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First off, let me say that I am adopted, and when I turned 19 decided to try and find my birth parents. Long story short, I found my father, and then much later my birthmother. She's told me more of the backstory of what it was like, so you girls who are pregnant and trying to decide what to do, or even are considering, please continue reading.

My Bmother (birth mother for short) really did love the man she was with at the time, my Bfather. I believe she was seventeen when she had gotten pregnant with me in April of her senior year of high school. This was despite her using the pill and him using a condom correctly. As her mother had the kind of rule of 'you get pregnant, you're on your own' going on and had told them that ever since she was a child, Bmother never told anyone at home. She packed up her things with Bfather, who was moving to Reno for a better job.

Well, the better job ended up stiffing him for a check to buy furniture with. Bmother tried to find a job but couldn't, and they had to live on his salary. They ended up sleeping on the floor for six months before Bfather's brother came up, bringing a waterbed but never saw Bmother. And then when it came to delivery and everything, she said it was the hardest thing thing she ever had to do, to give me up.

Then they headed back home, and the news came out to both families. And you know what her mother said? The one that would have kicked her out of the house?

"Why didn't you tell me? We would have helped."

Several family members, including Bmother's sister and uncle to this day still feel guilty about not being able to help them, for not knowing. I know because I am in regular contact with them as well as my birth parents, whom I get along great with. =D

I know we (my Bmother and I) have told people this story in real life and it helped them, so I thought I would share it here.

I found this to be really heartfelt, but I do agree with wotfan, that last part where you're saying '
I know we (my Bmother and I) have told people this story in real life and it helped them, so I thought I would share it here.' really sounds like you're being anti-abortion. I know that may not be how you have meant it, because a lot of people who have unplanned pregnancies go through all the questions, especially 'should I adopt, abort or keep'? and 'Am I making the right decision putting him/her up for adoption?'
It's nice to hear a good story from adoption, though we must remember that that may not always be the case. I'm glad that your adoption has had a happy ending though smile
But yeah, reword the last bit a little, something like 'we told our story to lots of people, and it helped them make the right decision for them'. Whether they still aborted, or adopted or did keep the child, you're at least saying that you gave them an idea that it could still be a happy ending smile

I am also adopted