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 Posted: Fri May 12, 2006 1:13 pm
Hello. My friend is cutting herself, she has been for a while. When she first did it, I thought it was a 'phase,' but now, it got worse. Everyday she is picking at them and they are getting deeper and deeper! She cut herslef so bad that it was bleeding ALOT and she thought she was going to die.She even has glass in her bookbag so if she feels the need she has to do it, she can do it anywhere, anytime! She will pick up ANYTHING sharp to do it. Plus, she wants to kill herself. She promised her boyfriend she won't do it. So now she is taking pills and drinking. I try to tell her what a mistake she will be making and I BEG her not to do it. She just gets really mad at me. She never got mad at me before.... I am scared.. And I can't tell someone like a counsleour, because it will go back to her and they will call her house with her parents and her dad said if she ever cut herslef, he would disown her. They have a VERY BAD relationship...
Please I need help! I am very scared! Is there anything I can do? I don't want my best friend to kill herself. I love her so much. I try to help her with words, but that doesn't work. She promised me she wouldn't, but she broke her promise to her bf, that she loves deeply, simply a friend won't be any different..I did a binding spell, but I feel like there should be more I could do to help her.
Please I need help...! cry
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Posted: Sun May 14, 2006 11:58 am
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There's nothing that you can do, you're too close to the situation as it is.
And a spell is not what you need.
You need to get her help, you need to rat her out. It is for her own good. She needs professional help. Tell someone from school. They can talk to her and arrange assistance for her without having to contact the parents if it is stressed enough that telling her parents is a bad thing.
Also relationships with parents always seem bad at your age. Parents will exagerate and say things they also don't really mean. I don't think that her father would disown her. I think that he would be angry but very concerned. I have high doubts that he would kick his daughter out of the house when she is at high risk of suicide.
You are an enabler though. You are not making her face up to the consequences of her actions. And sure you're telling her, begging her to stop but you are doing nothing about it. She may "hate" you when you first turn her in but after she's gotten her help she'll thank you for it.
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Posted: Fri May 19, 2006 5:11 pm
she's right, there's no spell that can help, ratting her out is the only way to help her, it may be hard but she'll eventually forgive you
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Posted: Sun May 21, 2006 1:06 pm
Maybe they are right but if you really want to try a spell try a simple binding spell binding her from harming herself and other around her...
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Posted: Sun May 21, 2006 1:08 pm
But you should try an intervention or something if she doesnt stop...get her parents and/or other friends together to try and talk to her.
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Posted: Sun May 21, 2006 8:25 pm
Day_Dreamer333 Maybe they are right but if you really want to try a spell try a simple binding spell binding her from harming herself and other around her... ~
Wouldn't a binding spell, you know, INTERFERE with her free will? : /
She needs help, real help, proffessional help. No amount of well meaning young fluffy wiccans are going to help her, and even if you're not fluffy, you're so young that your power hasn't matured yet and it's way beyond the skill level you're likely at (I don't believe in child prodigious witches). This is outside your sphere of magical influence and face it, it would be just plain wrong according to the codes that wiccans are supposed to live by.
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Posted: Thu Jun 15, 2006 9:15 am
trust me on this one, i know from experience, the only way to help is to rat her out
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Posted: Sun Aug 20, 2006 4:09 am
*sigh* okay..i'm going to tell you something. I do the same as her, i cut as well. I didn't think i had a problem and still kind of don't. But my friends who are close to me became worried. I had one friend who had gone through the same thing and he went to a counsilor and told them about me, he forced me to go even though i didn't want to. But it's for the best, i know that if i wasn't pushed into it then i never would have gone. It's the right thing to do.
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Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2006 1:21 pm
Get her help. She may be mad but she'll thank you. I am so thankful to my friends who did. I would have died. It's not just bleeding out that she's in danger from. Her wounds could get infected and because she doesn't want help they could cause death or make her have to get amputated. Her immune system is also really low because she is constantly losing blood. That puts her at risk for smaller illnesses like colds but also for bigger more dangerous things. Chances are that if she's cutting she also has some other probelms that you don't know about. You can't protect her and hope she doesn't die.
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Posted: Sat Jan 27, 2007 7:25 pm
you need to tell a councaler(sp?) it's all that's going to help i've had to do stuff like that myself, but it's all that's going to work, without the help she's more likely to harm herself or even commit suiside....i know this may soud horrid but maybe her dad disownig her is the best idea if thier relationship is as bad as it seem, getting her away may help part of the proble, but it's up to thopse who care about her (you) to show her that no matter how much she thinks she hates you because of it you still care for her and your doing this to show that you care for her, she'll figure out it's for the best eventually no matter how much it hurts now.
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