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Hi! My dad keeps pushing me to get lap-band surgery done. on the way home from the gym, he told me that he scheduled an appointment for me next week with a doctor. He had mentioned it previously but I never agreed.

I try to go to the gym 2 times a week but I'm still fat because I love to eat alot. sweatdrop heart

I might be forced to do it. His new wife hates me because I'm so fat and it is "destroying the marriage". What should I do???
http://www.spotlighthealth.com/morbid_obesity/anns_story/transcript_clip10.html
is a site I found with other people who are doing the surgery. Does it look safe??? crying

The lap-band is safe, yes - but chances are it won't be covered by insurance because it's reversible.

It's as safe as any surgery, really. It's a lot better than gastric-bypass.

If I could afford it, I'd get it... but I think your dad's a bit of an a** for pushing you into it. neutral

I'm not full of much useful informations, but I can probably answer any more questions you have.

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WTF?!

How can your weight be destroying there marriage?! Wtf is your father thinking, siding with her instead of you? That's just not right *snarls*

Honey, I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this...the lap band is much better than gastric bypass, but NO ONE should force you to get surgery done.

Do you have close relations with your mother or an aunt or uncle? Because if your step mom is that controlling and your father does what she says without question, things could just get worse for you...perhaps it's time to figure out whether being there is the best thing for you, or whether you should move in with someone else.

Good luck to you honey *huggles tightly* heart

What the hell? Your father is....*sigh* Well lets just say that if I tell what I really think of him right now, I'll be banned off out of the SnS and off Gaia most likely.

I agree with Tessie, Living with your father may not be the best choice for you. If you have no other relatives that you'd like to live with, see about maybe a close friend.


Eat like theres no tomorrow just to piss your parents off. Not the smartest thing to do, but its what I've been pushed to do with my dad. He doesn't like a lot of stuff about me, so I do those thing and flaunt them, just to piss him off.


There's no way that your weight could effect their marriage. Not unless they're extremely superficial pompous jackasses and are ashamed that you're fat, like my dad is. Like Mimisi said, It can't be effecting things unless they want it to.


I'm not sure if the surgery is safe or not. I've seen commercials and all it leaves me with is the mental image of a giant rubber band constricting my loverly fat. But since its adjustable, It's more like a belt. =/ I dunno about you, but surgery is a permanent thing, in my opinion. It strikes me as odd thats its reversible and adjustable. ^^" But medical technology is extremely advanced.

Don't let them force you into anything you don't want to do. Thats how people get raped......and, in this situation, lap-banded ^^"

Dwarf's right about any surgery being dangerous. A humor columnist (Dave Barry if your curious) once had a "routine dental procedure" that caused him to nearly bleed to death in the waiting room.

Mimisi agrees with you 110% sweatdrop

BWA?

I would suggest against this. You said you like being fat, you shouldn't ******** change yourself just to appeal to your superficial step-mom b***h. I could understand if it was a change of dress, but this is SURGERY we're talking about. You're going to pay money, and go to sleep, and have a strange man cut you open with a knife, play around with your innards, and then put you back together with sewing implements!

I also agree with Cerebral Ulcer. Weight change should always be done with long-term goals in mind.