shoes look nice and-BAM, he'll either scream his head off at her or go into cardiac arrest from the stress.
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Posted: Wed May 04, 2005 3:14 pm
hehe, aaaw thanks guys for your reply ^^; they've really made my day =3
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Posted: Wed May 04, 2005 7:36 pm
Evil Shiva hehe, aaaw thanks guys for your reply ^^; they've really made my day =3 Glad to hear it ^_^
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Posted: Fri May 06, 2005 9:24 am
I'm really sorry to hear of your situation and I honestly don't blame you for not wanting to hook up with another fella...perhaps it's time to take a break from the male race, get reaquainted with the awesomeness that is you, and focus on other things. Hang out with your friends, keep yourself busy/entertained...when we go out with someone, sometimes we loose who we are.
There are guys out there who LOVE a big woman, you just haven't found a man yet, just boys who think they're men. A TRUE man wouldn't pull that kind of s**t on a female, they would respect her and not make up bullshit excuses for their behaviour. Try and remain patient...the good ones are still out there waiting to be found, I assure you 3nodding
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Posted: Fri May 06, 2005 9:30 am
Tessiebean There are guys out there who LOVE a big woman, you just haven't found a man yet, just boys who think they're men. A TRUE man wouldn't pull that kind of s**t on a female, they would respect her and not make up bullshit excuses for their behaviour. Try and remain patient...the good ones are still out there waiting to be found, I assure you 3nodding
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Posted: Fri May 06, 2005 9:50 am
Phaedra Lycoris Tessiebean There are guys out there who LOVE a big woman, you just haven't found a man yet, just boys who think they're men. A TRUE man wouldn't pull that kind of s**t on a female, they would respect her and not make up bullshit excuses for their behaviour. Try and remain patient...the good ones are still out there waiting to be found, I assure you 3nodding Aw shucks *blushes* Thanks...I try my best to word my thoughts out in a truthful/pleasant manner, but every now and then I manage to stick my foot in my mouth lol xp
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Posted: Fri May 06, 2005 10:38 am
Tessiebean Phaedra Lycoris Tessiebean There are guys out there who LOVE a big woman, you just haven't found a man yet, just boys who think they're men. A TRUE man wouldn't pull that kind of s**t on a female, they would respect her and not make up bullshit excuses for their behaviour. Try and remain patient...the good ones are still out there waiting to be found, I assure you 3nodding Aw shucks *blushes* Thanks...I try my best to word my thoughts out in a truthful/pleasant manner, but every now and then I manage to stick my foot in my mouth lol xp
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Posted: Sat May 07, 2005 1:42 am
Evil Shiva I dunno but lately I've been feeling pretty low over relationships.
Now I was in love with one guy, I always felt he loved me back but after what happened I came to realise I was wrong.
We were pretty much like best friends, we had a few comman interests, yet we were in a way opposite... but that's what was great really and if there was anything on our minds about the relationship... we'd be honast with each other. For example if he felt incomfortable with me being around a certain friend... he'd tell me. If he got really annoyed with something I always did.. he'd simpley tell me.
A few months into the relationship he met this girl, they were friends and I put up with that. Most of my friends are male so I wasn't going to get jealous.
She had a perfect figure, perfect smile, perfect hair. So a little part of me was cautious but I wasn't ranting and raving "OMEG SHE'S GONNA TAKE YOU AWAY FROM ME!!"
They got to know each other better and to be perfectly honast he didn't like her personality all too much. He always talked about how she pissed him off over arguements. A few more weeks had passed he was still friends but still in a way hated her, he used to always rant about how hot she was though in which I joked along with because I'll admit she was a very attractive girl.
She told him she had a crush on him, and vola! he left me for her.
He obviously got with her because he was pysically attracted to her, unless he really enjoys getting screamed at every second.
In a way this ended up happening to me three times with certain guys.
Now I'm just curious, is it because I'm a bad person?
Is it just because they were simple close minded idiots?
or because they were thinner then me?
Have you ever had anything like this happen? =
To be honast at times I just don't feel up for attempting to get with anyone anymore.
I've always noticed no matter how much a guy likes me, in both looks and persoanlity.... he'll always go for a thinner girl if she comes along.
rolleyes happens with my sister all the time.
OMGoshers... that really breaks my heart. I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. But there are plenty of men out there who are a million times better than him and you'll find that special guy that will treat you like the queen you deserved to be treated as. You'll find him so no worries. Screw the skinny women who are huge bitches in this world. Imagine just breaking them... helps me feel better! xd We're here if you ever want to vent some more.
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Posted: Wed May 11, 2005 9:17 am
Evil Shiva I dunno but lately I've been feeling pretty low over relationships.
Now I was in love with one guy, I always felt he loved me back but after what happened I came to realise I was wrong.
We were pretty much like best friends, we had a few comman interests, yet we were in a way opposite... but that's what was great really and if there was anything on our minds about the relationship... we'd be honast with each other. For example if he felt incomfortable with me being around a certain friend... he'd tell me. If he got really annoyed with something I always did.. he'd simpley tell me.
A few months into the relationship he met this girl, they were friends and I put up with that. Most of my friends are male so I wasn't going to get jealous.
She had a perfect figure, perfect smile, perfect hair. So a little part of me was cautious but I wasn't ranting and raving "OMEG SHE'S GONNA TAKE YOU AWAY FROM ME!!"
They got to know each other better and to be perfectly honast he didn't like her personality all too much. He always talked about how she pissed him off over arguements. A few more weeks had passed he was still friends but still in a way hated her, he used to always rant about how hot she was though in which I joked along with because I'll admit she was a very attractive girl.
She told him she had a crush on him, and vola! he left me for her.
He obviously got with her because he was pysically attracted to her, unless he really enjoys getting screamed at every second.
In a way this ended up happening to me three times with certain guys.
Now I'm just curious, is it because I'm a bad person?
Is it just because they were simple close minded idiots?
or because they were thinner then me?
Have you ever had anything like this happen? =
To be honast at times I just don't feel up for attempting to get with anyone anymore.
I've always noticed no matter how much a guy likes me, in both looks and persoanlity.... he'll always go for a thinner girl if she comes along.
rolleyes happens with my sister all the time.
One day he will realise the mistake he's made, but by then you'll be living the dream life whilst he's stuck handling manure for $3 an hour. He doesn't deserve someone as lovely as you. And if he starts whining or insulting you if you don't take him back once he gets fed up of / dumped by this skinny attractive girl with little or no personality, imagine him falling from a very tall skyscraper.... twisted
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