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I'm sick of pro-choicers making fun of us in their signatures.

I'm sick of pro-choicers putting words in our mouths.

I'm sick of the amount of disrespect coming from their crude remarks about us.

I'm sick of a select group of pro-choicers (not all of them, only about two or three) who think that by acting tough and bitchy to those who think differently than they do they're impressing other people, and looking "cool" because of it.

And that's all I have right now.

I have a confession to make.

.....I actually do hate women.

Okay maybe not HATE women but women sure do know how to touch a nerve that men seem incapable of. "Mean Girls" pretty much covered (and caricatured) it. They're gossipy and whiney and catty and secretive and materialistic and...ugh I can never be as comfortable talking to another female as I do a male.

That's just females as a generalization. Yes, I know a lot of women who are lovely human beings that I feel comfortable being with and a lot of men who are utter scum.

"Pete...you know I don't blame most of my troubles as a woman on men."

"That's because you blame them on other women."

...or at least the angry bitter feminist activists.

In a way I owe my renewed respect for the feminism to two people/organizations.

1.) Feminists for Life

2.) Debbie Stoller (but only to a certain extent)

For the longest time I always believed that "feminism is the silly idea that feminists were women" (found on a conservative T-Shirt) and I refused to be associated with that. My mother is just that...a mother. Granted she's a teacher too but she chose to become an elementary school music teacher (instead of a concert pianist) so that she could be a better mother. In fact, she is not ashamed to say that she would much rather quit her job altogether. She has five pieces of evidence to show that her life was not wasted in the home. We're all good kids...she is a DAMN fine mom.

Guess what? She's happy. I guess some of that rubbed off on us. My sister and never really considered living alone for too long after college. I just graduated and...it feels like getting a job and becoming self sufficient and financially secure is just a stepping stone to starting a family. If I can't take care of myself, how can I take care of someone else? We're all family-oriented people.

This is what I want. I like being compassionate and intuitive and nurturing and all of those other feminine traits. I like kids, video games, computers, slapstick comedies, romantic comedies and knitting. And if I am brainwashed then so be it. As far as my identity as a woman is concerned, I'd rather be happily stupid as a "failure to womanhood" than miserably enlightened trying to be a man.

So I thank FFL for valueing the role of the mother and recognizing the job to be one of the most important, thankless and undervalued roles in society today.

And Debbie Stoller for telling me it was okay to knit and sew instead of doing soccer and karate. The only thing "wrong" with doing "women's work" is because it is women's work. Sounds pretty anti-woman to me.

In the words of my mom...."Well DUUUUH!"

I agree with what Cyanna-call things womans work makes us sound more like slaves if nothing else. I like sewing (just not getting the needle suck in me sweatdrop ) but I also like sword fighting and martial arts and hate cooking, does that make me less of a woman cause of learning to fight and defend myself and hate cooking? No. I hate who people put me down for it and try to force me to cook (that doesn't help my fear of fire or make me want to cook moref anything it makes things worse and hate it more). Why do woman have to do somethings? Want I hate the most is when people ask my mom if I was domestic, wtf? I'm not an animal (well techically humans are animals but you get the idea), since when woman were house pets or slaves? That's what some people make it sound like

Also hate that in debates, people like to mudsling more then use facts and actually debating. I'm not anti-woman (though I dislike some cause some are really hurtful at times, sadly a lot of this cyanna said is sort of true. Growing up, the girls were alot meanier the the boys were though some were really nice as well) or anti-choice (just disagree with some choices, there is a difference.

Also dislike how the mix up zygote with fetuses often yet say were dumb.

Zyogote-cells pontentail human/baby, it might not attacth to the uterus.

Fetuses-cells,organs,muscles,skin tissue,ect..it is human/baby


this makes me feel abit better but still have alot of issues to work out.

Whoa.

Verbal bloodshed everywhere.

*was reading through Nethilia's thread in the Choicers Guild and saw countless brutal arguments*

That was terrible. Everyone was against each other. Everyone was fighting, bickering, and bitching.

Your bravery to take them all down at once amazes me, Kaiser. <3

But for all of you that went there and stood up for us and our beliefs on another battlefield, other than our own, I raise my glass and applaud you wholeheartedly.

I would have never had the courage to do something like that; ya'll have some nerve. Especially Kaiser, and KP.

Much admiration and respect to the both of you. I salute those who had the courage to dive, slow-motion, into a sea of Choicers, using logic, truth, and lack of bitchiness to get your points across.

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I think they are the ones that are closed minded (well a lot of them) for 1. they asume were all Christians, last time I checked I wasn't in a religion

2. they asume we're anti-choice, last time I check also I said they make their own choices (just disagree and let the law and if there is a God, deal with their choices)

3. say every female is a muderer everytime they have a period (hello, not all cells are living, some are dead and we can't always help it) or everytime people eat (both plants and animals are leaving but what other choices we have besides straving? We have to kill an animal or plant at times for food in order to live, fetsus you don't have to kill most of the time to live, there is a difference there.

4. that we don't care about kids/people after their born, how the hell do they know if we do or not? Do they spy or something? Giving money, food and clothes to people who need it sounds like caring to me. I don't always have it though, i'm not rich and have to take care of myself before I can help others (can't help others if I can't help myself)

And a bunch of other crap, they need to think about somethings first before they post.

The thing I just realized when talking to these people is that, they won't respect you back, they never will, so whats the use? I'm going to quit being the nice guy and be an a*****e... to an extent.

But still passive agressivness is quite fun.

Kaiser, you leaving isn't what I had in mind. Thank you for relaying my messages but I only did that so people didn't actually believe I tossed Talon out for no reason.

If you want to be there, please by all means be there. They like you so that's what we call an accomplishment. 3nodding xd

To Beware:

Your support is beyond words. Thank you.