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 Posted: Sun May 07, 2006 10:03 pm
God save the lolita!
So many of us lolis have suffered greatly for the sake of the style.
What hardships have you overcomed?
What obstacles are you facing?
What keeps you going?
Tell us your story, maybe some can share advice.
I, myself, have fought through many battles all for the sake of lolita.
Ever since i discovered it, my mother disliked it.
I became obsessed with it; so much so, my mother took me to therapy.
She wanted me to stop dressing that way.
The therapist was completely on my side, and said I was adorable.
^_^
No matter what, my mom hated the style. No matter how much people reassured her that I looked fine, she wanted me to conform.
We fight over it still, but I have began to win.
Slowly I bring little things in, making them use to it.
Because I won't give up.
I almost did, though when my bosom friend was forbidden to see me.
Her mother wouldn't let her come over and play with me because she didn't like the way I dressed.
Everyone thought I wanted attention, but I didn't.
I wanted to simply be beautiful, like a doll.
I had to stop, I couldn't loose my friend, I had already lost one.
My mother is the most judgemental person imaginable,
I am her opposite in everyway.
Lolita has made me wiser, and more talented.
Because of it I have taught myself to sew, bake, the history of fashion, all about tea, and I've read many books because lolita inspired me.
I became much more polite and humble, and used manners everywhere.
It had so many wonderful effects on me, but my mother didn't see.
I'm still not able to dress to the fullest extent, but I am trying to earn the right to express myself.
I know some people who call anything with lace lolita.
They can wear whatever they want, and their mothers don't care.
It hurts, that they get what I can't have.
God save the lolita.
I want to be put behind glass.
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Posted: Mon May 08, 2006 1:00 am
This a pity post pretty much, and usually I don't want to tell about these kind of things in a public forum, as I feel that ranting is not really suitable... so I'll try to make it less of a rant and more of a story and could, perhaps, help someone else.
I was bullied in a rather cruel way in middle high, from when I was 12 to when I was 15. It made me a cautious person, and while in high school, I was rather scared of expressing myself with clothes, even though the bullying stopped there. I learned about lolita clothes in my first high school year - that makes it four years ago - but I just marveled it from afar, as I was still too scared to dress that way.
For the whole high school I dressed quite boringly, but as my graduation came closer, I maganed to get some time to sew (I had less classes during the day) and made myself some very basic lolita pieces. A j-rock band had a concert in town the next weekend. I don't like BLOOD (the band) or j-rock, so I didn't go to the concert, but I went shopping dressed lolita that weekend and the whole town was full of lolitas, kodonas and cosplayers! Then I decided that I could dress lolita if I wanted to and I'd had to courage to do it. Screw those bullies.
So, here I am. I nowadays dress lolita perhaps once a week, as I usually do not wear lolita to ordinary university lectures - it isn't really worth it, as you just sit on the lectures and the pretty clothes kind of go to waste ;__;. As lolita is a quite time-and effort-consuming fashion, I spare it for shopping, weekends and going out with my friends. But aside from lolita, my "normal" clothes have also evolved from my high school days, as I now wear skirts, more colours and overall I dress in a more flashy and girly way. You could call my normal style bright, colorful, sporty and slightly bohemian.
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Posted: Mon May 08, 2006 11:35 am
I don't dress in lolita even though I love the fashion. But right now I have bigger problems.
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Posted: Tue May 09, 2006 7:01 pm
My mom is starting to get worried because I'm starting to get serious about buying clothing online, and wearing them not only during conventions -- but all the time. Also, most of my new fashion designs are ALL centered around lolita.
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Posted: Tue May 09, 2006 7:52 pm
My mother thinks it's a 'perverse' fashion, she thinks wanting to dress like a child like doll forever is discusting and a strange way to behave.
She has constantly lectured me on how being lolita was selfesh because she beleives Lolitas revolve themselves around clothes and clothes alone.
I simply nodd and pretend I agree because she cannot control me, I am my own person.
The funny thing is, she later tries to get me to dress like one of the shallow chav girls who only care about appearance and getting boyfriends.
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Posted: Wed May 10, 2006 7:02 am
there's so many of these threads already going. Everyone gets picked on, who cares. if it's not for your clothes than it'll be for something else. You can rarely change someone's opinion so just suck it up and let them make fools of themselves.
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Posted: Fri May 12, 2006 3:51 am
My tale so far is my epic journey to obtain a lolita dress. I found one online that I loved, so then I finally got the courage to tell my mom. Gothic lolita, I did my best to explain it to her... So then I showed her a picture of the dress I want, she warmed up to it immediately and completely loved it. So I went online and couldn't find the site I found the dress on... So I finally found the site, cosmates, and realized that they aren't selling the dress anymore. My mom, overexcited as she was, then decided that she'd make me a dress alike it for my birthday. So we went to JoAnn's Fabrics, found material, and then went to look at patterns, but couldn't find a workable pattern that could be altered... So I am dressless, searching for a dress, or for a good, workable, pattern.
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Posted: Fri May 12, 2006 3:51 pm
Nanashi, I'll admit that your feeling towards lolita do freak me out a little. It might be a product of how badly your mom takes the whole thing, but you seem a little too passionate about it. You might want to take a step back so that you don't become a fanatic, which would really turn people off.
