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I've told my close friends about this issue, But decided to come here. I'm going to re-type the story to make it more clear for those who will read it and don't know the background.

About a month ago, my girlfriend Megan and I were being very sexual (heavy petting, fingering, ect) But after being convited by God at camp, we committed to stop all that. I told my dad, But she hadn't told her parents anything.

One of the people i was able to talk to was my brother's girlfriend, we'll call her Sam. We used to talk about our relationships ect because we could trust each other. But the week of camp after Megan and I had already decided to stop, Sam betrayed that trust and told one of the leaders at camp what was going on in our relationship. This leader then takes Megan for a walk and talks with her pretty much Deja vu to what we had decided earlier. This leader then tells her that they will not tell either of our parents because that was our job.

Well, While this leader was talking with Megan, I asked Sam what was going on. And she starts going off on how hypocritical she felt telling me what she did. So I say to look past that, so She was saying how i'm taking advantage of Megan, and that megan had told everyone flat out she didn't want to do all the sexual stuff we did. I know for a fact this isn't true. Megan told only a few people, and everything we did was willing on both parts. She also basically compares my relationship with Megan to hers with my brother. Their relationship, according to the sticky, at that point, was an abusive relationship, where my brother was being emotionally abusive, While my relationship has and still has all the signs of a "perfect" relationship. Something else Sam said, is that the leader had already told Megan's mom what was going on. Which as you will find out, Is obviously not true.

Ok, enough fill in, you should be able to understand last night from my perspective now.

After church, Megan and I went out to dinner. After we were done eating, Megan called her house to figure out what time she had to be home. It was about 9:40. Her dad says she has to come home then. So she drops me off at my house and I said i'd talk to her on aim till she "had to go to bed" and then call her. Well, I wasn't able to get on the computer till 11:28. And I find this:
[23:02:56] Megan: im back
[23:02:56] *** Auto-response sent to Megan: BRB
[23:03:00] Megan: but im not in a good mood
[23:11:27] Megan: come back soon please...
[23:25:54] Megan: i feel horrible... and my mom is making me go to bed @ 1130!!! scream

Well, then the conversation went as follows
[23:29:47] ataranlen: hey
[23:29:51] ataranlen: sorry >.<
[23:30:08] Megan: your finally back
[23:30:14] Megan: and i have to go
[23:30:16] ataranlen: yah crying
[23:30:17] Megan: grrr
[23:30:21] ataranlen: want me to call you?
[23:30:31] Megan: i am not happy right now
[23:30:35] Megan: yes i want you to call me
[23:30:38] Megan: but not right now
[23:30:41] Megan: too many ppl are up
[23:30:44] ataranlen: yah, ok
[23:30:46] ataranlen: so how long?
[23:31:17] Megan: i say 12
[23:31:19] Megan: to be safe
[23:31:23] ataranlen: allright ^^
[23:31:36] ataranlen: can you at least tell me whats wrong?
[23:31:39] ataranlen: before you get off?
[23:32:06] Megan: lets just say i talked to my mom
[23:32:23] ataranlen: allright
[23:32:38] Megan: and my parents are way too overprotective
[23:32:45] ataranlen: crying
[23:33:04] ataranlen: I'm so sorry crying
[23:33:05] Megan: she wanted to "know whats going on in my relationship"
[23:33:23] Megan: and thinks i shouldnt spend so much time with you
[23:33:33] Megan: FREAKING RETARTED
[23:33:56] ataranlen: We can talk about it more later, allright?
[23:33:59] ataranlen: don't get in trouble
[23:34:02] Megan: ok
[23:34:09] ataranlen: I love you :-*
[23:34:38] Megan: ya i dont really care about getting in trouble right now, but i'll go to bed anyways
[23:34:44] Megan: I love you too :-*
[23:34:54] ataranlen: expect my call ^^
[23:35:06] Megan: i will
[23:35:39] ataranlen: Good night :-* wink
[23:35:47] Megan: night

I called her at midnight and we talked about it for 2 hours. Her parents knew something was going on between us, So they talked to Megan about it. But they were assuming I was abusing her, like beating her, not caring about her, ect. So like, they were asking about a bruise she had gotten over a month ago on her arm, and asking if I told her happy birthday, and about how I treated her and stuff like that. They were also saying thta we spend too much time together and on the phone ect. Megan didn't tell them about what was really going on mostly because they didn't ask. She was feeling much better after our conversation about it ended. We are confident right now that the entire deal is that her parents assumed the wrong thing. Megan was like... Now it makes sense why my mom was asking such weird questions >.<

My question is, What Should I do? If her parents really do think i'm abusing her physically and emotionally, and they think she lied last night to protect our relationship, One thing we thought of was she could tell her parents what really went on, But her parents might just assume she made it up. I'm wondering what we should do. I have yet to ask my dad for advice cause it was so late. I'm at a loss of what to do.


Sorry for it being such a long read sweatdrop I hope it all makes sense

I'd sit down with Megan and her family and explain what Sam had told you and what had been going on. The most you can do besides that I think is hope that they listen and belive you guys. I'm sorry I really don't know what else to say. >_<; Good luck!