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I'm 16 years old and my boyfriend is 16 years old also. He'll be 17 next month. So here's the story.

Please don't say I'm stupid or anything ok? I think I figured that out already.

So around the 3-7 of July we had sex.

The week before that we had sex a few times also.

All unproteted.

The week before that I had my period.

And now I'm scared I'm pregnant.

I haven't been discharching or anything for a while now.

I'm very scared.

I'm only 16 and I don't think I can handle a baby right now.

And I don't want to have an abortion.

I'm agaisnt that.

Please help or PM me.

Please, please help me.

I dont think I can say anything to you except get a test.

First off, yes you are an idiot for not having protected sex, but I'm not one to talk either. I'm almost eighteen and I had my daughter when I was sixteen. Get a test done to make sure you are pregnant or not. If you're not, USE PROTECTION IN FUTURE! *coughs*. If you are pregnant, you've got a few worries;
Telling your boyfriend
Telling your parents
As you're against abortion, whether you'll have the baby adopted or you keep the baby.
How you're going to financially support yourself if you do keep him/her.
Education? Are you still in school, or left school, and what are you gonna do about that/further education?

Now, it's a doable thing. Though I have support from my family and my partner (my daughters dad). It's a hard road though. Children aren't easy, even though other people make it look as such. I hope your parents are supportive, and the father as well.
If you do decide to keep it, there are plenty of help organisations around for people in your situation. You also have people here you can talk to. I am also willing, as I have said about five times in the last 24 hours to people in your situation, to give advice and guidance if you so wish to take it up. Adults who have gone through it can help, but getting advice and suggestions from people your own age seems to be helpful than those who were older parents. I think it's because there's a difference, there certainly is a difference in age and life experience.

Get the test done first, make damn sure whether you are or not, and go from there smile It's the only thing you can do really at this point.

First off - don't panic. Worrying about it may make your period come later than usual and make you panic more.

Arrange and appointment with a doctor or get a home pregnancy test. If you go with the home test, remember to follow the directions exactly, otherwise you may get a false reading.

If it turns out that you are pregnant, I want you to think very hard about WHY you are against abortions. Chances are that a lot of the things people have told you are not actually true (at least, this is my experience dealing with young girls who are against abortions). If you like, you can PM me your reasons and I can give you some good information that will help you make a a decision (not necessarily to abort, but just so that you know the truth about all your options). Part of this decision involves you considering your youth and how you will handle a pregnancy (not even just the childcare part, just the pregnancy itself). If you are pregnant, make sure you see your doctor very often because young teens don't have the best bodies for bearing children and your risk of complications will be increased. Also, consider what you will do for school. Does your High School have the facilities to care for a pregnant student? Will you be able to take breaks, walk around, eat, lie down, go to the bathroom, etc... as often as you need to? How does your school feel about teen-pregnancies? Will you be kicked out? Will you be teased?

There's a lot to consider here. Your first step, however, is to find out if you even are pregnant at all. Your next step will be to talk to your parents and try to figure out how much support you can expect, regardless of the choice you make.