Shantail
Hello, My name is Jessica. I had a miss-carage before and it broke my heart, but then i thought about it, i was kinda glade because i was to young. 4-5 years later i had a baby named Julia. She is the world to me.
1) Do u plan to live with the guilt that u killed a living thing that has done no wronge.
2) You should do what u think is write considering you could be a mom, even if you are not ready for it, you tend to not change anything for it.
I love being a mom, i wouldn't change it for the world.
3) You can make it with out that boy, if your parents love you, they will respect what you want, even if the parent doesn't like it, they will learn to live with it and later they will be greatful for there grandbaby.
If they din't like your descision, they can't stop you for what you think is write. They don't have that power, only you do.
If you have any other questions you can ask me. I've been through alot.
P.S. The best thing to do is go to a Center For Women's Health nearest to you, they will give you a pregnancy test and if you are they will tell you anything you need to know. Even birthcontrol if you are not, and if you are they will help you in anyway that they can.
A few things I'd like to touch upon quickly.
1) She shouldn't "kill something that has done no wrong"? That's pro-life, and as per guild rules,
back it up or don't say it at all (same goes for pro-choice too, for those who are wondering). No one is to guilt anyone else into getting an abortion or doing otherwise. It is the individual's decision, not ours.
Many people can argue for either side of the abortion debate, but this isn't the place to do it. Go look through Extended Discussion if that's what you're in the mood for.
2) If she's "not ready to be a mom", then she shouldn't have to be one. She should have the option of not wanting to be a mom if she's not ready for a baby. She also has the option of adoption, if she chooses to go through with the pregnancy.
And just because you were ready to be a mom at 17 or 18 or whenever doesn't mean she is, or that the next pregnant teenager is. While it's great you made your own choice and are happy with it, please don't generalize.
3) There are some people who don't come around to the fact that their child is becoming a mother. Some people risk being kicked out of the house or cut off from their family for getting pregnant. I know in this guild somewhere, there's a 16 year old expecting twins who just got kicked out of her house by her parents. So yes, for some people there ARE consequences for coming forth and telling their family "I'm pregnant".
Another possible problem of admitting that she's pregnant to her family is that they may choose not to support her. So she might not get the emotional nor the
financial support that she needs to raise the baby, go to school after, get a job, pay for someone to watch the baby when she's out, etc. If her family falls into this category, then these are possibilities that she needs to seriously consider before she decides what to do about her pregnancy.
Lastly, if she chooses to go through with the pregnancy but not stay with the father, she can choose to go after him for child support. While it'd be admirable for the two of them to stay together with the baby, there's no point in forcing a relationship that no longer exists from what she's described. She can't force him to be in the baby's life, and he has the choice to walk away. But that's something they'd need to discuss together, regardless of Dreamer's choice.
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