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 Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 8:41 pm
My girlfriend broke up with me over the phone today.
Yesterday, at her house, we got very physical,and she seemed to have no problem with it, even when I asked her. Today, she says that she doesn't want our relationship to continue because of that, and that something is "missing". I asked her what it was, but she says she can't explain it.
Now, I didn't force her into a compromising posistion that day, and I told her that we can set boundries to prevent ourselves from going any further, but she said "No..."
She said that a little bit of this might ahve to do with her fluctuating views of her own sexuality, but she's not sure if that missing piece is a part of that. (I'm a guy, byt he way)
I really think I love her, and it's tearing me apart. Our relationship seemed nearly perfect: we talked about what problems we had, and how to fix them, and we did. We've been through a lot, but now it's come to this?
I'm crushed. She was my motivation to succeed and make my life better, and now she says she wants to leave?
Help. Do I let her go for a while so she can sort this out? I'm not going to harrass her with calls or anything, but I want to stay in touch.
Ugh. I hate this feeling.
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 8:48 pm
Please.
Dude. Don't commit suicide.
Now then. About your problem.
It's dangerous, but if I were in your shoes, I'd try and give her some space, seperate for a bit, and see if that changes anything. In doing this, she could change her views on you/herself, either by herself or with someone else. But in the end, we both know it could be for the best.
I know that sometimes it seems that they're "the only one" for you. But there's always someone perfect for you in the world. And what most people don't realize; there are several of those people. So if the first one doesn't work, you look and look for the second, and so on and so forth.
I really hope everything works out for you Scent, I really do. She seemed like the perfect one. Sometimes you just wish it was so simple that they could just tell you what that "missing" thing is. But this is life; it's never simple. Just gotta keep working on.
...I hope this helped you. D: Either literally or just emotionally.
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 8:57 pm
I wasn't planning on killing myself.
I'm too mcuh of a p***y to go through wih it, and there are better uses of my time.
Thanks for the encouragement. It really, really helps.
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 9:09 pm
Give her some space, remember she is human like you, she was born and has a different life and such, you cant expect her to understand completly how you feel at the time
We live in the moment, its impossible to predict the future, but you can change your present a infinite amount of times, its just up to you how you do it, point meaning you need to make choices that would help you feel better, and keep her by your side, you want her or another to love you as much as possible, but in order to do that first, you need to understand how they look at everything, how they understand you, etc
Just dont worry about whats going to happen, just worry about setting everything right now
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 9:17 pm
Phone breakup. Owch. Those suck.
Space, and some time, but don't completely abandon her. Give her time to figure things out, and make an attempt to still be friends, even if you can't work it out and get together again. But always be honest about how you feel. That's about all the advice I know to give at the moment.
I think you scared Elite. The title resembles that of a forum post of a kid on Myspace who comitted suicide a ways back and was the topic of many a spoof for a while.
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 9:58 pm
They say it all the time, and it's kind of lost its meaning, but sometimes it might be her, not you. She just might be confused with the whole sexuality deal. What's missing? Who knows. I wouldn't buy her presents or give her a lot of attention though. Time and space are two very important things.
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 10:31 pm
UFO tofu I wouldn't buy her presents I recommend never buying presents for any girl, ever. We will all be better off that way.
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 10:34 pm
Aeris Esper UFO tofu I wouldn't buy her presents I recommend never buying presents for any girl, ever. We will all be better off that way.
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 11:05 pm
Your not leaving Gaia are you?
cry
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 12:24 am
I agree. Space and time is whats best. Dont harass her with a load of phone calls, but dont disappear. You love her, and if its true love. She'll come back. 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 5:00 am
Phone breakups are ******** the worst. Sorry for you dude, but I really don't have any good advice. But then again, what's new?
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 7:53 am
Aeris Esper UFO tofu I wouldn't buy her presents I recommend never buying presents for any girl, ever. We will all be better off that way.
gonk
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 9:02 am
No, I'm not leaving Gaia.
Thanks for all of your advice. It means a lot.
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 9:15 am
Hm. I've never had a phone break-up.
Though I am one of those pussies who, when I get tired of my girl, I just start avoiding her and s**t until she finally realizes I don't like her. Lol
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 9:18 am
That sucks something like that happend to me not to long ago so I remeber how it feels.
My best advice is try to hang out whith your friends go to the movies go out to eat something. and call her every now and thene just dont over do it
I hope that help iam horrible whith words and can never word anything right sweatdrop
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