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so im 13 and today i finnaly told my mom that im pregnant. she totaly freaked at me(expected) she was yelling at me for about half an hour about how imature i am. now she wont talk to me at all and makes me leave the room if i come in where she is. what do i do now?

Honestly she is going to need some time to cool off and calm down. What you should think about doing is proving to her that you will do your best to be mature in this regard. If you have made your decision about how you want to proceed with your pregnancy then you might want to do research or meet with someone about what you need to do.

If your plan is abortion then you should find a clinic and figure out how much its going to cost and maybe see if your boyfriend can pay for half.

If adoption is your route you should look for a couple agencies interview with them find out if they offer open or closed adoption and find out which kind you would prefer.

If you are going to keep I would suggest finding out how to get on medicaid (if you are in the states) which is free medical for the entire pregnancy+plus six months postnatel care for you+healthcare for your baby as long as you need it up to 6 years I believe. You should also get on wic which is supplemental food certificates for... milk, eggs, peanut butter cereal, and cheese.

DOing these things and keeping a notebook of the paperwork and all the information your receive is a good way to show her that you are trying your best to be responsible and that you will grow up to face the challenges that lie ahead whatever they may be.

That varies by the laws and is incorrect. She is still in the first trimester if she chooses that route and acts accordingly, she can get one. Please do not give false information.


Wotfan is right, she needs some time to cool off, it's certainly understandable your mother being angry. Is your father in the picture? What about the baby's father? I would inquire about the age of the baby's father for legal reasons, there is potential problems with that as well.

Is there another adult you can sit down with and talk it over about what you plan on doing?