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 Posted: Fri Jun 30, 2006 9:47 am
Our family was never big on going to church, we believed but never went. I started going with a good friend of mine almost every Sunday. She also introduced me to a church camp near the beach. I still go to this day. I guess you could say I was one of the more religious people in the family.
A few years ago,my mom's friend invite her to go to church with her. I thought that was cool and she really enjoyed it. Later my mom started getting...how should I saw...crazy about religious stuff. I dont go to church everyday or a youth group because they only one I liked was where our house was which is a pretty far drive. My mom wanted me to go to the youth group that was at the church she started going to. I went a disliked it. People were kind of rude to me and I learned nothing. When I got home I told my mom I didnt like it. She got really mad and said I HAD to go because if I didn't I was only being "half christian". That really made me mad.
I started going to her church every Sunday. I never had that welcome feeling when I went. I didnt really like it. Durring Super Bowl Sunday the whole service was on the bug game. But my mom would make me go. Me and my mom have a lot of fights. One day while we were fighting she said," And you're going to church tomorrow!" Like using church as a punishment.
She hadn't done it much lately. But a month ago she said I couldn't go to my camp because I never learn anything and just go for fun. Ive tried explaining to my mom about the camp and tried to get her to watch a video with my camp on it. She never cared. Luckly Im going in August lie planned. Sorry this is so long. I was just wondering what you guys might think about this. Am I the one thats wrong or is it my mom?
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Posted: Fri Jun 30, 2006 2:00 pm
I don't think that you're at fault with this whole thing. I think your mother is at fault. if you aren't welcome in a church then you won't feel the presense of God with you. You mother just doesn't see that since well in this church she goes to SHE feels the God presense there while you don't. Congregations are pretty much alike. if you feel welcomed then you are willing to learn God's Word and accept his presense. But if you don't then you find it boring and won't want to learn.
Your mom shouldn't use church as punishment either mainly because Church shouldn't be punishment. Church is a learning tool to worship in fellowship with other people. I personally don't go to church but I know what I'm talking about because the church that I did go to I felt welcomed. Even the churches that my ex and I used to go to... course I didn't understand but only when he translated but I was welcomed anyways.
You have to find the church that is right for you. In a way you have to find that place were you can learn from God's presense to your liking for we are all different and congregations are all different as well.
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Posted: Sat Jul 01, 2006 1:18 am
Honestly, I'd think your mother should be encouraging you to follow your own path. Sometimes it's hard to find a church that you feel so at home in. I've moved around a lot with my family, so I've been to serveral different churches. There are some I loved and they felt like a second family to me, and some I used to dread going to. If you've found one that teaches you more about God, provides good fellowship, and makes you feel closer to God, that's amazing and you should just continue with that. It's very short-sighted of your mother to want you to walk her path and not seek out your own.
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Posted: Sat Jul 01, 2006 5:34 am
Shymia I don't think that you're at fault with this whole thing. I think your mother is at fault. if you aren't welcome in a church then you won't feel the presense of God with you. You mother just doesn't see that since well in this church she goes to SHE feels the God presense there while you don't. Congregations are pretty much alike. if you feel welcomed then you are willing to learn God's Word and accept his presense. But if you don't then you find it boring and won't want to learn.
Your mom shouldn't use church as punishment either mainly because Church shouldn't be punishment. Church is a learning tool to worship in fellowship with other people. I personally don't go to church but I know what I'm talking about because the church that I did go to I felt welcomed. Even the churches that my ex and I used to go to... course I didn't understand but only when he translated but I was welcomed anyways.
You have to find the church that is right for you. In a way you have to find that place were you can learn from God's presense to your liking for we are all different and congregations are all different as well. my thought exactly *whispers to meeeeeow* wise woman lol ^^ the reason why there are so many different denominations is because people weren't satisfied witht the way catholics practiced their faith. If you liked the church you went to before, then you should look for the same TYPE of church, baptist, assembly of God (pentecostal), methodist, so on, and so forth. thas my advice, you should also pray about this. and instead of screaming, just try to sit down with your mom and explain to her how you feel, and tht you dont feel the presence of God at that church.
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Posted: Sat Jul 01, 2006 12:27 pm
Pray about this, if you have already tried talking to your mam just try your best to explain how you feel about her church and all the different things you mentioned. But it's best to stay patient and calm throughout it.
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Posted: Sat Jul 01, 2006 10:55 pm
Talk to your mother. Calmly explain to her what ou have just shared with us, that you do not feel welcome at your/her church and that you believe that she is using God and Church as a punishment.
And, if that doesn't change anything, than the only advice I can give is that our christianity is something strictly between God and ourselves. No matter what anyone says about just 'how christian' you are all that matters is the opinion of God our Father.
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Posted: Wed Jul 05, 2006 9:06 pm
Wow, okward situation. Lets break up the point of church for a sec. One reason we go, is to praise God. Another reason is to learn the Gospel. Correct? Those are the main reasons.
People learn differently, and understand things different ways from different people. When you look at it that way, Its no wonder why there are so many different churchs out there. God knows we're different and that we learn in different ways.
Now, wouldnt it make sense for you to go to a church that you can recieve something from? Rather than a church you dont? Im not saying that all churchs you dont get are bad. Its just that you may not relate to thier way of teaching, while some other people may relate to that same church. People are just different. I strongly believe in people making a good effort to search for the church that they can learn and grow in christ for that reason.
I know you may not ever be able to convince you mom of this. But I really believe that you need to go where you can learn. It crucial for you to learn about God.
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Posted: Sat Jul 15, 2006 11:02 pm
We go to church to recieve God's word and to worship God. No other reason. Not at all for religion.
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Posted: Tue Jul 25, 2006 1:49 pm
i dont know whos in the rong i would have to be there to tell you for shure but from what i read it seems like your mom is the one being rong but i am going to a new church to and theres berly any kids there and stuff but i think its also your part to becouse you should go to learn and just focis on God thats what i do when i dont like a church. but your mom should not use chruch as a punishment thats not right
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