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 Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2006 10:05 pm
Hey,
I was recommended her by someone when i was trying to get help on my realzing i'm gay. I'm thirteen, and have only told a few of my best friends and one of them is bi. I think i am simply b/c i'm attracted to men and not women. I have new GF about every wekk but i just dont like them in a sexual sorta way. I'm also scared i might go to hell for being gay. So please help with how i need to come out. My parents dont really talk about gays a lot...well none really. So i dont know how they would react. Oh and if i could get some help on the whole relegion thing that would be great. I'm a christian right now but i dont want to go to hell or get like gay bashed if i come out during school. I'll be in the eighth grade next year..this year.
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Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2006 10:24 pm
you and me both...i need to come out to my parents, all my friends know but none of my family does
good luck 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Jul 19, 2006 3:52 pm
alright my best advice for you is to just go for it. Dont shove it in peoples faces but tell them. bring it up in a casual conversation. Or pull your parents aside or what ever. And deffinitly tell your frineds weather they are close or not you will find out who is true or not. Yes you will lose some friends (unless your the luckyes person alive) and it will be hard. but all of us have to go throught it. I dont know what to tell you about the whole hell thing. From my undrestanding if you dont act on it your cool. But know one knows for sure what happens after death (that is if you're not dead) so go to town with yrou new found sexuality. that is all i say.
I wish you teh best fo luke in this life and the next.
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Posted: Wed Jul 19, 2006 9:44 pm
i came out the weird way.....i brought my g/f over and just said "Mom....every1 this is my g/f...." and then a bit of yelling and some peolple respected it.....but none the less i am still bi....i did it on christmas...."DONT COME OUT IN FRONT OF THE FAMLY ON A HOLIDAY"....its not a good idea......so all i can say is just tell them....if they love u they wont judge u....
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Posted: Thu Jul 20, 2006 9:30 am
i had the same problem. and its gonna be hard like other people said and you might lose freinds but those freinds werent loyal to you in the first place right? so here what i recommend. first tell the closest person to you in the family ((first i discussed it with my mom and she was fine with it and she never talked about gay peaple either and when she saw gay kissing on tv she was always like "ewww..." which kinda made it hard for me)) then i told her not to tell anyone untill im ready. the next person i told was my brother which was weird becouse he says he wishes he was.... but i cant tell my dad he would shun me out of his life but i hate him anyway my parents are divorced so i guess you shouldent take the whole hate your dad thing... so if your dads cool i guess tell him
hope that helped...
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Posted: Fri Aug 18, 2006 7:36 pm
My advice: wait a little while. I know that I wanted to come out to almost everyone when I first found out when I was 15. But just because you want to doesn't mean its the best idea. Why don't you wait until you are 100% sure and your peers are a little more understanding and open minded. That's why I waited a couple years. Plus in those two years I found a new group...they turned out to be mostly Bi/les. But that's not the whole point, the point is: Come out when you feel the safest.
I have on quote for you in relation to you being scared of going to hell for being gay: "God doesn't discrminate. Only religons do that."
How about you try talking to your parents about Gay issues, like Same sex marrige. (this might be a little dated for you since I learned it in US history last year) Or how Gay's got the blame for the AIDS epmidemic in the early years of its discovering.
PM me if you need anything else.
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Posted: Sat Aug 19, 2006 8:24 pm
Hmm, I agree ToeboysGurl. Wait. You're 13 , still in Middle School, and it might be hormones, but if you are really sure. I'd say come out to friends only, that will make things easier as you transition to High School. I was scared to, I thought I was going to hell and what not. Then you realize just to be yourself and nothing more. I'd say wait to come out to parents. Also, becareful who you come out to. I came out to supposely my "best friend" and she told nearly everyone without my consesnt. I told her not to, but now I have a feeling more people know than I intended to. Then I think they know, and if they do why dont they tell me they know! scream
If you are then Good Luck! I wish you the best.
I like that quote ToeboysGurl. ^_^
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Posted: Tue Aug 22, 2006 4:48 pm
gogoillusionz Hmm, I agree ToeboysGurl. Wait. You're 13 , still in Middle School, and it might be hormones, but if you are really sure. I'd say come out to friends only, that will make things easier as you transition to High School. I was scared to, I thought I was going to hell and what not. Then you realize just to be yourself and nothing more. I'd say wait to come out to parents. Also, becareful who you come out to. I came out to supposely my "best friend" and she told nearly everyone without my consesnt. I told her not to, but now I have a feeling more people know than I intended to. Then I think they know, and if they do why dont they tell me they know! scream If you are then Good Luck! I wish you the best. I like that quote ToeboysGurl. ^_^ It's from one of my friends pins, shes got a ton of them. But I love that one.
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Posted: Wed Aug 23, 2006 6:56 am
I'm 13 and going into eighth grade too, and i used to be christian, inheretly, but im an atheist now, simply because i don't like the idea of god, but that's you. I'm bi and not out either, so i say if you want to come out just live life like you want to and if anyone asks you point blank tell them, but you might want to tell your parents over dinner or something, because that might be a nasty shock if you dont tell them... I mean if your son, who is Christian and you thought was straight brought home a boyfriend.. that might get awkward.. plus you should tell your really close friends, and see how true they really are..
Ok im going to stop now but, good luck!
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Posted: Mon Apr 23, 2007 5:04 am
Nothings easy my friend especially coming out and at such an age its almost fearful, i told all my friends i was bisexual and a month of abuse came and went. I was glad i got out to my friends.
The whole christian things shouldn't be a problem, if god made us should he not accept us?
after all men were created in the image of god! if gay people are wrong in the eyes of god, then god is wrong as much as we are. i hope that helps your relgious issue
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 5:59 pm
Love is love, period - it shouldn't matter whether it happens to be with another guy, or with a girl, it's still love and it still matters to you. No one should judge you for that, and if they do then... well.... ninja .... set the ninjas on them.
Nah, seriously, it shouldnt matter to your friends - if they get pissy about it, tell them you're still the same person you've always been, and that wont change.
Probably all stuff you've heard before... meh. Good luck.
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