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So, kiddos. I have come to a startling conclusion:
I trust people greatly, in hopes I won't get hurt, but it ALWAYS backfires somehow.
With the past boy I trusted, whom shall remain unnamed for several purposes, I thought things were great. I was the happiest I have ever been in my measly existance. Then, he told me that "he couldn't handle it anymore". My immediate thought was, "WTF? How did I mess up?" I find that i blame myself for everything. Now, that boy is with someone considerably smaller than me, and I feel so used and like utter crap. gonk maybe I should just stop, and be asexual for the rest of my life.*considers*

Disscuss: How well do you trust people? Have you ever been hurt by things like that, or has fear in the love department ever made you do stupid things?

I find that I trust people a lot. I give anyone and everyone a chance. But as soon as you prove that you are untrustworthy, you're gone. I do give second and even third chances. I'm even willing to work things out if a person wants to. But you have to actually prove that you are worthy of trust again. Not too many hoops to jump through and people have said I was too forgiving and too trusting at times. But I don't like to be fooled and I don't like liars. But don't sweat it when people fool you. Mark them as untrustworthy, give them another chance if you feel like it, and then let them go. You'll save a lot of worrying that way. 3nodding

I used to trust really easily. I don't, anymore.. I've learned my lesson.

I tend to blame myself for everything, though. Even if there was NO way at all that it could have had ANYTHING to do with me... nah, it's all my fault.

I find I trust people too much ^^" If someone wants to borrow a dollar, I let them. If someone tells me to run into traffic with them I trust them........hell I will trust someone with my life easily ^^"

But some people have broken my trust so it is abit less then it used to be, but I trust MOST people easily enough

When I was 14 my father saw how upset I was. He took me to his office, as he was a teacher of my high school. I was upset that my boyfriend had cheated on me, not once, or twice but a few times. I had been completely oblivious to it, and someone else had told me, and it's then that I noticed his smugness and how some of the girls laughed behind my back. I didn't mean anything to him, I was like a toy. Something he played with when he had interest. I bawled.

My father said to me that I was beautiful and he couldn't see that because he wasn't worthy enough. He was an idiot and a fool and that I shouldn't cry because I shouldn't give him the satisfaction of letting him know he hurt me. He wasn't worth my tears.

It can be hard to be trusting after something like that happens, but I don't think it's unreasonable to want to see the best in people, to want to try and trust. We are guarded when we don't trust others, and it's hard to know who is who when you have walls between you. It means you get hurt more often, but it also means you're being true to yourself and would rather see what is postive in the world and not what is negative.

Why limit yourself because of what happened with him? Be happy, and while happiness doesn't always last, neither does hurt or sadness. Why not look to the positive?

That's just like me...I've got a LOT of emotional baggage and have gone through a lot of hurt/being backstabbed, so although I'm a friendly lass upfront, it doesn't mean I trust you...it takes awhile for someone to earn my trust, and even when I start to trust someone, it's never 100%...I've just been burned too many times to trust someone completely.

I'm loyal as all heck and will do as much as I can for a friend, but I won't go totally out of my way for someone like I once did.

lol...yeah, I'm pretty sure we are seperate people whee

For some odd reason, I can't argue with that... heh...