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Al right I started this because i need advice. My best friend is getting married. I don't think she's known him long enough to be engaged to him already. I want to say something but she's very touchy about certain things especially her love life. zI dont want to hurt her feelings, or ruin our friendship, what do i do?

Criticising somebody's choice of a life partner is always a bad move. (Especially if you say she's touchy!) You can tell her 'to slow down' only AFTER she realizes it herself. Otherwise you'll just make things worse.

You might be right that things are moving too quicky, but that doesn't automatically make everything better, because we're very emotional. You might think 'oh she's my best friend she'll understand' but usually, anything negative/critical said about our friends is taken as an insult. I don't think you should EVER be that direct with somebody...because if she's as sensitive as me, she'll remember it for the rest of her life.

This is why it's hard to give advice, to be the 'bad guy' so to speak. Your best bet is to support her OWN choices and to continue doing fun things with her! After all, if she is moving too fast, she's only hurting herself in the long run and anything you say to her is just going to give her extra negative energy she doesn't need. You're her friend. Not her parent. She goes to you to escape and not worried about being judged.

So be supportive, uplifting, encouraging, and let her worry about her own choices. Angelic basically said the same thing, but in less words.

Hope that helps!

(Aren't gay men so wise? XD )

They've known each other for about 4 or 5 months i don't think they're living together she and i havebth been really busy the last month with or schooling and work so wwe haven't really gotten a chance to talk alot but she got engaged like 3 weeks ago so anyhoo. Am I jealous? I don't think so because she's like a sister to me heck she even dated my brother before this guy. I don't think i'll lose her but i really do need to talk to her and hope she'll value my input as a friend hmmm i should call her and we could have lunch together sometime soon.

Okay, I probably won't be much help with this, but I think the best thing is to follow murder's advice. Talk to her about their relationship and keep your opinions to yourself untill you know just how serious she is.

I myself have only been going out for 4 months. I've already, jokingly, talked about marraige. For my girl and I, we won't think about that untill she's finished uni, so in 3 1/3yrs. This is because there are things that we both want to happen while we are not married, like me wanting to be able to pay for our entire wedding and honeymoon and her wanting to finish her course and get a job.

I have a another friend who actually thinks she's a werewolf she's 18 and has been verbally abused her whole life her boy-toy, my other best friend, is 17 and would do anything to keep her so he embraces her belief. what do I do?

she knows what i think. i think she's off her rocker. i think she has a serious mental disease called lycanthropy, but i'm her only friend that either thinks it or tells her so.

I never suggest that you should ask some one out if they're out of your league. All it leads to is dissapointment. I would suggest you move on to a girl more your style, because there are pretty girls everywhere.