You seem really nice (as far as I can tell from this one post). Just be careful, the stress your mom puts you through might make everything -the whole situation- seem a little too intense. I think you were being poetic when you said, "I want to be put behind glass." but it did shock me quite a bit sweatdrop
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Posted: Sat May 13, 2006 10:24 pm
Nanashi, though I'm sorry you had to go through what you did...I think you are acting a little too obsessive over lolita, and that's what's worrying your mom and your friend's parents the most. Just my little input, though. ^_^;
For creating a black-and-white book with tons of Lolita designs in it for science class (don't ask.), everyone thought I was gothic and an attention seeking freak. Or, they went up to me and told me they thought my designs were adorable, and followed me around. Weird.
Far as my parents go, I'm asian, so my parents were already aware of Loli fashion...before me. Which shocked me.
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Posted: Sun May 14, 2006 3:42 am
Hehe, my parents had no clue of the lolita style until I told them... err... actually... I only ever told my mom, I never really did tell my dad....
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Posted: Sun May 14, 2006 10:49 pm
sweatdrop You are right, I am too obsessed. I can't help it.
One of the biggest reasons I've latched onto lolita is because I don't want to grow up. I'm still a child at heart, and so its terrible at resturants when they tell me I can't order off the child's menu. crying
Though I don't think I'll be a fanatic, don't worry. I don't talk about it all the time, and I don't relate every thing to it. I actually only talk about it online and with one or two friends. I keep my obsession to myself for the most part.
I have overcome most of this stuff now. My mom has grown use to it, and actually complimented by blue jumper! We have come to more of an understanding, and she realized it wasn't such a big deal. I only became so obsessed with lolita because it was so out of my reach. Now it is normal. I also started wearing sweet loli, which she likes tons better. I think what scared her the most was the word, "gothic." She thought I turned goth and was worshipping satan...>_> she's a bit paranoid about that kinda stuff. I hope i didn't scare you all with my obsessive nature.. sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon May 15, 2006 3:39 am
Heartless_Nanashi sweatdrop You are right, I am too obsessed. I can't help it.
One of the biggest reasons I've latched onto lolita is because I don't want to grow up. I'm still a child at heart, and so its terrible at resturants when they tell me I can't order off the child's menu. crying
Though I don't think I'll be a fanatic, don't worry. I don't talk about it all the time, and I don't relate every thing to it. I actually only talk about it online and with one or two friends. I keep my obsession to myself for the most part.
I have overcome most of this stuff now. My mom has grown use to it, and actually complimented by blue jumper! We have come to more of an understanding, and she realized it wasn't such a big deal. I only became so obsessed with lolita because it was so out of my reach. Now it is normal. I also started wearing sweet loli, which she likes tons better. I think what scared her the most was the word, "gothic." She thought I turned goth and was worshipping satan...>_> she's a bit paranoid about that kinda stuff. I hope i didn't scare you all with my obsessive nature.. sweatdrop
And my mom too got worried about the "gothic" part when I told her about the style.... that's why I in the end used pictures as examples and such to make her not worry. But then again, in my case, my mommy was worried that I was turning into a goth so...
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Posted: Mon May 15, 2006 6:25 am
I'm just the same! I'm graduating really soon, this is my last week of school...and I just want to be a kid forever! My mom understands, but I also barely dress lolita...I just work elements into my outfits smile
I'm glad you've come to an understanding with your mom and things are getting better!
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Posted: Mon May 15, 2006 9:22 pm
Heartless_Nanashi sweatdrop You are right, I am too obsessed. I can't help it.
One of the biggest reasons I've latched onto lolita is because I don't want to grow up. I'm still a child at heart, and so its terrible at resturants when they tell me I can't order off the child's menu. crying
Though I don't think I'll be a fanatic, don't worry. I don't talk about it all the time, and I don't relate every thing to it. I actually only talk about it online and with one or two friends. I keep my obsession to myself for the most part.
I have overcome most of this stuff now. My mom has grown use to it, and actually complimented by blue jumper! We have come to more of an understanding, and she realized it wasn't such a big deal. I only became so obsessed with lolita because it was so out of my reach. Now it is normal. I also started wearing sweet loli, which she likes tons better. I think what scared her the most was the word, "gothic." She thought I turned goth and was worshipping satan...>_> she's a bit paranoid about that kinda stuff. I hope i didn't scare you all with my obsessive nature.. sweatdrop Nono, not scary at all! ^_^ I think we all were just in awe of how seriously you took your fashion style.
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Posted: Mon May 15, 2006 9:33 pm
Lucky! The people at Denny's know me all too well, and won't let me order off the kid's menu crying (( I go there with people all the time after shows, we're all good friends with the waiter. ^_^ )) I really like their Dennysaurus chicken nuggets!
Lolita is a serious thing to me, because I look at dressing as an art form. Some artists would take a bullet for their art I'm sure. I wouldn't nessesarily take a bullet for a dress, but self espression is very important to me. I feel so much more confident when I'm dressed up, and that is important to me too.
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