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| Should I tell my GF that i am gay |
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| No, she will hate you forever and tell all your friends |
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 Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2006 8:29 pm
I am gay-ish (I'm a 4 on the kinsey scale) and have known since i was 11-12ish and yet i tried to get Girlfriends the one i am currently with i have been with for 8 months (the 31 wil make it 9) I love her dearly and still have fealings for her Thus i hate lieing to her. I fell now is the time to say some thing. I know that its best i tell her rather then her find out another way. (she almost did today*) I plan on seeing her tomarrow and i want to know if i should tell her.
Pros:
No more lieing
I can talk to her brother who is also gay (not to hook up but just for some one to talk to)
Not fealing guilty when she makes jokes about us haveing sex
Cons
her breaking up with me
hurting her (I am the 4th BF of hers to be gay)
Im really stuck at a stand still. any advice would be great!
*whlie fixing my myspace i put on there that i was gay and i gave her my account name and let her mess with it. she never asked about it till i made the comment about her lieing about her age so ofcorse i had to lie again.
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Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2006 8:46 pm
Eh I say tell her and get it over with. But Im wondering, you said you still have feelings for her but you just wont have sex with her? Is that what you mean or are you leaning more towards bi? Cause if you love her and still want to be with her maybe you could just tell her than you like men too and the secret had been bothering you.
But if you dont have feelings for her, it's better to just end it as soon as possible so you wont be leading her on. The sooner you end it, the sooner her heart will mend.
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Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2006 9:07 pm
AkureiKnight Eh I say tell her and get it over with. But Im wondering, you said you still have feelings for her but you just wont have sex with her? Is that what you mean or are you leaning more towards bi? Cause if you love her and still want to be with her maybe you could just tell her than you like men too and the secret had been bothering you. But if you dont have feelings for her, it's better to just end it as soon as possible so you wont be leading her on. The sooner you end it, the sooner her heart will mend. well its not that I fantise about her, or even think about havein sex with her like stright guys would but if i were in a situation i would have sex with her, and she thinks im a vergin, i told her that because other wise i would have had to tell her im gay and have had sex with another guy. but on the gay bi thing on teh Kinsey scale im a four thus i perfer guys over girls
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Posted: Wed Jul 19, 2006 1:18 pm
Twack AkureiKnight Eh I say tell her and get it over with. But Im wondering, you said you still have feelings for her but you just wont have sex with her? Is that what you mean or are you leaning more towards bi? Cause if you love her and still want to be with her maybe you could just tell her than you like men too and the secret had been bothering you. But if you dont have feelings for her, it's better to just end it as soon as possible so you wont be leading her on. The sooner you end it, the sooner her heart will mend. well its not that I fantise about her, or even think about havein sex with her like stright guys would but if i were in a situation i would have sex with her, and she thinks im a vergin, i told her that because other wise i would have had to tell her im gay and have had sex with another guy. but on the gay bi thing on teh Kinsey scale im a four thus i perfer guys over girls Well still, if you love her and want to be with her just explain that you like guys and that you still want to be with her. I would tell her about not being a virgin too... it's always good to be open with someone, especially if you're going to stay with them
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Posted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 10:06 am
Ah. Thats a sticky situation there.
Well its kinda sad that her past four reletionships didn't work out for that reason but you said you love her, right?
If she's willing to accept her brother then I would hope to think she would accept you.
When and if you do tell her you should make it clear that you still love her and want to be with her if you do at the time you come out to her.
Also, about not being a virgin, I think thats something you should also admit to her. You don't have to say you've had sex with another male before, but be open that you have had sex before and your no longer a virgin. If I would her I'd rather you tell me than just thinking you are.
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Posted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 11:49 pm
I've been in relationships where the other person lied to me and it's never a nice feeling. I always forgave them for lying as best I could, but the longer the lies went on the harder it was. Same with number. I'd come clean before anymore lies come about because of this.
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Posted: Sun Aug 06, 2006 6:53 am
Oh sorry this isue is resolved i told her, if a mod sees this please close it mrgreen
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